Is Babita at fault

I read quite a lot of posts where Babita is being blamed for the way she is behaving now ...but somehow I feel for her...don’t know why she is expected to be nice all time ....Mini has a different nature plus she shares a different bond with her Hanuman uncle....but that is not the case with Babita...Babita always looked at him as a good human being...they never shared a close bond...after HS expressed his feelings Babita had not accepted those which was ok as she also had a past ...but good thing is she was clear abt that ...she accepted HS after she could really move on and only recently she has actually started expressing....but her basic nature is soft ...and she has not been shown to be someone who can react strongly immediately...it takes time for such ppl to trust someone ...now they showed that she started trusting him and they actually changed the story line suddenly...

1) Like while complete time HS looked completely in love with Babita suddenly he seems to be confused ...it seems he is too much in love with his late wife...then question is how did he allow himself to fall in love with Babita ..as in I feel that is perfectly fine but then his attitude now seems to be different ...it seems he has not forgotten her to move on with someone else...hence I have the confusion....Babita however accepted him only after she really felt she had moved on ...only after she felt HS is more important than Ashok to her...she rejected Ashok and accepted HS...so she actually has left her past behind...which is more of a honest acceptance....

2) Babita has been expressing her feelings well recently but HS keeps shouting at her...I felt quite bad when he said to her that she was crossing her limits...and should not concentrate on him...but her daughter...this was a deliberate attempt by him as shown ...but why now ...did he not think of all this when he openly expressed his feelings earlier...she was happy in her mother daughter family...it was HS who made her realise that there is more to family and he is there for her...now when she is reciprocating him rejecting her is not easy for her to bear...the hurt pain in her eyes is too much ...was she not happy with what she was doing earlier...u made her have those hopes again and now u suddenly realise that there is some story haunting u that u start insulting her in such a way that it deeply impacts her...let us not forget that she is not strong by nature...v like it or not ...that is how she is and that is how she has portrayed herself...she did not create a different image ever nor did she show that she was in love earlier...so does she deserve this treatment....every moment she is being insulted and every moment now I see that HS keeps making her realise in one way or other that she is not Imarti ...

3) she trusted him as a friend earlier and he knew everything abt her....but he did not do the same though he said he loved her and wanted to marry her (that is different that this is fiction and Imarti story has just been developed) so that time Imarti was not there itself....so he had nothing to tell about her except her goodness....🙂 but that is not the case for us as when we watch something we don’t look at it as if it is a story so ideally how come no one ever felt (not HS nor Naeem bee) nor anyone else to mention this ever...how come Khatri did not say this being the person he is...most importantly why did HS himself not tell Babita abt such an important thing when he was planning to accept her genuinely....then and now there is no connect ...suddenly such a difficult thing can’t be introduced as the story is one for us ....so this is wrong on HS’s part if v look at the entire story as one and forget that this is fiction...

She is confused shattered when suddenly everything around her is so confusing ....’this man behaved as if he loved me but now he behaves as if I m behind him...was he really in love with me ever’...will this not be the question she will ask herself....’I was happy in my new world but suddenly he made me realise that there is more to life...but was that the case....or am I mad...am I again being deceived for the second time’..let us not forget what has happened in her life...she can’t go thru all that again ...how can she trust him when she has just started knowing him...and did he trust her ....will she not feel that this was never discussed with her...I think she had the right to know this ....how can such a big thing be hidden from her...if u think from her perspective she has suddenly been made aware of something which is extremely shocking....and on top of that HS does not even try to explain or update...now he has realised that better they stay away from him ...but did he not think of repercussions earlier....the lady is just not able to manage it all....someone who has just started accepting life is again seeing a dead end...what do we expect her to do ....and let us not forget that she has just started really knowing HS as now her feelings are different ....now she is confused between what is real and what is a belief....

I feel personally Babita is not at fault ....it is not right to blame her....we can’t compare Mini and Babita...as not only are they two different individuals but the circumstances they came from and now they are in are both different....I feel HS if really loves Babita then he has to trust her...tell her everything abt him ...if he did not do that earlier he can do that now...accept her like how she has accepted him ...be open ...be truthful...then let it be her decision about what she wants to do but first opening up is important...also it is important that he stops behaving so rudely and always reacting so strongly...that he stops hurting her by saying things which are useless baseless....this is the time when he should show her that he needs her the most then let us see what she does ....that time we can talk abt her reaction if she still says he is at fault....

Right now she is def. not at fault....think once from her perspective...hopefully u might agree to what m saying...sorry for the Long write up

True, I agree. It's easy for us as audience to say that HS is going through a lot and so his behaviour can be justified to some extent. We can see his turmoil, while Babita has been left out of that suffering. Plus, she just found out that NB lied about Imarti's death and now this comes to surface, she is bound to have inhibitions and doubts about the real reason behind it and why it was hidden from her for so long. Babita started to fall in love with a man after being so harshly betrayed by everyone she held high respect for in her life. Then to hear the person you love say the words that he did, can be a vicious blow to your feelings, your psyche, your self respect. You can start doubting whether you actually know that person or not. I know she will stand by him and help him get out of this. Whether she does so after showing displeasure about the way he behaved with her or after she does some introspection to understand where those bitter words came from, is yet to be seen.

Originally posted by: Reshmi.parekh78

I read quite a lot of posts where Babita is being blamed for the way she is behaving now ...but somehow I feel for her...don’t know why she is expected to be nice all time ....Mini has a different nature plus she shares a different bond with her Hanuman uncle....but that is not the case with Babita...Babita always looked at him as a good human being...they never shared a close bond...after HS expressed his feelings Babita had not accepted those which was ok as she also had a past ...but good thing is she was clear abt that ...she accepted HS after she could really move on and only recently she has actually started expressing....but her basic nature is soft ...and she has not been shown to be someone who can react strongly immediately...it takes time for such ppl to trust someone ...now they showed that she started trusting him and they actually changed the story line suddenly...

1) Like while complete time HS looked completely in love with Babita suddenly he seems to be confused ...it seems he is too much in love with his late wife...then question is how did he allow himself to fall in love with Babita ..as in I feel that is perfectly fine but then his attitude now seems to be different ...it seems he has not forgotten her to move on with someone else...hence I have the confusion....Babita however accepted him only after she really felt she had moved on ...only after she felt HS is more important than Ashok to her...she rejected Ashok and accepted HS...so she actually has left her past behind...which is more of a honest acceptance....

2) Babita has been expressing her feelings well recently but HS keeps shouting at her...I felt quite bad when he said to her that she was crossing her limits...and should not concentrate on him...but her daughter...this was a deliberate attempt by him as shown ...but why now ...did he not think of all this when he openly expressed his feelings earlier...she was happy in her mother daughter family...it was HS who made her realise that there is more to family and he is there for her...now when she is reciprocating him rejecting her is not easy for her to bear...the hurt pain in her eyes is too much ...was she not happy with what she was doing earlier...u made her have those hopes again and now u suddenly realise that there is some story haunting u that u start insulting her in such a way that it deeply impacts her...let us not forget that she is not strong by nature...v like it or not ...that is how she is and that is how she has portrayed herself...she did not create a different image ever nor did she show that she was in love earlier...so does she deserve this treatment....every moment she is being insulted and every moment now I see that HS keeps making her realise in one way or other that she is not Imarti ...

3) she trusted him as a friend earlier and he knew everything abt her....but he did not do the same though he said he loved her and wanted to marry her (that is different that this is fiction and Imarti story has just been developed) so that time Imarti was not there itself....so he had nothing to tell about her except her goodness....🙂 but that is not the case for us as when we watch something we don’t look at it as if it is a story so ideally how come no one ever felt (not HS nor Naeem bee) nor anyone else to mention this ever...how come Khatri did not say this being the person he is...most importantly why did HS himself not tell Babita abt such an important thing when he was planning to accept her genuinely....then and now there is no connect ...suddenly such a difficult thing can’t be introduced as the story is one for us ....so this is wrong on HS’s part if v look at the entire story as one and forget that this is fiction...

She is confused shattered when suddenly everything around her is so confusing ....’this man behaved as if he loved me but now he behaves as if I m behind him...was he really in love with me ever’...will this not be the question she will ask herself....’I was happy in my new world but suddenly he made me realise that there is more to life...but was that the case....or am I mad...am I again being deceived for the second time’..let us not forget what has happened in her life...she can’t go thru all that again ...how can she trust him when she has just started knowing him...and did he trust her ....will she not feel that this was never discussed with her...I think she had the right to know this ....how can such a big thing be hidden from her...if u think from her perspective she has suddenly been made aware of something which is extremely shocking....and on top of that HS does not even try to explain or update...now he has realised that better they stay away from him ...but did he not think of repercussions earlier....the lady is just not able to manage it all....someone who has just started accepting life is again seeing a dead end...what do we expect her to do ....and let us not forget that she has just started really knowing HS as now her feelings are different ....now she is confused between what is real and what is a belief....

I feel personally Babita is not at fault ....it is not right to blame her....we can’t compare Mini and Babita...as not only are they two different individuals but the circumstances they came from and now they are in are both different....I feel HS if really loves Babita then he has to trust her...tell her everything abt him ...if he did not do that earlier he can do that now...accept her like how she has accepted him ...be open ...be truthful...then let it be her decision about what she wants to do but first opening up is important...also it is important that he stops behaving so rudely and always reacting so strongly...that he stops hurting her by saying things which are useless baseless....this is the time when he should show her that he needs her the most then let us see what she does ....that time we can talk abt her reaction if she still says he is at fault....

Right now she is def. not at fault....think once from her perspective...hopefully u might agree to what m saying...sorry for the Long write up

You’re right about one thing, we can’t compare babita to mini because mini at 17 has more sense than babita ever could. As much as mini needs to work on her temper, babita needs to work on her inability to think before acting out.

I get what’s happened could come as a shock to her. It’s totally understandable. When everything happened with ashok and meeta she chose to blame meeta not Ashok and thought her husband had been seduced whilst abroad. She had blind faith and trust in ashok here so why not with Hs as it stands. Surely if he had really killed his wife he wouldn’t be so distraught over her death? He wouldn’t mention her all the time and get really upset when someone says she’s dead and say she’s not dead she’s alive in my heart?

When she wanted Hs to release ashok from prison (even tho he had broken the law) she expected blind trust and for Hs and mini to do as she asks without any question - they obliged her without any question.

Could the man who won’t even look at her out of respect be a murderer? That to his own wife, who he sits pining for all the time?? It was her who had told naeem bi he’s not over imarti just the other day! Do killers kill the ppl they love then go on loving them 7-8 years later? Would he give mini the key to the trunk if he was hiding the fact that he’s a murderer?

Yes this accusation is really shocking but in my opinion she should really know better. She would, if she didn’t always act emotionally first and think later but she’s always got To put on an emotional drama and then have her teenage daughter telll her to use her brain and think practically.

Exactly. Your words are expression of my thoughts. HS made her realise that he love her and slowly she fell in love with him. Suddenly he has started insulting her for whatever reasons, its difficult to bear na. We need to understand her mindset and her psychology. I was crying along with Babita yesterday. Those harsh words of HS made me cry like a baby.

Hai dear iam a silent reader in this forum till now but regularly i watch PB. Finally a sane post because here everyone turned into Hanuman singh's blind lover.here everyone think about HS pain only .

you remember last time when HS told to NB "mujhe woh pura chayiye adhe adhure nahi"(when she has not moved on from ashok completely).

And now he is saying to NB "main pura bacha hi kahan hoon" seriously i really can't understand him now.

when she wiped her cheeks and hand i cried so much for her. how much his words would have hurted her. but here no one understand her pain sadly instead of they are blaming her she should have trusted him seriously.

And you're absolutly right if he wants her to trust him then he should tell her whole truth instead of hiding and hurting her deliberately.

Sorry double posted

Originally posted by: sanoniti

Hai dear iam a silent reader in this forum till now but regularly i watch PB. Finally a sane post because here everyone turned into Hanuman singh's blind lover.here everyone think about HS pain only .

you remember last time when HS told to NB "mujhe woh pura chayiye adhe adhure nahi"(when she has not moved on from ashok completely).

And now he is saying to NB "main pura bacha hi kahan hoon" seriously i really can't understand him now.

when she wiped her cheeks and hand i cried so much for her. how much his words would have hurted her. but here no one understand her pain sadly instead of they are blaming her she should have trusted him seriously.

And you're absolutly right if he wants her to trust him then he should tell her whole truth instead of hiding and hurting her deliberately.

If you’re a silent reader you should know this statement isn’t true. From the start ppl have been behind babita, every step of the way till she’s reached a point where she’s stagnated in her growth. In fact quite the contrary to what you say because all This time its been about babitas pain not Hs pain it’s only recently started becoming about his pain from the time it started appearing like babita is fond of using him. It’s not that we don’t see her pain it’s that we see his ALSO, where she doesn’t. Hell she can barely see the pain of her daughter most times.

I agree if he wants her to trust him he should be honest however it’s not always easy for men to pour their hearts out (especially when they’re taught it’s not manly to do so). He is hurting right now and just like when mini was hurting, some people lash out. It’s times like this that the people around us who “love” us are meant to be patient, understanding and selfless.

I’d like to point u to the fact that all this time it’s been babita hurting Hs. From calling him “just a landlord” to saying stay away from our lives to calling him interfering.

We are totally behind babita but not blind to her flaws as a person - flaws that show itself even when dealing with her own daughter who she knows better than anyone else

Originally posted by: deefy89

You’re right about one thing, we can’t compare babita to mini because mini at 17 has more sense than babita ever could. As much as mini needs to work on her temper, babita needs to work on her inability to think before acting out.

I get what’s happened could come as a shock to her. It’s totally understandable. When everything happened with ashok and meeta she chose to blame meeta not Ashok and thought her husband had been seduced whilst abroad. She had blind faith and trust in ashok here so why not with Hs as it stands. Surely if he had really killed his wife he wouldn’t be so distraught over her death? He wouldn’t mention her all the time and get really upset when someone says she’s dead and say she’s not dead she’s alive in my heart?

When she wanted Hs to release ashok from prison (even tho he had broken the law) she expected blind trust and for Hs and mini to do as she asks without any question - they obliged her without any question.

Could the man who won’t even look at her out of respect be a murderer? That to his own wife, who he sits pining for all the time?? It was her who had told naeem bi he’s not over imarti just the other day! Do killers kill the ppl they love then go on loving them 7-8 years later? Would he give mini the key to the trunk if he was hiding the fact that he’s a murderer?

Yes this accusation is really shocking but in my opinion she should really know better. She would, if she didn’t always act emotionally first and think later but she’s always got To put on an emotional drama and then have her teenage daughter telll her to use her brain and think practically.

No I am not saying her accusing him is right...if she does that it will be wrong but my points were different...it was more to do with the way HS we saw earlier seems to be completely different from the HS today...and also abt how Babita as a person is being wrongly judged or expected to change suddenly ....also I think Babita right now is going thru a very difficult phase since from the time she started feeling for HS he has started attacking her for no reason...and whenever she tries to tell him something because she cares for him be it stopping him from drinking alcohol or asking him to have his food or then evn genuinely enquiring abt him...he always lashes back at her ...so feel she is quite baffled ...very disturbed plus unable to make an opinion...amidst that suddenly this came up so feel she is totally lost ...we will come to know in the long run abt if she means this ...I don’t think she does ...infact she might be more hurt by the fact that neither HS nor Naeem bee felt like telling her this ...or sharing HS’s past life genuinely with her...she might be hurt to have not known the truth all while or evn not share the pain HS went thru...it is too early to say that she is accusing him...sometimes v take time to come out of a shock and actually give a thought to something ...this seems more like that ..

Originally posted by: Reshmi.parekh78

No I am not saying her accusing him is right...if she does that it will be wrong but my points were different...it was more to do with the way HS we saw earlier seems to be completely different from the HS today...and also abt how Babita as a person is being wrongly judged or expected to change suddenly ....also I think Babita right now is going thru a very difficult phase since from the time she started feeling for HS he has started attacking her for no reason...and whenever she tries to tell him something because she cares for him be it stopping him from drinking alcohol or asking him to have his food or then evn genuinely enquiring abt him...he always lashes back at her ...so feel she is quite baffled ...very disturbed plus unable to make an opinion...amidst that suddenly this came up so feel she is totally lost ...we will come to know in the long run abt if she means this ...I don’t think she does ...infact she might be more hurt by the fact that neither HS nor Naeem bee felt like telling her this ...or sharing HS’s past life genuinely with her...she might be hurt to have not known the truth all while or evn not share the pain HS went thru...it is too early to say that she is accusing him...sometimes v take time to come out of a shock and actually give a thought to something ...this seems more like that ..

I believe it comes from a good place but it’s perhaps her execution that’s wrong which leads him to lash out. Let’s not forget initially he lashed out to make it easier for them to move out and since then you’re right it’s been a downward spiral. I agree it’s a confusing time for her (which hs has understood and been patient about from the start) and I think it’s now her time to give a little understanding, knowing that it’s not just her with issues, hs also has issues and this is the first woman since imarti that he’s loved. If they can show her doing this I believe the both of them together with their issues can work thru it. They’ve both got a ton of emotional baggage and babita should correlate from minis depression that just because a person appears happy on the outside doesn’t mean he’s torn on the inside. They’ve never once shown her attempt to understand his pain. Mini has done so where she tried to get him to open up. I personally would like to see babita doing this 😃

I would love her to be his rock like he was hers after ashok

On a side note I hope they don’t drag this out. Instead of babita being against him I hope she trusts the man she knows like mini does and they overcome it as a family. Yes it’s hard because hs is lashing out, but that’s what ppl do don’t they? They push ppl away from them. This whole incident will hopefully threaten them

Hai deefy 89 dear sorry if my coment offended you anyways but iam not saying babitha is flawless offcourse she have flaws but whenever she is wrong every one discussed it here and said babitha is getting on my nerves and said more things i had no problem that time but my problem is when she is no fault at all why everone is blaming her.