Originally posted by: pratyay
I guess at a preliminary level, ani and mini both lost the chance to be with someone they love. If one looks deeper, it can be seen that Ani has a lot more burden to bear than Mini in this matter. A guy who went against the whole village and didn't think once about anything else but saving a little girl's life, imagine how difficult it will be for him to accept that he did injustice to the girl he loved.
I don't think so when he made up his mind to fight for women, he might have thought of raising his voice for them, getting them educated, save them from sati/balvivah. He didn't expect himself to marry a little girl, solve her bed wetting problems and other stuff. Or pay such a personal price for it.
Pati hu main, patni hey woh meri...He plays this card coz "Riwaaz ki riwaaz ko kaat tha hai" sometimes. It gives him the right above everyone else to decide for bondita which till date did only good for her, even though his personal zidd was involved. So, I made peace with it. The way he got worried when bondu stopped breathing forcefully or she became ill, its not because he accepted her as his wife, its because he is a good human at heart.
Had he been an activist and if this happened to a woman who is barely associated with him, he would more or less react the same way.
Ani has a golden heart but because of upbringing and his lifestyle, he can be a royal ass or entitled prick sometimes. He is not calm and humble. "Uske iraade sahi hai uske tarike Bondu ki sangath mein teekh hojayengey" is what I feel. He will learn humility from her and work on his flaws to become a better man.
From the beginning, Ani can't let go, its not in his nature. He is unable to let go off Mini which is double standard but makes him human too. He didn't take the decision to marry bondu thoughtfully and after marriage, all he was doing is fighting with family to give bondu a home. He never got closure, or even time to process things and get closure. I guess mini reminds him of love, of romantic aspect between a man and woman and when she reminds him of bondita as his patni, bile rises in his throat. He can't see himself associated that way with a little girl and he cringes and vehemently denies.
Woh zimmedari hai actually means our relationship is purely platonic.
Mini knows Ani inside out, his flaws and weaknesses too. She is tapping into them and he is giving into that. In due time, he will understand the err in his ways.
I think it will be bondita who will fall for Ani first. He will always see their marriage as nothing but a necessity. Their age gap will be a problem for him or a matter of insecurity when she grows up if he starts feeling for her. He is against balvivah and for him to accept his marriage as valid in every sense will be tough. He will be a middle aged man, with much more self restraint in his thoughts. And bondu will teach him to embrace love in the package it comes.
Personally I am against couple with such wide gap in age, but sometimes exceptions must be made
Too much rant...
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