Member topic: Have you ever regretted any of your love interests? - Page 5

Originally posted by: SmittenKitten

yup, that's not even the half of it and I tried my best to keep it vague. it's definitely a lesson learned the hard way ... to never walk on eggshells with someone you're with and care about just so you don't upset or offend them.

Amen. No one is worth that especially if they don’t seem as in tune to what your feeling. Or even care what your feeling 😔

Originally posted by: loveandhope9204

I fell in love with someone once, that was nothing but deception. Smoke and Mirrors. They were not who they showed themselves to be. It was a Narcissist / Jezebel spirit.

Luckily, I sensed something was off and so, never went ahead with them into any relationship. But I was deceived for a fair amount of time, that they're absolutely wonderful and that they truly liked me. But it was all fun and games for them and all about attention.

Had it not been for my friends and family, I would have never been able to perceive the situation or recovered from the hurt of that deception.

Glad you listened to your instincts and dodged that bullet. I wish narcissists had it stamped on their foreheads or something so that people could stay away and save themselves the trouble.

Originally posted by: SmittenKitten

Glad you listened to your instincts and dodged that bullet. I wish narcissists had it stamped on their foreheads or something so that people could stay away and save themselves the trouble.

It was almost touch and go with the bullet :) Hurt a lot after knowing what he was all about. But yes, had I ignored my instincts, it would have been a case of the bullet hitting a vital organ and lodging there.😆 Fatal. Narcissists have destroyed so many lives. Here's the problem with them, they manipulate and become chameleons, so unless it's an individual that's highly attuned to instincts or their spiritual side, hard to get that revelation about them or make sense of the red flags. Yes - watch out for the red flags!

Originally posted by: loveandhope9204

It was almost touch and go with the bullet :) Hurt a lot after knowing what he was all about. But yes, had I ignored my instincts, it would have been a case of the bullet hitting a vital organ and lodging there.😆 Fatal. Narcissists have destroyed so many lives. Here's the problem with them, they manipulate and become chameleons, so unless it's an individual that's highly attuned to instincts or their spiritual side, hard to get that revelation about them or make sense of the red flags. Yes - watch out for the red flags!

Yeah, it's really easy to let them get to you if you don't have a solid sense of self. Another problem with narcissists is that they have a completely different narrative and might even think the other person in the relationship was the toxic one instead ... and them the victims.😆 They are experts at flipping the script and seem to establish an alternate reality of their own where they shift all the accountability to others. God save people from them!

Originally posted by: SmittenKitten

Yeah, it's really easy to let them get to you if you don't have a solid sense of self. Another problem with narcissists is that they have a completely different narrative and might even think the other person in the relationship was the toxic one instead ... and them the victims.😆 They are experts at flipping the script and seem to establish an alternate reality of their own where they shift all the accountability to others. God save people from them!

Oh yes. That's the case with malignant narcissists (overt/covert - both). Even those that are beginning to walk on that path to narcissism, will have the urge to master the art of flipping the script. Always on victim mode.

They're just very toxic people. One of the best way to recover from narcissistic abuse and the hoover tactic, is to memorize that those folks don't love you for who you are, but what you can do for them. Use and abuse ka doosra naam.😆

Originally posted by: loveandhope9204

Oh yes. That's the case with malignant narcissists (overt/covert - both). Even those that are beginning to walk on that path to narcissism, will have the urge to master the art of flipping the script. Always on victim mode.

They're just very toxic people. One of the best way to recover from narcissistic abuse and the hoover tactic, is to memorize that those folks don't love you for who you are, but what you can do for them. Use and abuse ka doosra naam.😆

So hard to tell who's just being stupid or who is an out and out narcissist, esp in today's self-obsessed generation, thanks to social media. I guess the difference is in the behavioral pattern but even that requires torturing yourself for a long enough time for them to show a pattern. 😆

No but I have always been single and never been involved with anyone in real, unless you want to count some nonsense online drama

Now, after 7.5 eternities, I can laugh about them. But truth is I always fell for wrong people and I fell hard. I hurt myself and my itty-bitty self esteem immensely and that too for no reason.

Did I learn anything from it? No, I didn't. I just accepted that I am not destined to get my love reciprocated. In the silent agony of my persistent defeats, I got married where my parents arranged the marriage and found the most loving and loyal husband.

I just feel stupid now.

My first love interest is my husband😆

I sometimes regret it citing the reason that he don't take stand for me but honestly speaking I don't regret much😳

Nope. Never regretted any of my relationships. Learnt a lot through those experiences. We continue to be good friends even now.