REAL LIFE reason of why I support Malini! - Page 2

Adi guy is the worst piece of work in this show. Just saying " I want to tell her the truth" doesn't make him a truth teller. If this guy is a authentic journalist guy, then, he should have called the gun point wedding as an atrocity against the girl child and dealt with as such🤬. It doesn't matter whether he accepted it as a real marriage or not, if the other person thinks it is real, especially when conducted under tribal rituals, then it is real. I guess out of arrogance and egoism, to show that he can't be tied down by this gun point wedding, he decided to take the plunge with Malini. I don't have any bones to pick about this. But, as a responsible journalist, isn't it his duty to abide by the law and do the needful before he tied the knot with Malini. Why did he not call out the ATROCITY? And then to use this atrocity to his advantage and do a " eenie, meenie, mynie, mo" ...., now I like Imli and therefore Malini's reactions to my actions are loathesome is the worst form of cowardice😡🤬 from his side.

The guy should be begging for forgiveness from Malini, instead his useless attitude towards Malini is disgusting. To show his cowardice to say the truth to her face, and hide behind false concern that in turn make her the culprit by "she can't take the truth",😡 is despicable. What is his plan then? What if Malini will remain the fragile being she is now forever? Is he going to desensitize her by engaging with a teenager behind her back or partially in the shadows enough for Malini to doubt and to know? What good is he doing to his so called " best friend" by prolonging the inevitable? 😡

I don't know guys, if any of you feel this. But, why does everybody in this how look the same age? I mean, the whole Adi guy's household, him, his mom, dad and his aunt and uncle, Anu, Dev and daadi, all of them look the same age. It is grating to hear similar aged people calling each other maa, papa, daadi and so on......🤢Is it just me who feels this way? 🤔

Imli is a child, so I don't have the heart to be harsh on her. I, so wish that the writers for once give her the right path😳 An atrocity was committed on her 😡by her tribe. Please call it as such. Don't make the child hold it as a sacred destiny. What if the same gun point wedding was committed with a nefarious child trafficker or with a very old guy ( I think of Adi guy is waaay too old for an 18 yr old ).? Would the marriage still be sanctimonious according to the writers? What if this crook has " fallen in true love" with Imli? Would that still hold? Or would they have shown Imli to be thrashing around for her survival?

But for Imli to take a moral high ground and say that if she did claim her haq, then Malin would have been left high and dry and unmarried is just plain repulsive😡 and to cheezy. Kya ho jatha, agar Imli claimed that she is the wedded wife BEFORE Adi committed his own brand of atrocity against Malini? Malini wouldn't have been in this predicament now. Don't give me the cockamamie story that Imli had somehow averted Malini's heartbreak😡👎🏼She has done no such thing, her inactions then and her actions now are only prolonging Malini's heartbreak👎🏼 This is as much as I am going to say against that child.

Imli is now in that romantic notion of " one marriage for life" due to her lack of exposure. Adi guy has her where he wants her👎🏼🤬. Who knows what happens to her emotions 7 years from now, when she broadens her outlook and has a chance to see the world? Can she also claim " true love" then to a differently interesting personality if so happens/ Or is she forbidden because now she is a " married girl"? Just some food for thought.......as the writers seem to be showing that it is OK to drop people you have committed yourself to if a " true love" comes along, as Prince Charles claimed " whatever true love is".........😡

OK, girls, I am done😃 I am at peace now. I am sorry, my friend, to use your space to write my twenty cents.....

Stay safe, stay masked and avoid crowds😒

Originally posted by: mili9

About Malini's mom and dad equation. I simply don't like the way they are portraying her mom, Anu. She is made into a vile, class conscious woman, rather than just have bitterness because of what her husband DID to her. She could be bitter, but doesn't have to be soo abrasive🤢. Nobody in real world will put up with that abrasiveness, no matter how much money she has.

Here, Adi guy's family is shown to be somehow all accommodating to Anu's tantrums. Why, I can't imagine😡Sometimes, I doubt if this is to soften Adi guy's family if they flip and go around coddling Imli . Adi guy can use the words to Malini " you are just like your mom"😡🤬 What an insensitive, condescending parallel to draw to a " best friend". After all, she is her mom. Can a husband call my mom as a distasteful person to my face? HELL NO😡 Can Malini call Rupi " what a miserable piece of work your sister is" to Adi guy's face? Would that be taken as an offence by a DIL? 🤬 Just asking......

Anu's character is completely loathsome!

But I think Aditya is mild in calling out that woman. Using those words on Malini, was his way of saying that she too has the classist attitude of her mom. I understand that no woman can take her husband talking like that to her face, but here mother in question is deserving to called out like that. I am sorry, but the countless amount of time that woman has insulted him and his family since the beginning of the show, let alone Imlie, Aditya has literally said nothing to her! Infact I Anu deserves a power pack round of humiliation by every character in show, except Dev and Dadi, because those two are her actual culprits and she vents out on everyone because of them.

I am sorry, but if I was in Aditya's place I would have broken off with malini long time back, because of her ill mannered mother alone.

Originally posted by: mili9

Good morning girls and boys !!!!

Sorry Sunshine, for your aunt's experience. Whether we like it or not, perspectives do change based on our past experiences, outlook on life and where we are in life at the moment. More power to your aunt👍🏼

Hope all of you are staying safe in this horrific pandemic. I do not watch this show. I can't understand why my smartTVs AI botched this up. I have been watching a lot of forensic documentaries recently on various apps and the TV started recommending this for me on Hotstar. I took the advice and watched a few episodes. Shame on you, AI, I can't imagine why it's algorithm thought I would like this. Ewwww........

I am going to say this upfront " COULDN'T STOMACH ADITYA AND IMILI". The pair looked like uncle and niece and I just can't....... It seemed very much like xxxx to me ( I won't say the word in deference to the sensibilities of fellow forum members ). And then the attitude of this guy made me hopping mad altogether, and so here I am. Since, I have not watched it, please excuse my lack of detail. I thought I would just regurgitate some of my observations.

Malini, gets my full understanding. Imagine a girl who for most of her growing up years is used as a white flag bearing peace maker between her mother and father, who probably had grown up with a lot of insecurity if her mother and father will be together tomorrow or would they call it quits anytime/ any day. She probably was played like a ping-pong ball between them. Is it wrong for her to assume that she will never make the same mistakes as her parents did and will not fight or raise her voice to keep the peace between herself and her partner? I can very easily understand this mindset.

Forget about all of this, just from the standpoint of any generic married woman. She hadn't doubted this Adi guy till now for 7 years to be philandering, did she ? So he must have never given her reason to believe it and she believes that he is invested in the relationship as much as she is. So, if she now wonders if something else is going on ( she is right, mind you ) because the guy must have given her some reason to believe this. Would any married woman or any girl in a committed relationship go and confront the guy and ask " ARE YOU CHEATING" ? I mean it is easy to say this is the most straightforward approach, but does being straightforward always work in relationships? A healthy dose of sensitivity, restraint and diplomacy is needed. Nahin? Let us just say, for argument sake, this Adi guy is only helping this teenager on whom her tribe has committed an atrocity ( I fully believe that the forced wedding at gunpoint is an atrocity on that young girl, I really don't care about the guy ). Then, if Malini as a wife has asked " are you cheating on me", if I am an authentic, genuine and straightforward Adi guy, I would fly off the handle and that would have been a good bye for that relationship just based on Malini's shak. Then Malini would have been in the wrong for being a shaki, unrestrained wife who didn't give the Adi guy his due. Hmmmm..... so what is Malini to do?

Why should she just remove herself from the situation to make it easier for the cheater guy? Just based on her doubt? So, she thrashes around. I would say when somebody is fighting for survival, there is no right or wrong way. She will thrash whichever way she can, and if people get hurt with her thrashing, so be it. She will erupt on people or circumstances which offer the least resistance. Like usually as a husband or wife get mad at each other for the smallest of provocations as they had a bad day at work. As a parent would scold a child when they had a bad day for whatever reason. This happens all around us. I am not condoning suicide in any way, but that definitely is a cry for help from her stand point. I don't support this, but certainly can understand her predicament. Why Imli or her mom didn't try this out and why an educated Malini tried this cry out for help, will have no answers. Each person reacts differently is all I can say. Barring this, I don't see her to be too off in how she is dealing with her confusing situation where she is in the dark about the true colors of her so called husband and best friend and the status of her marriage I would love to see her kick butt, but not everybody can do that, can they? The can do or can't do attitude has nothing to do with socioeconomic status or educational status. Hopefully, she will find her feet soon and kicks some real butt. That would be a great watch But before that, the Adi guy needs to come clean.

Sorry, my friend, to use your space for my observations. I was just too lazy to make a separate post. I hope you don't mind.

I am no psychologist or psychiatrist, just some random observations from my side. I may be totally off.....

`Hey, I understand your observations, but as you said, you haven't watched the show properly, then i would suggest you to do that first before forming any opinion about these characters. The story is complicated and apparently none of the 3 characters are flawless.

I you are focusing on past few weeks to make this opinion, its natural for you to understand Malini more, since this track was written keeping her in center.

After watching each and every episode of this show, I can extend sympathy to malini but not support. On the other hand Aditya and Imlie are way more consistent characters for me without any uneccessary flip flops.

My judgments for these characters are more based on there actions instead of monologues and proclamations by them, Like Aditya- Malini being BF F as per Malini, but I have not once seen any BFF vibes from them, Aditya since day 1 was more open and expressive with Imlie. After seeing hyper sensitive and insecure attitude of Malini you could understand why!

They have shown a lot of tid bits and insights of Imlie, Aditya and Malini, and without knowing them, you cannot get a full understanding of characters. I don't know if you know that Aditya did told Malini about his forced wedding before marriage. He is committed mistakes, for which he is paying now, but after journey of 150 episodes, I can understand where these characters are coming from.

If you are actually interested in show, I truly suggest you to watch all the episodes , then I would love to discuss it with you.

@bold 2 Your statement is true, if Malini was speculating that something is going behind her back. So it would be fair, if she is diplomatic in her approach. But here woman slashed her wrist by decking in bridal attire and writing long suicide note about how he doesn't love her anymore and how Imlie has 'replaced' her. This means she was sure that he has been cheating as per her. If she was that sure , then what was stopping her to confront at least before taking a jump.

Let's accept Aditya is coward, then why did Malini fainted that fateful day when he did told her the truth before they got married? If she did fainted, then why she easily forgot all about it. Malini may make noises about truth, but she subconsciously tried to avoid it as well. Fainting spells, hunger strikes, low BP and now suicide, accepted Aditya is wrong in hiding this for so long, but malini never made it easy for him.

Now that's how BFFs are? They had glaring communication gaps, specially over her foul mouth mother. As you are saying each person reacts differently, then Malini's extreme reactions did played the part in prolonging this lie. Aditya is by no means a right, but he is also human and equally traumatized by that gun point wedding, when he has commitment ahead to fulfill with someone as fragile as malini.

Originally posted by: sunshine333

So this is anonymous forum and therefore I can share a personal case in my extended family which is similar to what Malini is going through. My maasi who was happily married to my mausa for over 30 years found that he was cheating on her with a girl he now claims to “love”. The pain of the victim is unbearable and I can never defend such behavior. It causes so much trauma for all involved, having witnessed it up close.

I would have supported imlie and aditya IF:

-If i was in imlie’s shoes and forcefully married. I would have checked myself in a school or an ngo to pursue my education goals right away. Specially knowing the guy i was FORCIBLY married to is already committed.

- if in aditya’s shoes I would have gone to the law and annulled the wedding with imlie RIGHT away. I would also have sponsored imlie’s education and got her admitted to a hostel.

- If i found out after sometime that I don’t really “like” my spouse like aditya seems to, i would have had the courtesy and balls, and respected her enough to divorce her first before going behind someone else/ third party.

If I was Imlie i would die a thousand times before eyeing a committed person in the wrong way and pining for him. I wouldn’t be able to live with myself if I did that. It would just kill me to do. Even if I secretly liked someone or crushed I would never admit it to him or to myself, because I would be too full of SHAME. I would remove myself from the situation COMPLETELY, and yea if theres a change in his marital status (like he divorced) without my involvement then and only then would I open myself up to him.

I agree to all your points if it were an perfect world and ideal case scenario .

For point 1, imlie is a village girl who never stepped out of her village. When Aditya put her in ngo, she accepted. The fear of her killer gaaw walas is what made both adi and imli go back to their house. Adi’s plan probably was to anull the marriage after putting imli in ngo.. but the Gundas that were sent from Pd , changed his plans. Adi did a mistake here he still should have tried harder to anull the marriage , but I guess he was too embarrassed to even admit that he was forcefully married . In one of the episodes he even mentioned that his confidence was crumbled because of this force marriage.

imli did not even eye Aditya .. maybe she did have a secret crush , which she kept to herself . Never tried anything from her side.
I think what brought Aditya and imli together is their near death experiences and what they had to go through together to save each other’s lives. The way imli took the bullet and the way adi took the responsibility of saving her life , the way he carried her in his arms and ran almost untill his last breadth , they way they were each other’s support in this ordeal... any human can be shaken with all these incidents. When it comes to saving life , it’s much bigger than anything else that’s going around them. And when they came out of it together , they unknowingly formed a bond that was stronger than any other relation they had in their lives.

What happened next is only the aftermath of the collosa incident that changed their lives entirely.

well this is the story that’s shown ... it’s fiction . I like the actors , their amazing acting. I love adi imli chemistry . I loved Aditya malinis fights , like a typical husband wife fights stuck in a loveless marriage .. great acting by all the actors

Ok understood that Adi tried to tell Malini but she fainted. But did he do anything else, no. Did he tried to annul his forced marriage with Imlie, no. He still married Malini after he married Imlie. If you know someone from 7 years, claim to love them then how can a love die in 6-7 months? Is it because you don't feel that the person is compatible with you or he/ she doesn't have those qualities you thought he/she has? Or the other person is more convenient for you? In that scenario will Adi leave Imli after 7 years if he feels they have grown apart? Adi wants relationship as per his convenience , first he wanted Malini when he was married to Imlie then after marrying Malini he wants Imlie. Imlie knows the truth but does Malini know complete truth? I completely empathise with Malini as the person you love doesn't love you anymore and even I feel sorry for Imlie who had no control of her life, but for Adi... He deserves humiliation, hatred and both girls should leave him and live their own life. Malini deserves so much better and Imlie should stand on her feet and become independent.

Originally posted by: raaya

Ok understood that Adi tried to tell Malini but she fainted. But did he do anything else, no. Did he tried to annul his forced marriage with Imlie, no. He still married Malini after he married Imlie. If you know someone from 7 years, claim to love them then how can a love die in 6-7 months? Is it because you don't feel that the person is compatible with you or he/ she doesn't have those qualities you thought he/she has? Or the other person is more convenient for you? In that scenario will Adi leave Imli after 7 years if he feels they have grown apart? Adi wants relationship as per his convenience , first he wanted Malini when he was married to Imlie then after marrying Malini he wants Imlie. Imlie knows the truth but does Malini know complete truth? I completely empathise with Malini as the person you love doesn't love you anymore and even I feel sorry for Imlie who had no control of her life, but for Adi... He deserves humiliation, hatred and both girls should leave him and live their own life. Malini deserves so much better and Imlie should stand on her feet and become independent.

That is why she lingering in T house after suspecting ema is just degrading her character ...

I will support imlie .. 💜💜💜anytime any day .. she is the only character I like in this serial..

Originally posted by: mili9

Good morning girls and boys !!!!

Sorry Sunshine, for your aunt's experience. Whether we like it or not, perspectives do change based on our past experiences, outlook on life and where we are in life at the moment. More power to your aunt👍🏼

Hope all of you are staying safe in this horrific pandemic. I do not watch this show. I can't understand why my smartTVs AI botched this up. I have been watching a lot of forensic documentaries recently on various apps and the TV started recommending this for me on Hotstar. I took the advice and watched a few episodes. Shame on you, AI, I can't imagine why it's algorithm thought I would like this. Ewwww........

I am going to say this upfront " COULDN'T STOMACH ADITYA AND IMILI". The pair looked like uncle and niece and I just can't....... It seemed very much like xxxx to me ( I won't say the word in deference to the sensibilities of fellow forum members ). And then the attitude of this guy made me hopping mad altogether, and so here I am. Since, I have not watched it, please excuse my lack of detail. I thought I would just regurgitate some of my observations.

Malini, gets my full understanding. Imagine a girl who for most of her growing up years is used as a white flag bearing peace maker between her mother and father, who probably had grown up with a lot of insecurity if her mother and father will be together tomorrow or would they call it quits anytime/ any day. She probably was played like a ping-pong ball between them. Is it wrong for her to assume that she will never make the same mistakes as her parents did and will not fight or raise her voice to keep the peace between herself and her partner? I can very easily understand this mindset.

Forget about all of this, just from the standpoint of any generic married woman. She hadn't doubted this Adi guy till now for 7 years to be philandering, did she ? So he must have never given her reason to believe it and she believes that he is invested in the relationship as much as she is. So, if she now wonders if something else is going on ( she is right, mind you ) because the guy must have given her some reason to believe this. Would any married woman or any girl in a committed relationship go and confront the guy and ask " ARE YOU CHEATING" ? I mean it is easy to say this is the most straightforward approach, but does being straightforward always work in relationships? A healthy dose of sensitivity, restraint and diplomacy is needed. Nahin? Let us just say, for argument sake, this Adi guy is only helping this teenager on whom her tribe has committed an atrocity ( I fully believe that the forced wedding at gunpoint is an atrocity on that young girl, I really don't care about the guy ). Then, if Malini as a wife has asked " are you cheating on me", if I am an authentic, genuine and straightforward Adi guy, I would fly off the handle and that would have been a good bye for that relationship just based on Malini's shak. Then Malini would have been in the wrong for being a shaki, unrestrained wife who didn't give the Adi guy his due. Hmmmm..... so what is Malini to do?

Why should she just remove herself from the situation to make it easier for the cheater guy? Just based on her doubt? So, she thrashes around. I would say when somebody is fighting for survival, there is no right or wrong way. She will thrash whichever way she can, and if people get hurt with her thrashing, so be it. She will erupt on people or circumstances which offer the least resistance. Like usually as a husband or wife get mad at each other for the smallest of provocations as they had a bad day at work. As a parent would scold a child when they had a bad day for whatever reason. This happens all around us. I am not condoning suicide in any way, but that definitely is a cry for help from her stand point. I don't support this, but certainly can understand her predicament. Why Imli or her mom didn't try this out and why an educated Malini tried this cry out for help, will have no answers. Each person reacts differently is all I can say. Barring this, I don't see her to be too off in how she is dealing with her confusing situation where she is in the dark about the true colors of her so called husband and best friend and the status of her marriage I would love to see her kick butt, but not everybody can do that, can they? The can do or can't do attitude has nothing to do with socioeconomic status or educational status. Hopefully, she will find her feet soon and kicks some real butt. That would be a great watch But before that, the Adi guy needs to come clean.

Sorry, my friend, to use your space for my observations. I was just too lazy to make a separate post. I hope you don't mind.

I am no psychologist or psychiatrist, just some random observations from my side. I may be totally off.....

All your posts 👍👏👌

Originally posted by: sunshine333

All your posts 👍👏👌

I so wanted to say this.
Each and every point.
Sooo freaking APT👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 (Claps)

👏👏👏👏🥳🥳🥳

Now coming to my POV. Firstly @sunshine I’m sorry for your Maasi’s experience.
And to all those who said she should have not watch it from her perspective, I would like to say she saw what was going in her real life and anyone will relate to that if it had happened in your life. And your views will change accordingly
no one teaches you better than your own experiences as you know “experience se bada koi guru nahi hota” 😎

So her POV is totally acceptable 👍🏼🤝

Secondly everywhere it’s Malini VS Imlie

Or Adini VS Adili , I know it’s just a story or a show but who see them they learn atleast something from it. And if we are watching it we will have our opinions.


I have said this 1000000000000000% of times that “Malini’s Character is very much realistic” and todays generation will anyday relate to her.

It’s a story which writer is narrating us this way, but this is so not good, they are not getting it that they are actually degrading someone’s character like that. Actors has to suffer so much. What they do what they potray on TV clearly affects there life in Real.

Audience see them by the way they have been portrayed in show

for eg. Aditya’s character is so much confusing… he is being so spineless, has nothing to offer her official wife/ best friend / past lover for past 7 years.
Will you guys accept a Man like this? Ever?




now coming to Imlie - What a confused bechari soul she is right now.
The makers are changing her character day by day earlier she was a fearless soul but now I don’t like her.

Anyone who watches this serial, on a personal level I’m saying will have sympathy towards both Malini and Imlie. But to be on the right side “Malini is the one who is still unaware about her personal relationship” and there shouldn’t be any single reason for her to be on the wrong side.

Lastly,

From my past experiences on this forum I thought to give a try to see from Adilians POV.
but guys eeeeeeewwwwww Gashmeer and Sumbul looks so not good with each other.
I just can’t connect them. Sumbul really looks too much younger than Gashmeer and therefore fails to make a good pair.

Now when I see Mayuri and Gashmeer I can imagine them as a good pair. They have that chemistry in them.
Therefore I like Malini and Aditya’s pair more.
Adini makes better pair . Than Adilie. 👎🏼


Mayuri portrays her character really well May be that’s why we all are inclined towards Malinis character. 🤗


Okay. Please spare me for all that I have written.
but will always speak in Malinis Favour