Originally posted by: ditty
I shud say men r finacially more stable, Sarita was broke , so considering the Kids' future, the father gets the custody of the child. But its very very unfair on the mother 😕
A lot of Marriages seem to be falling apart, God, keep my surya and jyothika safe!
And do they all feel the kids are going to be hppy whn their parents r separated? I was damn depressed when my parents went thru a rough phase of marriage, luckily for me, they decided to remain together and leve behind the past;I can't even think of the other side!
I'm so happy for you, Ditts 😊
I read Shruti Kamal's interview a few years ago, when they asked her probing questions about the split, she said that she and her sister were actually OK! She said that it actually hurts the children of such parents a lot, to be living in a hostile environment (i.e. if they decide not to split). While it is mostly (and unarguably) true that children of divorced/separated parents do suffer to some extent, missing one parent or the other, it also seems to do them some good, if the situation had been terrible, prior to the divorce. Well.. there are always exceptions in both cases - if children are going to live peacefully this way or the other. But if the Parents, like in your case, sacrifice for the sake of their children and decide to move on together, it is the best that they can do to their children.
You had mentioned Saritha's case.. don't know exactly what happened there. I'm not sure how the Indian family court decides the custody of children... but in the US, it is not about who is financially more stable. It is decided based on who is more fit to raise the children.
This is what I know from what I've read before. Unless the father can prove that the mother is unfit to keep the children citing drug abuse or disease or whatever else, the law will favor the mother to keep custody of her children even if she is penniless, and ask the father to pay alimony and child support to the mother every single month, until he dies and thereafter, from his estates, if he has any.