Discussion Of The Weak #8 **Joint Family In Pakistani Dramas **

Hello everybody.

Joint Family is a norm in Pakistani society. From dramas I realized that even after children grow up and get married , they are supposed to live with their parents in the same house.

Sometimes when there are more than a son. The house becomes crowded with many married couples, children and grand children.. family politics, kichen politics , saas bahu drama , and lots more. All of these things became the focus of many Pakistani dramas ..such as Aangan (ARY and HUM) , Aulaad , Bandhe Ek Dor Se , Prem Gali , and many more.

In many other dramas families have just that eklota beta , their only son, and his wife has to live with his parents to take the responsibility of the family. 🤓

So what do you think , Are you with this Joint family system? Do you think that living in such joint families is an easy task? What are the positivities and the negativities you find in this system, from what you calculated from Pakistani dramas? 🤓

Feel free to discuss about joint families in dramas here.😃

thanks for the thread❤️.

Children who grow up in a joint family or an extended family forge close bonds with several family members besides parents and siblings. Maybe that is why the joint family system is still going strong.In a joint family, people do things together. They share the expenses, groceries, household appliances, and furnishings with the rest of the family.I live in a joint family. We help each other with household chores. My uncles and aunts are very nice people.There are many advantages and disadvantages to living in a joint family .in joint family privacy could be the biggest causality. A family matter could be become the entire house's business.People who love their freedom find it very difficult to live in a joint family. In a joint family, you need the permission of the elders before you can go anywhere. In a joint family, you are forced to share your belongings with your cousins.I'm not selfish. But I don't like sharing my stuff with anyone.

No privacy - I would hate it!

Also you can’t wear what you want to in front of aunts uncles and cousins etc.

Maybe a benefit in some ways but too much interference in everybody’s business from everyone else and unless the house is a mansion I will have to share my room. 😔

I wouldn’t want to get into this type of situation with in laws, my extended family is one thing but living with my husbands many relatives is a no no for me. I think I’d go crazy.

Its all about personal preference tbh

Nothing wrong with staying with joint family or staying separate

But when parents grow old, joint familt system is beneficial for them otherwise they are left alone after the kids get married

Originally posted by: ItsmeSehar

thanks for the thread❤️.

Children who grow up in a joint family or an extended family forge close bonds with several family members besides parents and siblings. Maybe that is why the joint family system is still going strong.In a joint family, people do things together. They share the expenses, groceries, household appliances, and furnishings with the rest of the family.I live in a joint family. We help each other with household chores. My uncles and aunts are very nice people.There are many advantages and disadvantages to living in a joint family .in joint family privacy could be the biggest causality. A family matter could be become the entire house's business.People who love their freedom find it very difficult to live in a joint family. In a joint family, you need the permission of the elders before you can go anywhere. In a joint family, you are forced to share your belongings with your cousins.I'm not selfish. But I don't like sharing my stuff with anyone.

Thank you for joining the discussion .😊

You highlighted the positivity of joint family in a great way. You are living in such an extended family , and you still finding it good.. which proves that what we see in dramas isn't just a fiction. 😃 I never been in a joint family , but after marriage I went to my inlaw's house, and I loved it in the beginning. But after my brothers in law started getting married and bringing their wives into the house, it became unbearable.😭

You also spoke about some of the negativities, like no privacy . It is the main reason why this system is suffering in current age. Many young couples prefer to live seperately. 😊

Joint Family is big NO for me. I don't see any worthy pros in big joint families personally. Cons outweigh the pros by a wide margin. Too much unnecessary dramas, politics, emotions, complexes.

The closest for my comfort if each individual family living in separate apartments/houses in the same building or community. Uss se zyada is too close to comfort.

I don't want to live in joint family with my in-laws and neither do i want to stay with my own parents in one big house. When my kids get married, i don't want them to stay with us either. The married couple should move out , nd together by themselves learn, discover and grow into a family of their own instead of molding into a framework set up by their parents/in-laws.

Unlike older times, women are now educated, have jobs and have a mind of their own. If the saas sasur try to make her do things she doesn't want to or believe in, she is not gonna take it. this whole joint family setup is no longer a sustainable system with more and more women getting empowered..

Joint families are a perfect setup for harboring resentment, anger, inferiority complexes, discrimination that are born from the lack of privacy, lil space for personal choices, authoritarian policies etc. Life is too short to indulge in such drama and please everyone around you. YOLO!

P. S - Idhar toh ek iklaute pati se nahi banti bina jhagde ke.. Ek din nahi guzarta bina atleast ek argument ke. Ab batao poore khandaan se bana ke rakhni pade roz. 😜😂😂

Personally i don't like joint family system... Privacy, space these things are important to me.... Especially after marriage its better if the couple lives seperately.... That way the bond between the couple will get stronger with time.... Outside interference creates more troubles than anything else.... Never lived in a joint.... So i am not sure if there are any pros that makes its worthy.

Originally posted by: Geraldin

No privacy - I would hate it!

Thanks for sharing your views .

Also you can’t wear what you want to in front of aunts uncles and cousins etc.

True. And in strict muslim families , women have to keep wearing parda the whole day, coz there are many na mehrams living in the house. I lost hairs because of it when I used to live with my in laws. It is uncomfortible.😒

Maybe a benefit in some ways but too much interference in everybody’s business from everyone else and unless the house is a mansion I will have to share my room. 😔

I wonder if the majority of ppl live in mansions in Pakistan.😕 In dramas we see middle class families living in houses which have 4 rooms max. 😊 I am not sure though. 😕

I wouldn’t want to get into this type of situation with in laws, my extended family is one thing but living with my husbands many relatives is a no no for me. I think I’d go crazy.

So you think that it is ok to live with your extended family but not in laws extended ones.🤓 I thought after marriage most of ppl in Pakistan and India consider their husbands' families their own. 😳 I see them adressing them as mom and dad.😃 same for rest of relatives.😳

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

Its all about personal preference tbh

Nothing wrong with staying with joint family or staying separate

But when parents grow old, joint familt system is beneficial for them otherwise they are left alone after the kids get married

This is the only reason why I support joint family system. It isn't good to leave your parents when they need you. 😒

Originally posted by: stardust2011

Joint Family is big NO for me. I don't see any worthy pros in big joint families personally. Cons outweigh the pros by a wide margin. Too much unnecessary dramas, politics, emotions, complexes.

The closest for my comfort if each individual family living in separate apartments/houses in the same building or community. Uss se zyada is too close to comfort.

I don't want to live in joint family with my in-laws and neither do i want to stay with my own parents in one big house. When my kids get married, i don't want them to stay with us either. The married couple should move out , nd together by themselves learn, discover and grow into a family of their own instead of molding into a framework set up by their parents/in-laws.

Unlike older times, women are now educated, have jobs and have a mind of their own. If the saas sasur try to make her do things she doesn't want to or believe in, she is not gonna take it. this whole joint family setup is no longer a sustainable system with more and more women getting empowered..

Joint families are a perfect setup for harboring resentment, anger, inferiority complexes, discrimination that are born from the lack of privacy, lil space for personal choices, authoritarian policies etc. Life is too short to indulge in such drama and please everyone around you. YOLO!

P. S - Idhar toh ek iklaute pati se nahi banti bina jhagde ke.. Ek din nahi guzarta bina atleast ek argument ke. Ab batao poore khandaan se bana ke rakhni pade roz. 😜😂😂

Thank you for joining the discussion.😊

I understand your reasons to be against joint family system. It is tough to deal with the situation , as it is impossible to find a group of ppl from different backgrounds who stay togather in the same house without having differences. 🤓

I agree the married couple starting their lives out of the interferance of parents may help them develop a healthy relationship. But what about those parents who might be needing the support of their children? 😕

If there are rules in the joint family which regulate the relationship between everyone in the house , their responsibilities, and their privacy ..isn't it possible that such families may live comfortible, and don't have to loose the love and warm of living with the extended family? ..maybe working women can get help in taking care of their children from their mother, sisters in law?😕