My House, My Rules - Aa Jao Saarey - Full Update Page 1 - Page 9

Originally posted by: najma123

Precisely! Idk if parents get that, I don't know if my parents even know how much their trust in me means to me, but it means a frigging lot. And if Babita were to distrust Mini anyway, she'd be like, after being faithful if what I get in return is brickbacks, why try to be good? When you get blamed for being good and unnecessarily doubted, might as well indulge in tomfoolery and bad behaviour and get scolded justifiably. Idk what her past behaviour has been, but no past behaviour of a daughter deserves the kind of suspicion that Babita had, and definitely no correlation with Meeta

On point

Trust is important.

Nor did hs trust her nor did her mother.

Originally posted by: najma123

The main intention of the writer was to ensure Mini and Babita do NOT get the point, coz they were a mishit. The bull's eye was the mishit. Things spiralled down and that's the point. Those things he said was wrong! It doesn't matter if he's the chief of the house, he cannot say his wife is doing her a favour by keeping her there. And otherwise she'll have no place to be.

@bold he did not say that.

Originally posted by: najma123

Babita wants a normal family, normal by societal standards. Her family is different. It consists of two people who have remarried for love and her daughter, who has a great bond with her husband, who is also her uncle. Their relationship is unique. This is THEIR normal. It's never gonna be the normal family, where father is the head, wife handles the kitchen and kids are disciplined by the fathers and are told how to talk and behave. Their normal is a different one. And she can't fix their circular relationship into the box that every family has around them coz it's not a box.

@bold, this is the crux of the problem here.

Originally posted by: tk2015

Also, Ashok didn't kick her out of the house. Like everyone here stated, she left on her own free will. Moreover, he wanted her back in the house.

He even tried to pressurise Babes when he got them a cab to go home once because meri beti's safety and all that. Minnie never left her Babes because it was her choice.

exactly ashok wanted mini to be with him because babita had no where to go. even beeju dadu wanted it. Mini could have chosen safety & luxury then instead of walking out with her mom. or she could have just been a normal child stayed quiet and cried in a corner like babes after Ashok mita came home. babita wouldnt have dared to leave house and dadu beeji wouldnt have allowed to leave also. Mini could just have joined her dream college later as ashok had the money then and left the madhouse behind. this is what most children do. they dont hold their mothers hand and walk out of their house rather the mothers hold their hand and walk out.

I surprised babita dint feel ashamed that she got HS to say all this to her daughter. that ashok threw them out and she should be thankful to HS and babita to keep her here. Mini orphan nhi hai nor she is a beggar

All three want to become a victim

Mini with her boo hoo I did so much for Babes and yet I am all alone, I have no one, I am a survivor rant

Hanuman with his oh my wife is pressuring me, is demanding and is suffocating rant

and Babita with her confused society rant

What a class family!😆

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

She needs to have the kind of discipline in which she becomes clear that things would not always work her way.. She cannot shout or do whatever she pleases.. there needs to be boundaries while talking. (this is separate from Babita calling her a second woman because for that Babita needs to be scolded) but Mini does not need a good sitting down..

Babita and Hanuman were grown up individuals with no strings attached.. If you have noticed, Babita's problems with MM grew more when she learned about Preet being in the picture..

Teri shadi kese hogi is the kind of thing most conservative desi moms say.. And thats the whole point.. Babita is still battling soceity for her second marriage.. How easily NB's son called himself shareef compared to himself.. She might have found love again but she continues to be degraded for it, by her own daughter too.. Would she want that for her daughter? No

And today was a wrong day to set boundaries in the house! Not when a lot of other things have happened. Things have a right time and place.

Originally posted by: tantal

When you are fighting with some one a decent man doesn't hit below the belt or hit at a sore point to gain extra points. HS's comments about Ashok throwin Minnie out and that he will throw her out if she goes against their wishes were exactly that.. uncharitably harsh, below the belt comments. Because he knows Minnie cannot leave the home even if she wants since she is not financially capable yet.

I don't think mature, educated, sensible parents threaten to throw their teenage children out of the homes. Because their is a very real risk that the children, out of frustration and anger, will take it to heart and run away from home. The fact that HS thought nothing of threatening to throw Minnie out of HIS home (so Minnie is an outsider and has no rights to his step-father's property?) shows that he doesn't even care if Miinie actuallygets hurt enough to leave home. Either he thinks Minnie is not impulsive or hot-headed enough (not true) or he simply doesn't care.

He has already told Minnie when she apologized to him that he would send her out if she crossed the line with her bad behavior. She laughed it off then, but today it's become serious.

Originally posted by: kriya_12

exactly it was another blow to her soul .

in a way minni should get into her calling , get more than ever involve in her studies thus shaping her career & get herself out of all the emotional unpleasantness or part of her will be each day crushed with the adjustments & compromises .

To constantly hear you are no longer needed. You are a third wheel.you have pathetic character , this house is mine and your mom's , your father threw you out and your mother did a favour and i am only doing this as a favour coz of your mom can be a big blow for anyone.

Instead study and make a career and be happy.

Originally posted by: najma123

No, but she needs to know after facing so much shit that this supposed shareef society is superficial and hollow. Which she should have figured out when she stood upto a lot of people along the way. And she need not be bothered that loser who wanted to drag his Mom to court called himself shareef. Usse sharafat ka certificate likhwane se zyaada, besharam kehlale. And this isn't one day after her divorce. This is months, months later. When people blamed her for the divorce, when people blamed her more than they blamed Ashok, When Khatri crossed his line. When everyone in that area insulted her, when the house she went to work as a Aaya for, had a guy who made a pass at her. And the place she worked as the supervisor, supported men over men or whatever. She's got to face a LOT more shit as a woman than other women have had to face. For example Ruksana or Kammo, or Lovely or Biji. So she needs to know my daughter would find true love too. Instead of saying, this crap society still calls me besharam and not shareef, I'll ensure that doesn't happen to my daughter.

And today was a wrong day to set boundaries in the house! Not when a lot of other things have happened. Things have a right time and place.

Thats the whole crux.. She has been through hell and back.. She would definitely not want that for her daughter and thus would want her daughter to have a pretty much normal love life with no complications that she had to face

No time would be right to be honest.. Babita did not have an outburst since days.. Did that change things? No.. Mini continued with her self-wallowing, Hanuman continued as per usual.. Nothing was changing and would not have changed

I am not saying Hanuman was right.. He made some really below the belt comments.. But thats what Hanuman does when he feels cornered.. Like Babita's character remark

I don't even have the energy to discuss today's episode. It was just 😒 🤔