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My mom told me one thing - jo cheez ek bar bardaasht karloge woh baar baar karni padhegi

So learn to raise your voice. You are just 20. If you feel you are timid or reserved or introvert, then practise speaking up. Learn to say no to people. Learn to tell people when they cross the line

Marriage is a lottery. And no one will come to fight your daily battles for self respect for you. So learn to fight for yourself.

Thank you for this TM❤️

Its like you have written what's in my mind. I have never been in relationships and it do scares me like you. And in few years marriage pestring will come from Parents which even scare me like how to spend whole with a person. i feel its better to be single whole life but I know unfortunately this cannot be possible. Its as if you written my fears

Thank you everyone who have given their thoughts and advices. It does help to think and introspect our ownself and life🤗

Lets hope for the best and prepare for the worst ⭐️

Originally posted by: Cheesedumplings

mom had gone out for sometime, she came back, we ate snacks. Dad came. She asked 'Are you hungry?' He replied little harshly 'Ofcourse I am. Why wouldn't I be? Why did you go out instead of being here?'

Brave of your dad to say this. If my mum would have be there then he have to cook for whole family for a month

I understand what are you saying my maternal uncle is like your dad (spoiled by 3 elder sisters). It's all about upbringing. My grandparents had two boys and they both know(and do)every household chores and they are brought up in village and on the other hand my uncle is only son with 3 sisters brought up in town by educated parents 🤷

Originally posted by: Sailor-Moon

You're only 20, don't worry about all this and enjoy life, take each day as it comes!

If you remember me then please kindly reply on private message

please check it dear I am waiting for your reply

Originally posted by: .Aphrodite.

Don't think too much, u'll be fine🤗

Thanks 🤗 Take care you too ❤️

Originally posted by: prerna4rishav

I know what you mean. You're absolutely correct in your position to be afraid. 10 yrs back there wasn't even this much awareness, hence it was easier by this patriarch system to manipulate women into doing things in an unbalanced way. But now times have changed, and women are getting more and more aware of their rights and about what's right and what's wrong. It's easier to accept bad fate when one doesn't know there are better options to pursue. So now it's time for women to be fully aware and cautious about what they want and choose in life.

In my house, my husband in the primary cook. And there was this game in his office where he revealed this, and to his surprise, even North Americans (Whites) seemed to be doing a 'Wow' reaction. Only then my spouse had to point out that it's very unfortunate that even today it's such uncommon and out-of-the-box scenario. Ours is an arranged marriage and I made it very clear while dating itself that I cannot cook neither do I wish to take up this position at home at any point of time. So this worked out fine. However, even till today even after 7 yrs of marriage, I have to keep hearing this from everyone (not my spouse or family/in-laws) that I intentionally spoil my dishes so that I don't have to cook at home. 😊 Initially I used to be hurt, but now I've learnt to raise my woke voice selectively, so I nod along. So dear, for coming 100 yrs, this imbalance is going to be very much prevalent in some form or the other. So you've to be very careful in clearing these things out much earlier stage in your dating. Also, it's time we spread awareness at our homes to our cousin brothers who are having love marriages, that 50% household chores is their responsibility, no matter whether the girls love them even without that or not. Too many things to take care at home, one has to absolutely pitch in otherwise in a double income household, the one who does everything will eventually have a breaking point and that's not good.

Most important is just be aware and clear about what you want. It's choosing a life partner, not buying a toy. So you have 100% say in this matter, do not compromise on your 'Need' list. Only 'Nice to have' list can be adjusted. If to hold onto your principles and fear, you've to reject many guys in the process, no worries. The right one for you would understand your pov and not cross question you. 😊 Also, anyone can lie too lol. So better is to have a dating period of more than 1 yr at least, so that you can get to know if he has integrity or not. 😆

Wow ...I didn't know that it is same in western society too..

Your husband seems wonderful ❤️

Bold: ❤️ Exactly

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and for your words and advices ..

Take care..🤗❤️

Originally posted by: Sailor-Moon

You're only 20, don't worry about all this and enjoy life, take each day as it comes!

Thanksss🤗Sure ❤️

Originally posted by: Cheesedumplings

Wowww ❤️❤️ So happy to hear that our thinking matched. ...

Hope everything happens for the best for you..

Bold: Thank you so much🤗🤗

And dont worry n dont think much you are just 20 u have lot of time to enjoy so just enjoy each and every second of this phase im sure u will have beautiful life ahead all the best

Originally posted by: bips

My mom told me one thing - jo cheez ek bar bardaasht karloge woh baar baar karni padhegi

So learn to raise your voice. You are just 20. If you feel you are timid or reserved or introvert, then practise speaking up. Learn to say no to people. Learn to tell people when they cross the line

Marriage is a lottery. And no one will come to fight your daily battles for self respect for you. So learn to fight for yourself.

Thank you so much 🤗

Yeah, exactly this is my problem. I am learning.

Originally posted by: TeluguChokri

Thank you for this TM❤️

Its like you have written what's in my mind. I have never been in relationships and it do scares me like you. And in few years marriage pestring will come from Parents which even scare me like how to spend whole with a person. i feel its better to be single whole life but I know unfortunately this cannot be possible. Its as if you written my fears

Thank you everyone who have given their thoughts and advices. It does help to think and introspect our ownself and life🤗

Lets hope for the best and prepare for the worst ⭐️

I am feeling now that there are many like me ..who has these scary thoughts about relationship..

Yes, so grateful so many people replied, shared valuable thoughts, advises, experiences..

Take care 🤗 Hope everything works good for you. Hope all these fears would only remain as fears.