Originally posted by: alina.b
Omgggg I LOVED THIS! Man, that kid Abeer is such a cutie...he's going places! I related to this video so much! I only had 2 other indian kids besides me in middle school so I've heard so many of the comments that the kids shared. Once I was going to India and one of my friends is like omg what if your parents force you to marry someone there and you can't come back??? I'm like dude...I'm 15, that's illegal, and my parents aren't crazy. The stereotypes people have about Indians and India are so problematic.
The thing I related with the most was being confused about your identity. So, I never thought I would talk about this here so I really hope you guys don't change your opinion about me. In real life, I'm a bit different. I've always felt like I was never American enough for Americans and never Indian enough for Indians. I've been called coconut (Brown on outside and white on inside) so many times. My whole life, I haven't really had many Indian friends. So when I came to college, I met a lot of Indians but I never felt like I fit in then one day someone called me a "white-washed" Indian and tbh it made me insecure. They obviously didn't know me well because, as you guys can tell, I am very connected to my culture but in real life, I don't flaunt it. It made me realize that I need a deeper connection than just same race to be friends with someone. My current friend group is all first-generation kids from different cultures and we share our cultures with each other.
In general, I haven't had good experiences with other Indian-Americans so I actively started avoiding Indians on purpose because I always constantly felt judged. I don't make Indian friends, don't want an Indian roommate, and don't take classes with Indian profs. But then, my dad pointed out that what I was doing is called Internalized racism. I am in a place where my exposure to Indians is very limited and I made my judgement based on that small sample. So, I am trying hard to change my mindset and being more open and honestly, this forum has played a huge role in this. When I was telling my best friend about you guys, she said well looks like you finally found some good Indian friends because I've always wanted people I could share my similarities and cultures without the fear of being judged. Wow, I tell you guys too much about me 😆