Originally posted by: moonv
It is completely OK to expect a homely wife. Todays generation just want to do one work. Why marry when you do not want to work towards building relationship and creating family. Modernization my foot.
Oh it is absolutely okay if you want to marry a girl who wants to be a homemaker after all managing home isn't cake walk. But the problem arises when a man marries a woman who wants to work after marriage, but he or his family wants a homemaker and expect the wife to sacrifice her desire for his convenience.
In my family my mother is one of the best woman as far as today's thinking is concerned. She wanted to work after marriage and also raise kids. She equally did her job and put time in raising her kids and building a family. My father too contributed with his work and working together with my mother to make a family.
I can't comment on your family matter. When your mother or any women manages both work and home equally, they consider it as the normal thing, but when husband helps the woman in the kitchen or in household duties, it is considered as contributing or some extraordinary thing. Isn't managing both is his responsibility?
You can manage household duties without affecting your profession, if it is a government job or 9 to 6 job, however if you are in a responsible position in the corporate sector or in any security, defense related profession sometimes husband has to make compromises.
But todays women just want to work for job or business and not concentrate on household work. This is where thinking differs and I pity todays thinking.
You cannot change the fact that Mother Nature even in animal kingdom that males must provide financial and all security and females must take care of family.
But there is a difference between the animal world and human world, the ability to think, intelligence, etc. Among animals sometimes the male doesn't have any importance other than procreation. Should we follow the same thing?
Now its OK for females to work but dont marry if you expect to work after marriage and be casual about household work. Men must support women and praise their wives and provide the family financially well. Case closed!
You really believe that, case closed with the mere support of men in household duties and with the praise and woman should work like a machine serving husband and his family and she can work if she could do it without letting it affect her household responsibility ?
There are woman who wants to focus just career, but gets hitched due to the pressure of society. But that is a minority, usually problem arises when the husband or family expects women to sidetrack career to focus household duties mainly.
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