Rudhita OS: The Last Name - Page 3

Originally posted by: Rudhitafan

Sujz🤗

Such a beautiful OS with such a strong and valid point👏

This is our bondita who is a combination of both innocence and intelligence

You wrote this in simple words and that's is the beauty of it because somethings are better to be narrated with simplicity to bring out it's impact and beauty❤️

I wish bondita raises such a valid question to ani may be when the public toilet issue pop up again

It's so true till marriage girls are known by their father's name and after marriage they are known by their husband's surname.... will we get a day in our society when a girl will be accepted just by her name , for what she is capable of it a day when a husband accepts his wife's surname.....so that there will be equality....🤔....we have to wait long to see such a day but not impossible too

Cvs have to explore beautiful tracks like these for which we signed this show not on the other person who has no other track left according to me🤪

Once again beautiful dear🤗❤️

Hey.

Glad you liked it, thanks for commenting.

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I guess in most parts of the world children are known by their father's identity, regardless of gender but in some parts (including my community) are matrilineal. Its a worldwide issue which is very complex to be honest. I cannot put it in any category considering these social institutions have both sides as patrilineal and matrilineal and I kept that discussion between our society changers for another day.

yeah I hope CVs question their own contradictions.

Thank You.

Originally posted by: AK_2010

Stunning concept Sujz! The most important aim of educating Bon should be to achieve her own identity and her own voice to fight. It should be to mark her existence apart from being more than a wife and bahu. She is Bondita. I loved how you have penned it down...

Thank You AK❤️

Originally posted by: tharsh1011

Thoughtfully written and beautifully conveyed Sujz.

It always intrigued me on the surname changes. It's on going debate on not only in india but western culture too.

I'm glad this practice is not followed in my part of the world. I still use my dad's name as surname because legally he had my name registered as such as part of common practice. Usually I sign off with my own at work or etc. It doesn't change after marriage.

The current crop of parents like my brother and friends generally had their kids name registered without the farther's name at the back. They are only known by their own name.

It's might be just a name but it's an important part of a person's identity. At our subconcious level, we always address ourselves by our name when we are internalizing our thoughts. To change it after being called as one to another is smthing unimaginable at least for me.

Hey!🤗

Your comments are always a treat to read dear. Yes, I have been quite bitter about the surname changes following a marriage, all around the world.

About the first surname which is mostly dad's in all parts of the world, Its a very complex issue considering there are matrilineal and patrilineal societies in the world where some follow the mother's lineage while others follow the father's lineage. In the community I am born in, the children take their mother's family name so I really don't have an idea about how to solve that issue considering both of it takes place and this age old practice of having a surname is tough to dilute too. That's why even though most probably the Das in Bondita is from her father, I really do not see it as a problem and she will always be Bondita Das for me.

Yes, having just a name is the best option but it is kind of Utopian to me considering this conditioning that human race went through of having a surname which is difficult to erase and I feel at the end of the day whether or not to have a surname (not by marriage) is one's personal choice and they can choose either their mother's or father's.

Here i just put the light on a conversation that may happen between Aniruddh and Bondita because quite often Aniruddh proclaiming Bondita Roy Chowdhary kind of irks me. Bondita Das was her birth name, which was given to her by Sumati and Arvind (her father) and I think changing it just because she got married is a bit bizarre and our Bondita may question it.

It was just a scene I wrote and never wanted any debate surrounding it, I just wanted people to take just what I wrote from it and I thought they may get that a person who puts this points forward may also know her initial name is also quite patriarchal but no, people didn't get it and alas, My OS turned into a debate which is why I refrain from writing such pieces quite often.

Thanks for commenting!🤗

Originally posted by: Sujz

Hey.

Glad you liked it, thanks for commenting.

copy pasting:

I guess in most parts of the world children are known by their father's identity, regardless of gender but in some parts (including my community) are matrilineal. Its a worldwide issue which is very complex to be honest. I cannot put it in any category considering these social institutions have both sides as patrilineal and matrilineal and I kept that discussion between our society changers for another day.

yeah I hope CVs question their own contradictions.

Thank You.

Sujz 🤗

I'm happy to know you too come from such a community like me....in our community too children are known by their mother's family not father's 😳. ..I completely agree with you that these topics are really complex and opens a huge stage for further discussions which might be complex....hope our show shows such contradictions👍🏼

Originally posted by: Sujz

Hey!🤗

Your comments are always a treat to read dear. Yes, I have been quite bitter about the surname changes following a marriage, all around the world.

About the first surname which is mostly dad's in all parts of the world, Its a very complex issue considering there are matrilineal and patrilineal societies in the world where some follow the mother's lineage while others follow the father's lineage. In the community I am born in, the children take their mother's family name so I really don't have an idea about how to solve that issue considering both of it takes place and this age old practice of having a surname is tough to dilute too. That's why even though most probably the Das in Bondita is from her father, I really do not see it as a problem and she will always be Bondita Das for me.

Yes, having just a name is the best option but it is kind of Utopian to me considering this conditioning that human race went through of having a surname which is difficult to erase and I feel at the end of the day whether or not to have a surname (not by marriage) is one's personal choice and they can choose either their mother's or father's.

Here i just put the light on a conversation that may happen between Aniruddh and Bondita because quite often Aniruddh proclaiming Bondita Roy Chowdhary kind of irks me. Bondita Das was her birth name, which was given to her by Sumati and Arvind (her father) and I think changing it just because she got married is a bit bizarre and our Bondita may question it.

It was just a scene I wrote and never wanted any debate surrounding it, I just wanted people to take just what I wrote from it and I thought they may get that a person who puts this points forward may also know her initial name is also quite patriarchal but no, people didn't get it and alas, My OS turned into a debate which is why I refrain from writing such pieces quite often.

Thanks for commenting!🤗

@underlined, please continue writting stories that are close to your heart.

Just Ani says in the show. Continue asking questions, one day the question will make a difference.😃

Even it's a ripple, the impact can be felt far away. 🤗

Originally posted by: Rudhitafan

Sujz 🤗

I'm happy to know you too come from such a community like me....in our community too children are known by their mother's family not father's 😳. ..I completely agree with you that these topics are really complex and opens a huge stage for further discussions which might be complex....hope our show shows such contradictions👍🏼

So I don't know how to claim it as patriarchal because If I do that then I need to call out the matrilineal families too. and in a society where people are conditioned from the early era to have a family name, the idea of everyone quitting using their family name sounds Utopian.

Originally posted by: tharsh1011

@pink, please continue writting stories that are close to your heart.

Just Ani says in the show. Continue asking questions, one day the question will make a difference.😃

Even it's a ripple, the impact can be felt far away. 🤗

I am sorry I cannot see any pink😲

Originally posted by: WarriorB

So, I feel like I was an absolute ass here n didn't tell u about the things I enjoyed in this piece!

First, the thing I enjoy the most in ur works is the way u stick true to their characters from the show, yet expand them in your own way to fit into your story!! This is the truest in the magic that is your Chahat! And it's true here too.

I also like the part where he realises how far he has come from the initial days! This should definitely happen in the show too. The Binoy being like yeh toh hai hi joru ka ghulam is so funny coz duh, Anirudh hundred percent is!! 😆Also as always I enjoy the dynamics u create between them in all ur pieces.

You are awesome for writing this piece coz even today all of us r still musing about it. And if a piece gets you to think further, then ur job as a writer is done!

Also, I feel like a huge shout out to ur A voluptuous nickname is very much needed coz u got them to switch their surnames in that n lemme tell u Anirudh Das really gets me going!! U r one heck of a woman for challenging the status quo! Thank you for writing. Consider me your evergreen fan. 🥳

Thank You so much.

I will wait for your review on Chahat❤️

Maybe because I write fanfics based on the main plot I stick to their characters.

@Bold That's a heavy word to use I am not worth it.

But thank you!😊

Copy pasting my view about the earlier argument:

I am a sociology student so bear with me please,

About the first surname which is mostly dad's in all parts of the world, Its a very complex issue considering there are matrilineal and patrilineal societies in the world where some follow the mother's lineage while others follow the father's lineage. In the community I am born in, the children take their mother's family name so I really don't have an idea about how to solve that issue considering both of it takes place and this age old practice of having a surname is tough to dilute too. That's why even though most probably the Das in Bondita is from her father, I really do not see it as a problem and she will always be Bondita Das for me.

Yes, having just a name is the best option but it is kind of Utopian to me considering this conditioning that human race went through of having a surname which is difficult to erase and I feel at the end of the day whether or not to have a surname (not by marriage) is one's personal choice and they can choose either their mother's or father's.

Here i just put the light on a conversation that may happen between Aniruddh and Bondita because quite often Aniruddh proclaiming Bondita Roy Chowdhary kind of irks me. Bondita Das was her birth name, which was given to her by Sumati and Arvind (her father) and I think changing it just because she got married is a bit bizarre and our Bondita may question it.

It was just a scene I wrote and never wanted any debate surrounding it, I just wanted people to take just what I wrote from it and I thought they may get that a person who puts this points forward may also know her initial name is also quite patriarchal but no, people didn't get it and alas, My OS turned into a debate which is why I refrain from writing such pieces quite often.

Originally posted by: tharsh1011

@underlined, please continue writting stories that are close to your heart.

Just Ani says in the show. Continue asking questions, one day the question will make a difference.😃

Even it's a ripple, the impact can be felt far away. 🤗

😊Thank You dear

You surely made my bad day better by your comment.❤️

Originally posted by: Sujz

So I don't know how to claim it as patriarchal because If I do that then I need to call out the matrilineal families too. and in a society where people are conditioned from the early era to have a family name, the idea of everyone quitting using their family name sounds Utopian.

Agree sujz👍🏼infact this opens to a huge discussion and I'm glad your story paved way for this here.....I hope cvs bring up this I'm the show too....why can't children be known by their own identity....they can take the surname or not at the end of the day it should be their own will or freedom....we have to understand when in most parts people take their father's surname there equally exists other parts where mother's surname is taken....so both these cases should be taken equally...but since this issue is complex I believe discussions regarding this will keep on going..and the idea of quitting surnames seems to be utopian

Nice to know your view and I appreciate your effort for putting this out👍🏼