The Roles in a Marriage - Page 2

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Come to think of it, how is Babita able to even resist when she has such a hot man? Ab yese kabtak paisi rehna hai 🤣

Wahi to!

kuch bhi bana rakha hai babita ke character ko.. her things were shifted to other room minnie decorated it.. now it is not possible ki she didnt know abt all this.. kabhi lagta hai shaadi me jo kaand hua bcz of that she is doing this otherwise it would had gone just the way we nd HS thought.. ek bed pe so bhi lete.. then sumtyms i feel usko bahana mil gaya to run away which is absurd bcz she should have said all this things earlier.. pata nai kya kar rahe .. on the top of all this the Prod. justify her every move 😕

THIS. Thanks a ton for this post. The way Babita is behaving with Hanuman, is beyond my understanding. Shadi is not only about being intimate with your partner but being married doesn't mean serving delicacies to your husband 24*7 either. When Hanuman asked Babita to sit and have pakodas with him, couldn't she even spare some time to give him company? If she wanted to wait for Mini, she could have done it very well by telling him that she would eat with Mini but why couldn't she sit with him and talk? Her behaviour pinched me and even HS' expressions changed for a moment but he covered up his hurt eventually and applauded her for being truthful and Babita took pride in that. Like seriously?

Also, the way she told him earlier that it wasn't about Mini, she was the one who needed time, I didn't like that. Why is it so awkward to share a room with the man whom you have decided to marry by your own will? It's not like he will force you to have sex with him. Hanuman Singh is more than that. Talk to your husband and tell him what is going on in your mind. This is what marriage is all about. And I don't agree with the opinion that Babita will learn things with time. It doesn't take 100 years for a 37 year old woman to understand that she needs to give time and company to her husband. The other day when she was complaining that Ashok never talked to her, I felt bad for her. But now, she has a husband who is ready to move mountains to placate her and what she does? Takes him for granted. I don't even want to get started on the way she bossed him yesterday.

Isse behtar to shadi ke pehle the. Kum se kum baatein karte to the.

And I am waiting for the day jab Hanuman ke sabr ka baandh tutega. She is not being fair to him and yet he is silently absorbing all the pain she is making him suffer through. Ye jyada din chal hi nahi sakta. Shaadi ka rishta sirf tabhi tak safal ho sakta hai jab usme dono taraf se koshishe ho. Yaha Babita ki taraf se koi koshish dikhti hi nahi. Hell, she doesn't even understand that she is hurting him. It is very surprising for me atleast. The woman who has craved love all her life, would always try to keep her second marriage working by putting in all efforts she can (Don't get me wrong. I don't expect her to let go of her individuality at any time). Par yaha to ulti ganga hi beh rahi hai.

P.S : Not related to the topic but I miss my Hanniee. It hurts me the most that they both aren't able to understand each other. I can't see them aloof.

I don't know but I feel these are all unnecessary complications being thrown in by the writers. Given their caliber, they could have written a much realistic scenario for the adjustments people have to make in a second marriage.

I just don't understand that the three people who were more than happy living together under the same roof without giving any name to their relationship, are all sad when they have finally become a family, officially. Second marriages are not bad but the writers are hell bent on destroying the essence of the love and respect all three have for each other. I expected better from PB makers. Sorry for the rant.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

This is what I don't understand either. Babita can need all the time in the world, but why is she getting Minnie involved in all this by sleeping with her. Thats quite awkward for Minnie as well. She's 17, obviously she knows what marriage entails, and to see her newly married mom sleep with her, she sure knows somethings up. Babita should keep this just between her and HS. Ek hi bed mein sojate toh kya farak padna hai... its not like HS is gonna touch her or anything if she doesn't wanna be touched . They are both adults and can control themselves lol. Maintain a safe distance and sleep in the same damn bed. Agar yeh nahi karenge toh how will they form that comfort level.

P.S. I am glad Minnie kicked her out of her room 😆

And even HS is not suggesting ki atleast room mein toh reh lo even if you need time. He’s just blindly nodding along to everything Babita asks. Neither of them are thinking about the awkwardness for Mini when she sees that they can’t even share a room 😕

Yeah, it’s good Mini kicked her out literally 😆....Babes ko har cheez jhatke se hi samjhaani padti hai. But the point remains ki Babita made this embarrassing for her own daughter and no one pointed this out 🤷‍♀️....

Or wait...HS said something about how Babita needlessly put him and Mini through stress by lying last night....maybe that’s what he was trying to tell Babita 🤔....but I don’t think she comprehended...or probably didn’t want to since she landed back in Mini’s room in the precap 🤷‍♀️😂

Originally posted by: Jiarao

HS clearly shows attraction in his body language, and affection in eyes. He is just waiting for her consent. But Babitha's body language and eyes neither show attraction nor affection for him . Then why on earth she decided to marry him? .

Arey she showed na yesterday that she thinks shaadi is about doing Seva, serving chai naashta, khaana etc 😆.

She married him so he could be a father to Mini and as a “bonus” he gets Babita ke haath ka khaana and possibly in the future as extra bonus, she MAY agree to share a room with him. Itne toh faayde hain is shaadi mein 😛

Originally posted by: AreYaar

And even HS is not suggesting ki atleast room mein toh reh lo even if you need time. He’s just blindly nodding along to everything Babita asks. Neither of them are thinking about the awkwardness for Mini when she sees that they can’t even share a room 😕

Yeah, it’s good Mini kicked her out literally 😆....Babes ko har cheez jhatke se hi samjhaani padti hai. But the point remains ki Babita made this embarrassing for her own daughter and no one pointed this out 🤷‍♀️....

Or wait...HS said something about how Babita needlessly put him and Mini through stress by lying last night....maybe that’s what he was trying to tell Babita 🤔....but I don’t think she comprehended...or probably didn’t want to since she landed back in Mini’s room in the precap 🤷‍♀️😂

Sometime I feel Babita is confused about her feelings... She want him but won't sit with him and talk or share a room with him... She wants his attention but when he needs her attention she won't give...

Aisi basic si cheese koun batayega yaar Babita ko... OK she never experienced all this but when she is getting a chance why is she escaping... If she will be with him tabhi to the will get used to him....

Originally posted by: rr66

kuch bhi bana rakha hai babita ke character ko.. her things were shifted to other room minnie decorated it.. now it is not possible ki she didnt know abt all this.. kabhi lagta hai shaadi me jo kaand hua bcz of that she is doing this otherwise it would had gone just the way we nd HS thought.. ek bed pe so bhi lete.. then sumtyms i feel usko bahana mil gaya to run away which is absurd bcz she should have said all this things earlier.. pata nai kya kar rahe .. on the top of all this the Prod. justify her every move 😕

I keep wondering about the same. Is she behaving like this cuz of the CD incident or would she have been like this after shaadi regardless? 😕

Originally posted by: AaishaM

THIS. Thanks a ton for this post. The way Babita is behaving with Hanuman, is beyond my understanding. Shadi is not only about being intimate with your partner but being married doesn't mean serving delicacies to your husband 24*7 either. When Hanuman asked Babita to sit and have pakodas with him, couldn't she even spare some time to give him company? If she wanted to wait for Mini, she could have done it very well by telling him that she would eat with Mini but why couldn't she sit with him and talk? Her behaviour pinched me and even HS' expressions changed for a moment but he covered up his hurt eventually and applauded her for being truthful and Babita took pride in that. Like seriously?

Also, the way she told him earlier that it wasn't about Mini, she was the one who needed time, I didn't like that. Why is it so awkward to share a room with the man whom you have decided to marry by your own will? It's not like he will force you to have sex with him. Hanuman Singh is more than that. Talk to your husband and tell him what is going on in your mind. This is what marriage is all about. And I don't agree with the opinion that Babita will learn things with time. It doesn't take 100 years for a 37 year old woman to understand that she needs to give time and company to her husband. The other day when she was complaining that Ashok never talked to her, I felt bad for her. But now, she has a husband who is ready to move mountains to placate her and what she does? Takes him for granted. I don't even want to get started on the way she bossed him yesterday.

Isse behtar to shadi ke pehle the. Kum se kum baatein karte to the.

And I am waiting for the day jab Hanuman ke sabr ka baandh tutega. She is not being fair to him and yet he is silently absorbing all the pain she is making him suffer through. Ye jyada din chal hi nahi sakta. Shaadi ka rishta sirf tabhi tak safal ho sakta hai jab usme dono taraf se koshishe ho. Yaha Babita ki taraf se koi koshish dikhti hi nahi. Hell, she doesn't even understand that she is hurting him. It is very surprising for me atleast. The woman who has craved love all her life, would always try to keep her second marriage working by putting in all efforts she can (Don't get me wrong. I don't expect her to let go of her individuality at any time). Par yaha to ulti ganga hi beh rahi hai.

P.S : Not related to the topic but I miss my Hanniee. It hurts me the most that they both aren't able to understand each other. I can't see them aloof.

I don't know but I feel these are all unnecessary complications being thrown in by the writers. Given their caliber, they could have written a much realistic scenario for the adjustments people have to make in a second marriage.

I just don't understand that the three people who were more than happy living together under the same roof without giving any name to their relationship, are all sad when they have finally become a family, officially. Second marriages are not bad but the writers are hell bent on destroying the essence of the love and respect all three have for each other. I expected better from PB makers. Sorry for the rant.

Word! Especially to all you said in bold. My thoughts exactly 👏🏻

The biggest disconnect right now is that Babita is behaving like this when she herself initiated the marriage proposal...she wasn’t forced or compelled into this shaadi....she displayed signs of yearning for HS before the shaadi, talked about stuff like worrying he may not love her enough...but now suddenly she can’t bear to share a room with him or have a basic convo with him without dictating to him 🙄

And I may have taken it in stride as Babita ke issues, but nobody calling out the unfairness is bothering me....HS just being a yes man to all these unfair demands is also bothering me....if he had shown some level of regular reaction...not an outburst but Kuch toh to show that he doesn’t find this right, would have been more understandable.

So yes, I would like to see his sabar ka baandh breaking as well, but seems like it’s gonna continue like this for a while.

If this is all still part of the Amrit Manthan analogy, even then it doesn’t add up. Even previously, despite knowing that he will need to give time for Babita’s poison to churn out, HS did take a stand when she was going way overboard.

But now, he isn’t. His attempts at overcompensating to all her demands are kinda making me cringe.

And yes, the ultimate point....these three were already living together comfortably under one roof for so long before, so this level of breakdown, even because of new dynamics is feeling a tad forced...they could have shown the conflicts in a better manner given their writing caliber, as you said.

And I miss HS-Mini the most too. I feel like without fixing their issue, nothing will feel right :(

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Arey she showed na yesterday that she thinks shaadi is about doing Seva, 1. serving chai naashta, khaana etc 😆.

2. She married him so he could be a father to Mini and as a “bonus” he gets Babita ke haath ka khaana and possibly in the future as extra bonus, she MAY agree to share a room with him. Itne toh faayde hain is shaadi mein 😛

2. But Mini ko to yeh father chahiye hi nahi. Babitha ke haath ka khaana to patiala babes se order kar sakta tha. Arre haan iss maharani se room share karna toh bahut garv ki baat hoga HS ke liye. Ab yeh toh bahut bada faayda hai. Bahut punya kamaaye honge usne jo BABITHA ji se room share karne ka mauka mil raha hai use😆

Originally posted by: porankisrilata

Sometime I feel Babita is confused about her feelings... She want him but won't sit with him and talk or share a room with him... She wants his attention but when he needs her attention she won't give...

Aisi basic si cheese koun batayega yaar Babita ko... OK she never experienced all this but when she is getting a chance why is she escaping... If she will be with him tabhi to the will get used to him....

Yeah it’s quite likely Babita is confused about her feelings...but my problem is that the writers are not showing her emotional conflict properly...like in every scene, Kuch nuance needs to be there in her body language to show she does want him but holds back for some reason.

Instead, they are showing things like her saying she is giving him honesty by telling him she wants to eat with Mini and can’t sit with him. 😕....makes her look like a robot.

I guess Poonam or NB might have a convo with Babita eventually about her behavior...but again, the writers will likely try to say she’s behaving like this cuz she is feels torn between being a mother and a wife. But the actual scenes don’t reflect this....wife toh chhodo, she isn’t giving basic friendship and affection to HS...guilty mother excuse can’t justify that.