Is Babita at fault - Page 2

Originally posted by: sanoniti

Hai deefy 89 dear sorry if my coment offended you anyways but iam not saying babitha is flawless offcourse she have flaws but whenever she is wrong every one discussed it here and said babitha is getting on my nerves and said more things i had no problem that time but my problem is when she is no fault at all why everone is blaming her.

Sanoniti you did not offend me at all I was jus disagreeing with you 😃 I didn’t mean for it to come across as tho I was offended.

I don’t see it as people blaming babita but let’s be honest, she’s making this about how and doing her usual over the top emotional drama.

It’s not that hs is wrong either, he’s just lashing out because of his issues. The point I was trying to say is when babita was going thru her issues hs helped her but when he’s going thru issues she’s not standing by him.

It’s good to disagree and put different points across. We all see things differently at the end of the day.

Perhaps the ppl who like hs character don’t like how babita is abandoning him at the first sign of trouble when he stuck by her even when he was being ridiculed and his character was being questioned.

Ps I think this whole imarti murder drama was only recently thought up by makers. Otherwise why when babita first lived by him Khatri etc was saying that she’s living with a man who’s single and a drunkard. Surely if he had been charged of homicide they’d call him criminal/murderer also?

No hard feelings I hope? We are just all discussing our point of views and agreeing or disagreeing with each other 😊

Originally posted by: deefy89

I believe it comes from a good place but it’s perhaps her execution that’s wrong which leads him to lash out. Let’s not forget initially he lashed out to make it easier for them to move out and since then you’re right it’s been a downward spiral. I agree it’s a confusing time for her (which hs has understood and been patient about from the start) and I think it’s now her time to give a little understanding, knowing that it’s not just her with issues, hs also has issues and this is the first woman since imarti that he’s loved. If they can show her doing this I believe the both of them together with their issues can work thru it. They’ve both got a ton of emotional baggage and babita should correlate from minis depression that just because a person appears happy on the outside doesn’t mean he’s torn on the inside. They’ve never once shown her attempt to understand his pain. Mini has done so where she tried to get him to open up. I personally would like to see babita doing this 😃

I would love her to be his rock like he was hers after ashok

On a side note I hope they don’t drag this out. Instead of babita being against him I hope she trusts the man she knows like mini does and they overcome it as a family. Yes it’s hard because hs is lashing out, but that’s what ppl do don’t they? They push ppl away from them. This whole incident will hopefully threaten them

Hmmm maybe yes HS’s sad side was not seen before because he never tried to show it but thing is that side was never shown even when he was with Naeem bee or Lala....Imarti was not a discussed topic earlier ...yes wat v only realised was that she had passed away and he loved her but that again is natural as he is young and he loved his wife (a natural husband wala sentiment)...but it also felt that his present is Babita and he seemed mesmerised by her ....he never had memories of Imarti before or never saw her glimpse in Babita ...he loved Babita as Babita

Yes she needs to stand by him but I feel she will...has he tried to open up to her as she did to him...he stood by her ...but even she always came out with her feelings ...she involved him even in situations where her family was involved where Ashok was involved..where Mini was involved...where some sensitive things like her depression was involved...it is both sides...if a person apparently decides to keeps things to himself/herself no one will forcefully try to get into that....plus she has actually started taking interest in him his issues lately...at the same time I recollect they showed once that she makes him cry as he has feelings for Imarti which he does not express ...to make him come out with it she tries asking him abt Imarti and finally he cries out loud ....so it is not that she is insensitive....right now also inspite of his behaviour she still keeps going to him..waits for him to come back ...does not eat till he is home... the Babita we know might have just kept away...switched off after bearing humiliation first time..but she has not done that...so actually there is change but the person she is v can’t expect her to react every now and then...rather v might get confused how she can change so much ...like how we are right now due to HS’s change 🙂

Saying ‘ u are crossing your limits by concentrating on some other man when u have your own daughter who needs your attention’ honestly that is character assassination isn’t it.....someone like her might have taken that strongly but here they showed her agn enquiring abt HS in the morn...but I feel this is Hpng constantly now so mayb she needs time ...to think over....to connect the dots...

Originally posted by: tk2015

True, I agree. It's easy for us as audience to say that HS is going through a lot and so his behaviour can be justified to some extent. We can see his turmoil, while Babita has been left out of that suffering. Plus, she just found out that NB lied about Imarti's death and now this comes to surface, she is bound to have inhibitions and doubts about the real reason behind it and why it was hidden from her for so long. Babita started to fall in love with a man after being so harshly betrayed by everyone she held high respect for in her life. Then to hear the person you love say the words that he did, can be a vicious blow to your feelings, your psyche, your self respect. You can start doubting whether you actually know that person or not. I know she will stand by him and help him get out of this. Whether she does so after showing displeasure about the way he behaved with her or after she does some introspection to understand where those bitter words came from, is yet to be seen.

Agree she needs time and she can trust him if he trusts her...and opens up completely

Originally posted by: Peace_Seeker

Exactly. Your words are expression of my thoughts. HS made her realise that he love her and slowly she fell in love with him. Suddenly he has started insulting her for whatever reasons, its difficult to bear na. We need to understand her mindset and her psychology. I was crying along with Babita yesterday. Those harsh words of HS made me cry like a baby.

Yes she really was very hurt

Originally posted by: Reshmi.parekh78

Hmmm maybe yes HS’s sad side was not seen before because he never tried to show it but thing is that side was never shown even when he was with Naeem bee or Lala....Imarti was not a discussed topic earlier ...yes wat v only realised was that she had passed away and he loved her but that again is natural as he is young and he loved his wife (a natural husband wala sentiment)...but it also felt that his present is Babita and he seemed mesmerised by her ....he never had memories of Imarti before or never saw her glimpse in Babita ...he loved Babita as Babita

Yes she needs to stand by him but I feel she will...has he tried to open up to her as she did to him...he stood by her ...but even she always came out with her feelings ...she involved him even in situations where her family was involved where Ashok was involved..where Mini was involved...where some sensitive things like her depression was involved...it is both sides...if a person apparently decides to keeps things to himself/herself no one will forcefully try to get into that....plus she has actually started taking interest in him his issues lately...at the same time I recollect they showed once that she makes him cry as he has feelings for Imarti which he does not express ...to make him come out with it she tries asking him abt Imarti and finally he cries out loud ....so it is not that she is insensitive....right now also inspite of his behaviour she still keeps going to him..waits for him to come back ...does not eat till he is home... the Babita we know might have just kept away...switched off after bearing humiliation first time..but she has not done that...so actually there is change but the person she is v can’t expect her to react every now and then...rather v might get confused how she can change so much ...like how we are right now due to HS’s change 🙂

Saying ‘ u are crossing your limits by concentrating on some other man when u have your own daughter who needs your attention’ honestly that is character assassination isn’t it.....someone like her might have taken that strongly but here they showed her agn enquiring abt HS in the morn...but I feel this is Hpng constantly now so mayb she needs time ...to think over....to connect the dots...

Agree with you.

Bold - I don’t see it as a character assassination I see it as him pushing her away by being hurtful on purpose. As he did when mini wanted to move out.

She knows hs and knows his respect for women so just like what happened with mini where when the person lashes out she should know not to take it seriously. It would have hurt her I know, but love often hurts doesn’t it, whether it’s words, actions etc.

I do hope she sticks by him. I didn’t like how as soon as he said he’s responsible for imarti’s death she once again acted selfish and emotional. Instead of trying to figure out what he meant, trying to get the whole story she immediately wants to move out.

I applaud how they’ve shown mini the last few days. It just shows the impact Hs has on her. She trusts him with all her heart. That’s real love right there

You explained it beautifully.. loved it..I can understand Babita’s thought process.. she had gone through so much in her life.. she had faith in every relationship and everyone betrayed her except her daughter... she was already a naive and innocent girl and after going through so much she lost all the confidence.. that’s the reason she has trust issues.. Patiala babes story is almost similar to my Aunt’s story ..18 years of marriage, 17 years old daughter.. her husband never behaved well with her, she had to stay with her in laws and husband stayed somewhere else, now he wants divorce because he wants to marry his girlfriend ... he doesn’t want to give a single penny to my Aunt and my cousin..my aunt used to be a very confident and mature person before her marriage.. now she lost her confidence.. she always doubts herself.. doesn’t trust anybody.. all these years of suffering affected her a lot..I can understand why Babita is always scared, why she is always in dilemma and can’t decide anything for herself..

Originally posted by: deefy89

I applaud how they’ve shown mini the last few days. It just shows the impact Hs has on her. She trusts him with all her heart. That’s real love right there

Completely agree with this. She is looking more and more like daddy's girl, picking up not just his teachings but also his mannerisms.

Honestly, I never expected their bond to receive so much attention in the story and to be treated with so much care. It is true love indeed.

I remember a while ago when she had declared to Mickey and Preet that what she shared with her mother was true love. Well, this is something else altogether.

I must appreciate Aniruddh for accepting to play a father, that too to a grown-up girl despite his hesitation earlier. He really loves his craft. Very admirable.

Originally posted by: deefy89

Agree with you.

Bold - I don’t see it as a character assassination I see it as him pushing her away by being hurtful on purpose. As he did when mini wanted to move out.

She knows hs and knows his respect for women so just like what happened with mini where when the person lashes out she should know not to take it seriously. It would have hurt her I know, but love often hurts doesn’t it, whether it’s words, actions etc.

I do hope she sticks by him. I didn’t like how as soon as he said he’s responsible for imarti’s death she once again acted selfish and emotional. Instead of trying to figure out what he meant, trying to get the whole story she immediately wants to move out.

I applaud how they’ve shown mini the last few days. It just shows the impact Hs has on her. She trusts him with all her heart. That’s real love right there

Yes Mini seriously loves him a lot ...but they have a bond ...which is much before her mother and HS’s bond ...but having said that yes she is so much for him ...first time she went against her mother for someone

This is exactly I am thinking thank you for putting in words.i felt , a lot of them are HS fans so it bound to happen. Now with imarti in the picture, I am afraid babita voice will be shut. I just feel cvs are portraying babita as weak woman. It is mini or HS always helping wonder when the cvs will show babita as a strong woman.

Originally posted by: Devilow0405

This is exactly I am thinking thank you for putting in words.i felt , a lot of them are HS fans so it bound to happen. Now with imarti in the picture, I am afraid babita voice will be shut. I just feel cvs are portraying babita as weak woman. It is mini or HS always helping wonder when the cvs will show babita as a strong woman.

Thanks 🙂 basically I also felt the same ...ppl love the character HS...agree he is good but then if the actions are not justified and the person is wrong we should be pointing out to that aswell....Actually showing Babita a strong woman will not help since she is basically shown weak plus impacted by circumstances...it will take time for her to come out of this completely which I see happening...but when her actions are not supported it might go against her ...as in she might lose her confidence further