Changing the centre of attraction

Today the major thing that grabbed my attention was Does Earnings brings all the respect? Will elaborate further

First the scene of Anupama and Leela, it was good, a light hearted moment, but she still says she wants Anuraj together. She saw how bad Anupama feels everytime, but still she is keeping hopes. That same story. She will only understand when Dolly goes through the same. But I like that both MIL and DIL, can speak frankly to each other without any hesitation.

Now Anupama who made this house to a home, constantly thinks whats her contribution in this home. She is herself hurt, but why she wants to be great. It would have been 1% Ok, if it was for Vanraj, but Kavya is also there, so there is a big point to worry, does such basic things doesn't strike to her? Instead that lady signed on the blanked papers, has she lost her minds? Doesn't she gets that Whatever Vanraj does nowadays, inspiration is Kavya. So the handwriting will be of Vanraj, words will be Kavya...Such an action of Anupama was not welcomed. She said that I will let go of my right of my share in house, but she thinking realistically she has the right

The funny thing that happened she said "Log mujhe Pagal samjhenge, Ki Aurat ke sar chhat hona jaruri hai" Leela Said, " Matlab tere liye sar pe chhat hona zaruri nahi hai?" Then she said that "Mein chhat pe niche nahi, aashirwaad ke niche rahti hu"

Now coming to the major thing, which I see in every house. Previously Vanraj was the one who was the sole earner, so center of attraction of Vanraj. Now Anupama, Samar, Toshu, Kinjal are earning so the centre is on them. How the family treated Anupama as a Gawaar Aurat, now what the treatment is she getting.

I constantly feel is it because the money she brings, why home maker who isn't earning doesn't gets the same attention? Anupama was not earning then, but the family members except Samar, Bapuji, Mamaji all blamed her. She was uneducated, but every home maker deserves a respect for their 24 7 work. Everyone was celebrating her success of getting 100 students, which is great. But why money decides the respect you get? Respect isnt dependent on money

Now the major twist Pakhi is here, would like if Pakhi keeps Kavya away from Vanraj, as she knows how much bad she is. But this madam will try to get Anuraj together, Kavya is out of the house is good, but Jis Tarah se gayi hai ego hurt ho gaya uska, she will be back to create a havoc

THE LIGHTS SHIFTED FROM VANRAJ TO ANUPAMA, AND NOW FROM ANUPAMA TO PAKHI

If anupama gave blank paper let her give . Bapuji to bhi vanraj ko man mani nahin karne denge woh bhi to dekhenge vanraj ne paper mein kya likh waya hai

Jub bapuji dekh lenge ki vanraj ne paper mein kya likha hai uski ke aadhaar pe bapuji faisla lenge

Aisa to bilkul nahi hoga ki vanraj khuch bhi likh dega paper aur bapuji maan lenge

Jub bapuji dekhlenge ki sub khuch sahi tabhi woh will paper ko register karaayenge warna yeh paper bhi tear karke seedhe Dustbin mein jaayega

Jub anupama ka ek hissa bhi nahin chahiye tha jub anupama poori tarah tayar hai ki use ek 1 rupaya bhi nahin chahiye shah ek kamra bhi nahi chahiye to anupama usme kya likhti us paper mein

Baaki bapuji decide kar lenge ki will kaisa banna hai

Originally posted by: surabhi01

If anupama gave blank paper let her give . Bapuji to bhi vanraj ko man mani nahin karne denge woh bhi to dekhenge vanraj ne paper mein kya likh waya hai

Jub bapuji dekh lenge ki vanraj ne paper mein kya likha hai uski ke aadhaar pe bapuji faisla lenge

Aisa to bilkul nahi hoga ki vanraj khuch bhi likh dega paper aur bapuji maan lenge

Jub bapuji dekhlenge ki sub khuch sahi tabhi woh will paper ko register karaayenge warna yeh paper bhi tear karke seedhe Dustbin mein jaayega

Jub anupama ka ek hissa bhi nahin chahiye tha jub anupama poori tarah tayar hai ki use ek 1 rupaya bhi nahin chahiye shah ek kamra bhi nahi chahiye to anupama usme kya likhti us paper mein

Baaki bapuji decide kar lenge ki will kaisa banna hai

Bapuji has the sane mind, he will read the document properly but I didn't like he stopped Anupama for Pakhi.

So I have no hopes on Bapuji also

But Anupamaa ne kora kagaz sign karke deke, Vanraj ko ekdum chota bana diya 😂 Vanraj literally felt embarassed ki usne itna bada tamasha kiya ghar ke liye. But why do I feel Vanraj isse abhi apne naam pe nahi karvayega atlast for now.

Anupamaa ko pehle bhi ghar ka lalach nahi tha, initially bhi jab bapuji ne announce kiya tha ki uske naam pe ghar kar dega, tabhi she was telling him not to do. Infact I liked how secure and confident she is of making a house for her inspite of just starting her career. Acha hai apna khud ka ghar banaye jahan aur koi apna haq na jata sake, like Samar said.

And if Kavya sabko ghar se nikal de toh bhi akela toh vanraj hi reh jayega, bcoz baaki sab toh Anupamaa ke pass chale jayenge. Vanraj deserves to stay alone and feel unimportant, like he felt today.

Rather than listening, mera ghar Anupamaa ko de diya, its better to handover the house to him, he will one day realise it, jab uss ghar main woh aur Kavya bach jayenge sirf.

I want Kavya to do take advantage tbh, Vanraj deserves it, bohot chilla chilla ke bol raha tha na mera ghar mera ghar. Jab Kavya apne naam pe ghar karwa legi na tab iski hekdi bahar niklegi. Anupamaa need not worry at all, she is more secure than these two selfish people. And she is now capable enough to support baa bapuji and kids if kavya throws them out of the house, acha hai Vanraj humesha ke liye apne family se dur ho jayega after this, he deserves it. And humari kinju baby bhi toh hai, uski itni property kab kaam aayegi kuch dino ke liye use kar hi sakte hai, ekdum beghar toh nahi ho jayenge 😜, woh baat alag hai Anu uski zaroorat nahi padne degi 😁

Vanraj not being given importance is not because he is not earning but because of what he have done. He himself feels embarrassed of Kavya around family.

You may be right to some extent that Anu is now given respect because she is earning. But I feels its not only because she is earning its also because she has created her identity inspite of so many shortcomings. I am happy everyone are happy for her. But that cannot change the fact that she was not appreciated when she was not a working woman but a housewife, which is the true reality of our society. Many a times housewives are considered to be doing nothing, they are told, tumhe kya kaam hai pura din gharpe toh rehti ho. But the truth is they do the most difficult job in the world.

But we have seen Vanraj and Pakhi and to some extent even Baa realising that Anupamaa used to do so much work at home. Its only Toshu right now who doesn't value her that much.

Loved how Anu and Baa have a conversation so freely, earlier Anu was never able to share her thoughts with Baa. Loved how Baa was making puppy face when Anu almost scolded her. Pehli baar Baa ne Sorry bola Anupamaa ko, acha laga. Also liked how she didn't wanted Anu to leave her haq on house. Though Baa is rude sometimes and irritating when she does Vanraj Vanraj, but she has come a long way. There has been a certain development in her character, unlike Toshu jiski soch main koi badlav nahi aaya hai.

why home maker who isn't earning doesn't gets the same attention?

Because its become norm in the society

aurat ke kam farz mana jata han aur mardan ke kam mehnat aur izzat ke layak samjha jata han

even aurat bring same salary like husband doesnt matter she will get the taunt she left her family behind , her kids behind if she doesn't earning she get tag of uneducated

aurat kam kare ya na kare in the end people talk and only talk

Originally posted by: Susan.Dsouza

why home maker who isn't earning doesn't gets the same attention?

Because its become norm in the society

aurat ke kam farz mana jata han aur mardan ke kam mehnat aur izzat ke layak samjha jata han

even aurat bring same salary like husband doesnt matter she will get the taunt she left her family behind , her kids behind if she doesn't earning she get tag of uneducated

aurat kam kare ya na kare in the end people talk and only talk

You're much right...

Anupama became a dancer and is earning so everyone is Anupama Anupama... But she had to work hard to get this identity...

It would be ok if for the same identity she had to do hard work for others. But when family does that, it hurts

Every home makers story

Very well written!

Though I don't think Anu is being appreciated by people like Ba, Toshu, Pankhi (who never really supported her earlier) now just because she's earning...

I think it's because they have been faced with the alternative of Kavya, that they are so thankful for having Anu in their lives...

Would have been better if she had left so that they would all truly realise their mistakes, but oh well...

Originally posted by: Anjalika01

Very well written!

Though I don't think Anu is being appreciated by people like Ba, Toshu, Pankhi (who never really supported her earlier) now just because she's earning...

I think it's because they have been faced with the alternative of Kavya, that they are so thankful for having Anu in their lives...

Would have been better if she had left so that they would all truly realise their mistakes, but oh well...

Thank you so much.

Kavya se bachna hai, isiliye Anupama Anupama ho raha hai