I think the only way she can be disillusioned the right way is by receiving support from people who care about her. And she definitely doesn't need Jazz's hurtful words or Meenu's threatening stares. She needs forces on her side that can counteract them for her. She is evidently unable to do that by herself.
Ok, She needs to listen to ppl first atleast her mom before taking her decision without thinking. She doesn't listen to anyone thats where the problem is! So I believe that self realization is more important. If she is good listener, she would have said no to surrogacy. Lets see how she realizes her mistake at the end. By getting help or helping herself based on experience.