Raghav's insecurities - Page 4

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

You have thought way ahead😆

Ok here are some things I definitely agree to.

1. Maybe Raghav should let Pallavi free. Free in the sense....to fyt her own battle. Cz this is her battle.

But then its not easy to see someone you love walk blindly into a trap. Its easier said than done. When you know the other person has wrong intentions , how can you just let go ?

2. Pallavi needs to pay heed to the advice that her loved ones are giving her......especially Sharda. No idea why she wont listen to any word of caution.

3. Yes der is slight possibility of Raghav going bck to being RR if he loses Pallavi.

4. Yes tracker thing must hv been a shock for Pallavi but doesnt she by now know Raghav or the extent he goes to protect someone ?

Agree with every you said, especially #1 and #4.

Originally posted by: Sunaina7

yes people can have different opinions about raghav but they need to understand that raghav doing all these things is being driven by his deep rooted insecurities and fearing that he is still unworthy of pallavi love. In one line all I can say is that he doesn't want to lose the one person that is pallavi who has brought back the love in his life. His loneliness has vanished from the time she has entered in his life. People all the time can't be in their super intelligent mode especially when their is a fear to their loved ones . He is hanging on to his life by a very fine thread that is pallavi love and companionship. He wants to protect this thread. even if he has to do some very silly and outrageous thing like putting track. If this thread breaks he will literally be lifeless.

He might be again on his foot after the speculated breakup but he will not remain the raghav that was smiling in today's photos shoot

I think in general, Raghav needs to not be obsessive about his relationships. He lets people get away with too much and just puts up with everything, e.g. with Amma and Keerti. He's so afraid of losing everything that he accepts every damn unfair behavior. Let's not even talk about him being frightened of making mistakes... This level of fear can be unhealthy in relationships where after a point he cannot be himself because he's always worried the other person will take things the wrong way and leave him. If the relationship is fickle then nothing can prevent it from fallling apart.

I know it's easier said that done. His loneliness was killing him all these years and now that he has had a small taste of family life he doesn't want to lose it. He cannot keep living in fear and guilt all the time. I know he's been rewired that way by his hard life but it doesn't mean that he can't slowly unlearn that. I hope with time he will give himself a fair chance too.

Originally posted by: Sunaina7

agree with your words

@bold : It is the rule no 1 of itv show that whenever an ex enters in the life of protagonists there should be a breakup or mini separation for some kind of tashan 🤣

personal opinion :I want this mini separation to happen because then only they will realise each other importance in life more so pallavi at the moment. They need to badly sort out their issues and prioritise their own relationship and happiness over others.

but I am keeping my hopes low because it is an itv show. at the last they will make pallu a saint and raghu a even bigger sinner

mujhe bhi ITV se isse zyaada umeed nahin hai so I will keep my expectations low to avoid being disappointed

You have penned down welly behind reason of raghav's insecurities to bring his terrible past experiences. In fact even if he never faced any tragic in his life I don't think any normal hubby would like to see his wife is running at any time whenever she gets call behind her ex hubby. & here raghav has multiple solid reasons to feel insecurity hence I don't find anything wrong in raghav's behaviour in this track. Rather I feel right now he should come back to his old avatar to punch back to the people who are wrong in their actions

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

As the story is progressing everyone is witnessing Raghav's growing insecurities. This insecurity is making him do mistakes now and probably more often in future. Inspite of such strong promises made to one another , one would think why is Raghav insecure?

Raghav had a difficult time growing up. Pain has definitely been a part of both Raghav and Pallavi's life but Raghav has had a more difficult life than Pallavi. Whatever situation Pallavi has been in , she always had people who loved and cared for her . But has dealt wid people leaving him since very young age. First he had to witness the brutal lynching of his Appa and his younger brother for which he was blamed by everyone including he himself. Then he was left all alone to fyt his demons by his only living family.....his mom and Keerthi. Even now he has not completely earned the love his sister.

When he found Pallavi , he found companionship. In her he found someone who tried to see the Raghav underneath the Raghav Rao. He has never considered himself worthy of her. It so evident when he says word like she "accepted" him. Yes she did accepted him wid all his flaws. And she is the one wid whom he has shared his deepest fears and root of his insecurities . How many times has he asked and requested her to stay in his life, to not leave him alone.......even when they were not in love. He changed himself ......so that she would choose to be wid him. So better to understand his insecurities over losing his "one" to her ex.

Not saying he is ryt but his deep seated insecurities over people abandoning him combined with his knowledge of the ulterior motives of Mandar is making him act out.

I agree that Raghav has insecurities and that his insecurities do not justify whether his actions are right or not! Him having trust issues and then not trusting Pallavi by tracking her is making him dig his own hole. It's true that being insecure may have caused him to act like this but it doesn't make his behavior right. I said this in another post, but Raghav seriously needs to figure himself out. He can't rely on Pallavi alone, that'd be unhealthy for their relationship. He needs to sort out his insecurities -- Pallavi shouldn't be doing that for him, considering she's already been through so much by standing by his side. Raghav needs to realize that his insecurities are his weakness atm and that's what Mandar is using to his advantage. I really hope he bounces back and turns on his Don-mode in front of Mandar so Mandar realizes who he's messing with. OR, he steps back and acts as Pallavi's aid. He tells Pallu the whole truth of what he knows about Mandar and then acts as her shadow as she fights her own battles.

@bold - Also, I respectfully disagree with this statement. We cannot compare the lives of two people like this. Pallavi has had her fair share of experiences and so has Raghav. Also, we, as an audience, don't even know the full story behind each of their lives! Raghav still has a betraying ex roaming around and Pallavi has a story about a death before her marriage. We don't even know why her marriage with Mandar really happened. (I feel like this has something to do with her dead best friend.) So I'd prefer we not compare their lives and say Raghav has suffered more therefore he deserves more sympathy and it makes more sense for him to have insecurities rather than Pallavi. I don't know if that was what your intention was but that's how I interpreted it. Sorry if I misunderstood you.

Originally posted by: fria319

Don't have much time to pen down lengthy thoughts ... but I think the main disconnect is that Raghav has not yet learned how to adequately tell Pallavi his insecurities & she has not yet learned how to pick up on them.

He said a little bit, but hasn't gone into further detail but at the same time Pallavi needs to learn how to pick up his behavioral cues. Not everything needs/should be said. It's a hard situation to be in because sometimes you do need to hear from your partner what they are and are not ok with - she cannot read his mind. However, his behavior is more highly agitated and upset when near Mandar - she needs to connect the dots more.

He says "go ahead and do your noble work", but she can't see how his tone is different or how he gets agitated anytime they're around Mandar.

It's also because they still don't know each other that well combined with the fact that the both of them think they know best. Raghav think he's doing the best thing by playing this challenge with Mandar on the DL and Pallavi thinks that all that matters is she won't ever develop an attachment to Mandar + she knows Mandar better than Raghav so why would she pay heed to any of his (or even Aayi's) concern. She can't even begin to think Mandar would want her - she blames all his statements on his memory loss, nothing else.

Couldnt agree more

Everything you said is correct. Just one thing dt Raghav has always been this way only. He never expressively says everything. Dts always been his character trait. You cannot simply change such things in a day or two. Its like being an introvert. You cant express introverts to suddenly become extroverts just bcz they are in love.

But in Pallavi's case.........she isnt picking up any clues or hints. She has alwys been the person who picks up on things fast but here she is not. Aayi toh has said her in clear words too but she keeps saying she knws better.

The thing abt both of them thinking they know betters stands absolutely correct. Also true is the fact that their relationship is just in the starting phase and is not strong yet. They need to work on it but instead they are working on other things .

Originally posted by: ILTHBEB

You have penned down welly behind reason of raghav's insecurities to bring his terrible past experiences. In fact even if he never faced any tragic in his life I don't think any normal hubby would like to see his wife is running at any time whenever she gets call behind her ex hubby. & here raghav has multiple solid reasons to feel insecurity hence I don't find anything wrong in raghav's behaviour in this track. Rather I feel right now he should come back to his old avatar to punch back to the people who are wrong in their actions

Thank you.

Yes I agree, even any person widout Raghav's insecurities will hv reasons to act out owing to the ways Pallavi is going out to help her ex husband . She needs to keep Raghav in mind before taking steps to help Mandar .

Originally posted by: nooriex

I agree that Raghav has insecurities and that his insecurities do not justify whether his actions are right or not! Him having trust issues and then not trusting Pallavi by tracking her is making him dig his own hole. It's true that being insecure may have caused him to act like this but it doesn't make his behavior right. I said this in another post, but Raghav seriously needs to figure himself out. He can't rely on Pallavi alone, that'd be unhealthy for their relationship. He needs to sort out his insecurities -- Pallavi shouldn't be doing that for him, considering she's already been through so much by standing by his side. Raghav needs to realize that his insecurities are his weakness atm and that's what Mandar is using to his advantage. I really hope he bounces back and turns on his Don-mode in front of Mandar so Mandar realizes who he's messing with. OR, he steps back and acts as Pallavi's aid. He tells Pallu the whole truth of what he knows about Mandar and then acts as her shadow as she fights her own battles.

@bold - Also, I respectfully disagree with this statement. We cannot compare the lives of two people like this. Pallavi has had her fair share of experiences and so has Raghav. Also, we, as an audience, don't even know the full story behind each of their lives! Raghav still has a betraying ex roaming around and Pallavi has a story about a death before her marriage. We don't even know why her marriage with Mandar really happened. (I feel like this has something to do with her dead best friend.) So I'd prefer we not compare their lives and say Raghav has suffered more therefore he deserves more sympathy and it makes more sense for him to have insecurities rather than Pallavi. I don't know if that was what your intention was but that's how I interpreted it. Sorry if I misunderstood you.

I agree that whatever Raghav did was wrong but he didnt do it bcz he doesnt trust pallavi. He did it bcz he doesnt trust Mandar and rightfully so .On top of dt he is scaref that people will take advantage of Pallavi's goodness and trusting nature......which is again very valid. Pallavi is has not only shut down her instincts around Mandar but she is also ignoring every bit of caution dt Raghav nd Sharda are throwing her way. She cant alwys be ryt no ? Why cant she take someone advice for once ?

And yes Raghav's insecurities are his weakness but So is Pallavi's naiveness. And Mandar is taking advantage of both. If the realtionship breaks.....the burden of it will be on both Raghav and Pallavi.....not Raghav alone. And I find his insecurities valid. Their relationship has just begun......its not dt strong yet that he wont be afraid of a storm . And a relationship is for both parties to upload. Pallavi keeps giving her old family more priority than her new one.....which is equally wrong.

Getting Mandar's memory back.....is not Pallavi's responsibilty but she is making it hers . And I find it extremely funny that Mandar has not even regained one important bit of past life but Pallavi is not seeing dt . Infact she is rejoicing in every useless and made up piece of memory the person claims to regain. She has literally shut her eyes to facts infront of her.Medical science has no definite cure for Amnesia. A person may take years or may never regain part of his memory .What if that happens wid Mandar ? Will Pallavi keep doin what she is doin for years on end ? And should we expect her husband and in laws to be just chilled out abt it forver and ever ?

About comparing past lives. See I dont know what the future of the show will show abt their pasts. I hv wrote on the basis of what we already know. I dont mean Pallavi had a better past but whatver it was , she always had people who loved her.....be it her brother , her frnds , Mandar or D family. She herself has said it time and again. But Raghav has always been alone ......since a very young age. There is something called being alone in a crowd.....maybe Pallavi experienced dt after her marriage ( MAYBE) but Raghav has been alone in a crowd and totally alone almost all his life. So I feel more for Raghav .Bcz dts where his fear of losing people stems for .

Pallavi has not been in dt position and so she doesnt understand his fears..

Baki abt dt accident in her past and whether or not Raghav had a GF who ditched him.......we will knw abt dt when the story comes to dt part....ever. But my comparison was not based on dese things.

Originally posted by: inlieu

I agree 100% with this. I've said before that this track is meant to teach Raghav that all his power, wealth, status, and efforts won't help him beyond a certain point. Not everything is in his hands and no matter how hard he tries to fight his fate, things won't always go the way he wishes them to.

He's not just afraid, he's terrified not just to lose Pallavi but also his family falling apart which isn't yet stable anyway.

He's worried that Mandaar might hurt Pallavi and he clearly doesn't have trust issues with her. Of course, for TRPs sake we might get some misunderstanding drama.

I feel he should just observe from a distance and step in only when necessary. Let him do his own thing and give Pallavi her space to make mistakes.

As for being terrified of losing family,
since the vat savitri, this has been the theme and raghav has only been behaving like an emotional fool and running around like a headless chicken. Its almost tiring to see him like this.. So i think he probably should take a step back and be analytical. Its true that pallavi is being emotionally manipulated so yes, he does have every right to protect pallavi and also defend his marraige but this is clearly not the way..

I think the mandaar fight week was one where raghav was calm and collected. till the scene where he technically defended his marriage.

Raghav is never going to learn. I mean like how many times over the short course of the show it has been fed to him that intentions dont count only actions and yet he keeps repeating the same mistake.. the writers will never let raghav learn at all.. infact no character is going to learn anything. If characters start learning then where will the same conflict keep coming up?