This is a classic symptom of spousal abuse. First abuse, then apologise profusely, then âmanaoâ romantically. Throw in some gaslighting to make the victim feel like either she triggered the abuse with her behaviour or that she is overreacting to it. Victim forgives & forgets, or worse still, holds herself responsible & tries to conform. A few days later, the pattern repeats. Each time the âmanaoingâ dulls the memory & pain of the abuse & generates a false hope to the extent that the victim is willing to give another chance. Or the gaslighting confuses the victim into believing the abuse is âdeservedâ or âimaginedâ.
Sometimes, like in this case, even the abuser may not realise that it is abuse, coz he sees it through a conditioned chauvinistic lens. But the pattern is unmissable.
Using she for victim as it is Sai in this case. But it cld be he or she.