Shahid Kapoor didn't want to date a working woman - Page 26

Originally posted by: Krishnapanchali

show me the post where i bashed working mothers enough of blame game

SHOW ME RIGHT NOW

The person is just trolling. 😆

Originally posted by: .Lonewalker.

Ermmm, contrary to what you think, a young kid, do need parents with him/her to be taken care of properly. I was not talking about 7-8 years old kids. I was talking about newborn babies upto the age of 5-6 years. That young babies do need parental care. But unfortunately, most jobs wouldn't give any parent that long maternity leave. Mostly it's for just 6-7 months. Leaving a 5-6 months old baby alone or in care of a stranger is not a healthy way to bring him/her up.

Had you read my post more carefully, you would have realised that I am in for ANY parent doing that. Not necessarily just the mother. But yes, mothers need to be there for the baby for first 1 year at least. Because the baby needs breastfeeding. Also, this break helps the mother to recover too. After the first year, the father can take over. I am not against that at all. How am I pushing stereotypes just by stating few facts?

More than me, I wanted to point out my mother's struggle. Govt jobs might have it a little bit easier, but private sector jobs are very demanding. You need to work 8-10 hours a day. Add in 1 - 2 hours more as traveling time. So you are spending 10-12 hours outside the home. After that you are most likely to be exhausted. So managing household chores and then taking care of children do get tougher after that. It might look so easy from the outside, but it is not that easy. I was just pointing out that. People who manage that successfully, manage that by putting in their everything & they are most often left exhausted, stressed, both mentally & physically. I nowhere said that women should not aspire to have a career or women should be content at being housewives. I just said we should salute the women who manage to pull both off. We should appreciate them & not take their hardwork, sacrifices for granted saying it's no big deal. It is a big deal.

And I am opposed to imposing this tough schedule forcefully on others who have means to bypass this. Because everyone do not have it in them to go through that & not everyone is good at balancing them. Every human being is different, their energy level, stamina.... everything is different. Humans are not machines. So people need to make choices based on their own limits. Being a career woman is good. But being an at home mother is nothing to be ashamed of either. As long it's her own choice & not forced on her.

I didn't exactly say it's no big deal. I just said that women with much lesser means than Meera are doing this with aplomb, though it may not be easy.

This was in response to people who claimed that Meera as a homemaker had to do all the household work.

Now, not every working mother has to put in 12 hours everyday. Working in the private sector is not equivalent to being in IT. Many women work fruitful hours and come home without being cranky. So this is again, generalization.

Also, the pressure on working moms stem from the fact that many dads refuse to share responsibility. If they do that, then the pressure on moms would be much, much less. Thereby leaving them less cranky and exhausted.

The problem is that we expect only the moms to do the household stuff and the men to be out of the loop.

Originally posted by: Fallen-Embers

You're still taking this seriously? Get out of this thread, girl. 😆

IKR😆 At this point I am confused whether anyone is being serious or just opposing just for the heck of it

Originally posted by: Fallen-Embers

The toxicity in this thread has reached a whole new level. 😆

You don't say! 😆

This unnecessary topic is a hit. Ye din aa gaye hain.

My two cents here on this topic: Shahid life let him decide what is best for him and type of woman he wants as life partner.

Another let women decide what is best for them work or being a housewife. No education goes to waste, those women will be able to teach their kids.

Seriously before it was family who said do this now feminist who are confused looks down on women who choose not to work.

Not all women are same so stop expecting them to do what you think is right, this is not women empowerment.

Women empowerment should be for women to work on their best capabilities and how to be able to balance work & family life.

If you want to fight for equality, do not fight for jobs but for those women who are not privileged as you. Who are still denied basic education and expect to get married at age when they should be enjoying their lives or able to pursue further studies.

What a title of the topic!

Not for a single moment in this video Shahid ever told that he didn't want to marry a working woman. Here he clearly stated that he didn't want to marry an actress. And that was totally based on his personal bad experience and the heartbreak that he had faced. Shahid just simply wanted someone outside of the showbiz world so that the misunderstanding and incompatibility between him and his partner wouldn't increase by time, at least that's what he had preferred for himself. So he is not here to be blamed.

Saif is a better deal for Kareena simply because she's extremely happy. Obviously she wasn't happy with Shahid. That itself is a better deal FOR Kareena. Shahid was a better deal for Mira. Are we really gonna sit here and belittle Saif when he clearly makes his wife happy? Kareena is a career driven woman that wanted to continue acting after marriage. Shahid is clearly someone who did NOT want that career choice in his wife. Saif comes from a family of woman who were actresses and supports his wife's career choice. I fail to see how this isn't a win for Kareena?

Bringing saif's 10 year older age doesn't mean much to me since shahid is also 13 years older to Mira. So are we really gonna go all agist with one couple and not the other?

Topic has shifted from original discussion to bashing and personal attack.

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