Discussion Of The Weak #8 **Joint Family In Pakistani Dramas ** - Page 5

Originally posted by: awida

May her soul rest in peace. This is not a father. He is a monster.😡

Originally posted by: awida

I think the eldest kid has to leave the house first. 😉 His children will grow up fast, so it is better he has his own house. The youngest kid should stay with the parents.😃

It depends of the wife though. The more willing one should stay. Better be a housewife .. it is always tough to a working woman to manage .😒

From what ive seen its always the eldest who takes care of parents and stays with them, but in my case he wants to take care of his siblings too so yeah.

Its hard for a working woman to manage anyway as soon as she becomes a mother.

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

From what ive seen its always the eldest who takes care of parents and stays with them, but in my case he wants to take care of his siblings too so yeah.

Its hard for a working woman to manage anyway as soon as she becomes a mother.

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

From what ive seen its always the eldest who takes care of parents and stays with them, but in my case he wants to take care of his siblings too so yeah.

Its hard for a working woman to manage anyway as soon as she becomes a mother.

Yes. Here too in my hometown elder son takes the responsibility of his parents, and live with them. But since the financial matters also have a rule in this system.. in some cases younger son stays , because he has to establish himself well before being able to move to his own house. I am sad that in this joint family system.. the son who chooses to stay with his parents may end up being in a bad state after his parents departure. Coz other children want to sell the house and have their shares from meeras, so he end up homeless.😒

I think your husband wanting to take care of his siblings is a good thing.👍🏼 If he is helping them untill they be able to stand on their own feet. Not forever.🤔

Working women have many responsibilities, and none help them or appreciate their hard work. It is sad that in our culture men think that housework in responsibility of women only , and not help their wives .😒

Originally posted by: awida

I am sure these things happen everywhere. But only few ppl report them. Sometimes after the victim gets murdered.😒 Dramas like DSJHS, Haiwan , Meri Guriya, Muqabil , Bikhri Moti and Sisakiyan. although depressing , were eye opening. Our children are easy targets.. not just in a joint family system , but in the nieghbourhood. It is almost impossible to keep eye on them all the time. But we can talk to them, and warn them.

Haven't seen any of the above mentioned shows.... Udaari was a good show which dealt with this topic carefully.

Originally posted by: awida

Yes. Here too in my hometown elder son takes the responsibility of his parents, and live with them. But since the financial matters also have a rule in this system.. in some cases younger son stays , because he has to establish himself well before being able to move to his own house. I am sad that in this joint family system.. the son who chooses to stay with his parents may end up being in a bad state after his parents departure. Coz other children want to sell the house and have their shares from meeras, so he end up homeless.😒

I think your husband wanting to take care of his siblings is a good thing.👍🏼 If he is helping them untill they be able to stand on their own feet. Not forever.🤔

Working women have many responsibilities, and none help them or appreciate their hard work. It is sad that in our culture men think that housework in responsibility of women only , and not help their wives .😒

Why only sons? Daughters can take care of parents too... I don't think money is a big issue these days.... Because parents save enough for their old age and not give everything away to kids... Its the loneliness which becomes a problem... This gets worser after either of the spouses passes away.

Originally posted by: VioletOrchid123

Why only sons? Daughters can take care of parents too... I don't think money is a big issue these days.... Because parents save enough for their old age and not give everything away to kids... Its the loneliness which becomes a problem... This gets worser after either of the spouses passes away.

How can daughters can take care of their parents when they live with their husbands in their families' houses?😕 In Pakistani culture, like any other muslim culture, or even Indian culture, girls are considered guests , or amanat in their parents' house. Their real house is with their spouses. So only sons stay with parents in this joint family system.. with few exceptions here and there. 🤓

Sometimes when parents become ill and their daughters aren't willing to take care of them, daughters come to help.

I remember you mentioned in a previous comment that in your culture , it is girls who stay with their spouses in the girls parental house.. which I find different from what we see in Pakistani dramas.😳 Where are you from?

Originally posted by: awida

Yes. Here too in my hometown elder son takes the responsibility of his parents, and live with them. But since the financial matters also have a rule in this system.. in some cases younger son stays , because he has to establish himself well before being able to move to his own house. I am sad that in this joint family system.. the son who chooses to stay with his parents may end up being in a bad state after his parents departure. Coz other children want to sell the house and have their shares from meeras, so he end up homeless.😒

I think your husband wanting to take care of his siblings is a good thing.👍🏼 If he is helping them untill they be able to stand on their own feet. Not forever.🤔

Working women have many responsibilities, and none help them or appreciate their hard work. It is sad that in our culture men think that housework in responsibility of women only , and not help their wives .😒

Hopefully not forever😆 I think after having kids men start focusing on their own family more rather than controlling siblings

Originally posted by: awida

How can daughters can take care of their parents when they live with their husbands in their families' houses?😕 In Pakistani culture, like any other muslim culture, or even Indian culture, girls are considered guests , or amanat in their parents' house. Their real house is with their spouses. So only sons stay with parents in this joint family system.. with few exceptions here and there. 🤓

Sometimes when parents become ill and their daughters aren't willing to take care of them, daughters come to help.

I remember you mentioned in a previous comment that in your culture , it is girls who stay with their spouses in the girls parental house.. which I find different from what we see in Pakistani dramas.😳 Where are you from?

I am from kerala, India

This culture was earlier followed all over kerala in the past... Later inheritance laws were changed so it ended. Nowadays only muslims living in certain regions are following this culture.... Children takes their mothers family name.

Regarding muslim culture, its always advised to have a separate house than living with either of the families... Currently i am living in saudi arabia.... Here men buys/rents a new house for himself and his wife before getting married... They may live in the same building as parents and siblings are in bt the privacy is always maintained... They don't barge into each other's houses just like that... It becomes more difficult for the people who observes strict pardha.

Originally posted by: VioletOrchid123

I am from kerala, India

This culture was earlier followed all over kerala in the past... Later inheritance laws were changed so it ended. Nowadays only muslims living in certain regions are following this culture.... Children takes their mothers family name.

Regarding muslim culture, its always advised to have a separate house than living with either of the families... Currently i am living in saudi arabia.... Here men buys/rents a new house for himself and his wife before getting married... They may live in the same building as parents and siblings are in bt the privacy is always maintained... They don't barge into each other's houses just like that... It becomes more difficult for the people who observes strict pardha.

You live in Saudia? I live in Yemen.😃

I am surprised to know that muslims in Kerala give kids the names of their mothers family.😳 Islam is strict about calling kids by the name of their fathers . It is there in Holy Quraan : "Call them by (the names of) their fathers: that is juster in the sight of Allah. " (٣٣ . surat al ahzaab)

Yes. Nowadays girls don't want to take the responsibility of their spouses parents. That's why they ask for seperate houses. Sometimes it is the boys who prefer to live seperately to avoid the interferance of their parents in their lives. 🤔 In Yemen most of ppl are poor, so joint family system is still a norm in many villages and small towns. 😊

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