Is Mishti being fair ? Spoiler - Page 4

Hi Vegetarian!

Originally posted by: Vegetarian

This is a very interesting perspective. IMO, the family is primarily to blame because they have never tried to make things normal for Mishti and Kuhu. And Badi Maa is so hyper and emotional that Mishti and Kuhu are forced to act normal and happy in front of her. The rishta switch made it worse because noone in that family bothered to check on Kuhu or her feelings. This has solidified her belief that no one cares for her and Mishti is insensitive to her feelings.

This.. this is the issue and crux of Kuhu's characterization. The only one who really observes her is chachi who is fairly insensitive in the way she goes about this. Varsha is sensitive but tends to be lost in the dim of this family's "noise"

Originally posted by: Vegetarian

None of this justifies Kuhu's tantrums though but I really hope Kuhu stands by Mishti at the end of this track. I know she is blind in Kunal's love at this point but it will be wonderful to see her rise above it and do the right thing at the end of this track.

A lot of her tantrums are tedi ungli to get the ghee out. What is amazing about BigBen is that she has latched on to this hole that none of the Maheshwaris have noticed ever. Kuhu does not know she is being played. In the past her thunder has almost always been stolen by Mishti so she assumes the same is happening now. There is no tantrum here. She is owning her relationship (that is one thing I love about this girl!) and doing something about it.

An example from Monday's episode... Bade Papa ask Mishti if she is okay with the Rishta swap and Mishti says, yes, I have you guys... Whao.. wait.. so there is a problem which she does not care for because of BP and BM? Really!? When did that happen!... They give Mishti these kind of ambiguous dialogues that allow her to bail out on Kuhu. She cannot drop the ball or claim fame when it suits her (which is a bone i need to pick with Abir too!)

Originally posted by: yyyy

This is one topic I wanted to make from a long time but never did for unknown reason . Today’s scene between Kuhu and Mishti made me open this topic . Before I say further I am not supporting anyone here but trying to see the whole situation from different angle

Kuhu and Mishti were never close and their relationship are not like that of sisters but can we blame Kuhu alone for the distance that’s created between them . From the first few episodes we have seen if Kuhu has taunted Mishti then Mishti has never cared for Kuhu’s feelings either be it changing the song at the last minute and forcing Kuhu not to participate in the performance she was so eager to be part of

completely agree even if mish was emotional at the moment ..she should have informed kuhu

or completely ignoring Kuhu’s feelings when the rishta was exchanged and agreeing to marry the guy who rejected her sister

I am sorry ..I don't agree to this...I remember clearly when mish came back from the hospital and badima suggested for mishkun...kuhu was annoyed first but then openly told that I was interested in Kunal but now rishta is for mishti so I don't want to marry now ..and she said in a graceful manner with mish standing in the background so there was no need for mish to ask again

. Add to this have seen “ I did you a favor” attitude from Mishti from quite some time be it during the Job fiasco where Mishti wanted Kuhu to be grateful because Kuhu landed the job because of Mishti rejecting it . Without knowing anything what made Mishti feel that Kuhu did not get the job on her merit . If Meenakshi hadn’t intervened Mishti might not have got the offer first

Well the fact is that mishti got the job first on merit basis and she rejected it so kuhu got selected so even if she gives I did you favour attitude ..that's valid...but I don't think so she gave any attitude

. Today again we saw where Mishti said she is the reason for the rishta happening . If I remember correctly Kuhu never asked Mishti to help but it was Mishti who did on her own for some reason . I am not supporting Kuhu blaming Mishti nor Mishti who thinks all good things in Kuhu’s life is because of her . Tomorrow when the truth of Kunal and Kuhu relationship will be out will Mishti take the blame of that ?

I agree here...but one thing...Abir is also helping kuhu...infact he is more involved...kuhu very conveniently points out Mishti Ko abhir hi Mila tha...did she ever say abir Ko Mishti hi Mili thi?..this goes for Kunal as well...even if they like each other..why blame only mishti...I won't be surprised if tomorrow kuku comes up with a theory that mishbir were in love from the very beginning and that's why Mishti rejected kunal

Another thing which did not go well with me was Mishti claiming Kuhu of coming between her and Kunal during courtship. From what I remember Kuhu never tried creating rift between them nor tried to woo Kunal . I must say in a very dignified manner she handled the rishta exchange and its very sad that none of her family member recognized that . Even during her first date with Kunal Kuhu and Abir tried to save their date by trying to stay away from them . I felt it was unfair of Mishti to blame Kuhu of coming between them .If Kuhu blames Mishti blindly then Mishti is no less .

Absolutely agree..she handled it in a dignified manner...I remember clearly she said to Kunal dubara rishta aaya to reject karungi...what happened after that

Lastly , accusing Kuhu of accepting the bracket from Kunal and trying to woo him was too bad . Kunal and Mishti were in courtship where they were not engaged the question of Kunal being Mishti’s guy doesn’t fit here and secondly if Kuhu secretly loved Kunal the Mishti was getting close to Kunal brother too . She fell in love with Abir during her courtship with Kunal not after her engagement got cancelled . If Kuhu accepted Kunal’s bracket then Mishti and Abir we’re enjoying each other company while working and Mishti had risked her life for Abir’s painting and in no way it was because of friendship

Bracelet thing..there is nothing wrong in accepting gifts...the fact that she did not tell mishti that she got an expensive gift from the person she was counting was wrong...and mishti surely did go out of the way to save painting ...but she had no feelings for Abir at that time or she wasn't aware about her feelings so can't blame her there...unlike kuhu who knew she liked kunal from day 1

Not supporting of blaming anyone...infact I am happy that both abir and mishti have flaws...they make mistakes ...they correct some...some they don't...they tend to be selfish sometimes...and are not always right...may be thats why they are relatable

Hi everyone, first of all this is a really nice post. I’m may or may not agree with everything you said, but I for one like to read or write about every character’s perspective, why and what makes them do what they do. So in that aspect I really enjoyed reading your views from kuhu’s perspective.

I don’t blame kuhu for not wanting mishti to be with Abir. She has always openly claimed she wants to get rid of mishti and this is her one chance to be rid of her in the true sense. Also in this new relationship she wants to feel important at last after all the rishta-swap debacle. When she feels mishti might once again come between her happiness and be given more importance, she feels threatened that she would be sidelined again. So this is one issue I agree with her point.

As for mishti, she does come with her share of shortcomings. Despite her claim to always wanting to be honest with her family, that isn’t the truth, she did fail to address her issues with kuhu to any of the family members and straighten it out. Despite her good intentions, she too is neglecting kuhu’s opinions. Shouldn’t kuhu get the chance to make her decisions, be it right or wrong. It would be her mistakes, she would learn the lesson of life. If kuhu is thinking only about her relationship and happiness, mishti is no different. She too in her love is failing to see the long term picture if both the girls end up in the same family and what kind of relationship they might end up with the current relationship equations they have.

As most of you pointed out the main people who should be blamed for kuhu-mishti indifferences or should I say hate are the elders of the house and I do accept that, but are they the only one to be blamed here? It’s just my opinion that both kuhu and mishti are equally responsible for the mess they are in. The crux of the problem is their pretense in front of the family of unity. We as viewers aren’t privy to their childhood bond as per this show, but maybe even as kids they haven’t gotten well with each other and the elders put it down to just adjustment issues, and overtime the girls decided to pretend.

The most important factor here is the kind of families each girls come from. The fact that mishti comes from a broken family makes the family be more sensitive towards mishti’s emotions and it is true that they still treat her fragile despite she being strong internally. As far as kuhu or kuhu’s feelings, this is her family and it would be totally normal for them to believe she would rightfully demand if she wants anything from them. As kuhu herself pointed out, she’s from a loving family and everyone in the family are her own people, then why would the family even suspect she feels deprived of their love. Also unlike kuhu, mishti doesn’t have the privilege of making any mistakes and asking apologies, because the first thing that would be pointed out is her family background and her adoptive family getting humiliated. Thus, she has to always try to do what she believes is right and this makes her always the responsible and considerate sister and makes the family respect her views. Kuhu on the other hand is not obliged to be like that to her family. This is her family and she loves them as much as they do her. If she makes a mistake, she will ask sorry and they will forgive her. Noone is going to dig through her family history and find faults for her behavior. She doesn’t have to or need to prove anything to her family.

Your post reminded me one thing. Is kuhu nasty to mishti, yes definitely, no question about that, she always hits mishti where it hurts the most, but it is also true that other than mishti she has been considerate towards every other family member, even when jasmeet chachi criticized her. The fact that mishti’s opinions are given considerable thought makes kuhu feel neglected and the facade of carefree attitude she wears to hide her true feelings makes her look obnoxious sometimes to everyone.

So unless the girls facade of sisterhood is broken in front of the family and they are made aware of the years’ worth of difference/hidden hate behind closed doors and they address them, I don’t see how they can come close or even relate to each other emotionally.

Kuhu understanding mishti or vice versa just based on bigben/kunal betrayal would be just a short-term solution, because they didn’t cause the rift between the girls. If a person like bigben can cause so much chaos without being aware of the sisters’ equation, imagine how much damage she can do once she learns of this.

Anyways thanks for the post and a new perspective. Look forward to more posts like this in the forum. Good day everyone.

Originally posted by: Sanleema

Hi everyone, first of all this is a really nice post. I’m may or may not agree with everything you said, but I for one like to read or write about every character’s perspective, why and what makes them do what they do. So in that aspect I really enjoyed reading your views from kuhu’s perspective.

I don’t blame kuhu for not wanting mishti to be with Abir. She has always openly claimed she wants to get rid of mishti and this is her one chance to be rid of her in the true sense. Also in this new relationship she wants to feel important at last after all the rishta-swap debacle. When she feels mishti might once again come between her happiness and be given more importance, she feels threatened that she would be sidelined again. So this is one issue I agree with her point.

As for mishti, she does come with her share of shortcomings. Despite her claim to always wanting to be honest with her family, that isn’t the truth, she did fail to address her issues with kuhu to any of the family members and straighten it out. Despite her good intentions, she too is neglecting kuhu’s opinions. Shouldn’t kuhu get the chance to make her decisions, be it right or wrong. It would be her mistakes, she would learn the lesson of life. If kuhu is thinking only about her relationship and happiness, mishti is no different. She too in her love is failing to see the long term picture if both the girls end up in the same family and what kind of relationship they might end up with the current relationship equations they have.

As most of you pointed out the main people who should be blamed for kuhu-mishti indifferences or should I say hate are the elders of the house and I do accept that, but are they the only one to be blamed here? It’s just my opinion that both kuhu and mishti are equally responsible for the mess they are in. The crux of the problem is their pretense in front of the family of unity. We as viewers aren’t privy to their childhood bond as per this show, but maybe even as kids they haven’t gotten well with each other and the elders put it down to just adjustment issues, and overtime the girls decided to pretend.

The most important factor here is the kind of families each girls come from. The fact that mishti comes from a broken family makes the family be more sensitive towards mishti’s emotions and it is true that they still treat her fragile despite she being strong internally. As far as kuhu or kuhu’s feelings, this is her family and it would be totally normal for them to believe she would rightfully demand if she wants anything from them. As kuhu herself pointed out, she’s from a loving family and everyone in the family are her own people, then why would the family even suspect she feels deprived of their love. Also unlike kuhu, mishti doesn’t have the privilege of making any mistakes and asking apologies, because the first thing that would be pointed out is her family background and her adoptive family getting humiliated. Thus, she has to always try to do what she believes is right and this makes her always the responsible and considerate sister and makes the family respect her views. Kuhu on the other hand is not obliged to be like that to her family. This is her family and she loves them as much as they do her. If she makes a mistake, she will ask sorry and they will forgive her. Noone is going to dig through her family history and find faults for her behavior. She doesn’t have to or need to prove anything to her family.

Your post reminded me one thing. Is kuhu nasty to mishti, yes definitely, no question about that, she always hits mishti where it hurts the most, but it is also true that other than mishti she has been considerate towards every other family member, even when jasmeet chachi criticized her. The fact that mishti’s opinions are given considerable thought makes kuhu feel neglected and the facade of carefree attitude she wears to hide her true feelings makes her look obnoxious sometimes to everyone.

So unless the girls facade of sisterhood is broken in front of the family and they are made aware of the years’ worth of difference/hidden hate behind closed doors and they address them, I don’t see how they can come close or even relate to each other emotionally.

Kuhu understanding mishti or vice versa just based on bigben/kunal betrayal would be just a short-term solution, because they didn’t cause the rift between the girls. If a person like bigben can cause so much chaos without being aware of the sisters’ equation, imagine how much damage she can do once she learns of this.

Anyways thanks for the post and a new perspective. Look forward to more posts like this in the forum. Good day everyone.

We dont have enough material to actually know why with their behavior tbh.
I'd find her more brave if she is upfront that you cant be with Abir. I want my relationship to be safe.

Kuhu has a sense of competition when it comes to Mishti. It is because of the same age which our Rajvansh boys dont share with each other.

She wanted to warn Ketki about Ved. She was ready to throw Mishti under the bus if it had gone south.

She wanted to apply to a job because Mishti did. Did she stick to it? Did she apply for another after she was fired? She still wanted to be Kunal's friend :/

She wants to be appreciated like Mishti is but she is loved, like really loved by MAHS the way she is.

But i think they never did accept each other the way they are.

And yes family cares for Mishti's feelings a bit more and tries to protect her from outside hurt but does that mean Kuhu isn't?

And i can say for all Pro Mishti people , that none of them wanted Abir and Mishti to meddle and get them together and it'll blow in their faces soon😆 If she didn't want Mishti to interfere or help then she shouldn't have gotten drunk and get on a ledge crying for KUUUNAAAL.

Her behavior atm is based on that Mishti will get the limelight again. She is threatened YES. but she could see had she not broken off the engagement, Kunal would have been married to Mishti not her.

thodi bahut to thankfulness hoti hai. Mishti is not obligated to Kuhu. Obligated to Bade Papa, BAdi Maa but not her.

My problem is how come this big family never realised this lost love between the girls..

I do believe absence makes heart grow fonder very much. So time with RV will help her realize her naivety. Mishti will also realize that she is not right all the time. Despite having good intentions, things can muck up and she cant be responsible for anybody else's life.

Inki story kuch kuch PATAKHA film jaisi hai ...lololol

At the end with the way things - they are standing alone for themselves. Had they been together, Meenu wouldn't have been able to manipulate things. they work better as team whether it was to bring Ketki back, to save her from Ved.

Originally posted by: meen123

First of all I was going to come and I was going to write similar to yours.

We dont have enough material to actually know why with their behavior tbh.
I'd find her more brave if she is upfront that you cant be with Abir. I want my relationship to be safe.

I am with you on this. If anything she has always been direct towards what she feels for mishti, so why not just be honest on this too.

Kuhu has a sense of competition when it comes to Mishti. It is because of the same age which our Rajvansh boys dont share with each other.

She wanted to warn Ketki about Ved. She was ready to throw Mishti under the bus if it had gone south.

She wanted to apply to a job because Mishti did. Did she stick to it? Did she apply for another after she was fired? She still wanted to be Kunal's friend :/

She wants to be appreciated like Mishti is but she is loved, like really loved by MAHS the way she is.

But i think they never did accept each other the way they are.

And yes family cares for Mishti's feelings a bit more and tries to protect her from outside hurt but does that mean Kuhu isn't?

And i can say for all Pro Mishti people , that none of them wanted Abir and Mishti to meddle and get them together and it'll blow in their faces soon😆 If she didn't want Mishti to interfere or help then she shouldn't have gotten drunk and get on a ledge crying for KUUUNAAAL.

Her behavior atm is based on that Mishti will get the limelight again. She is threatened YES. but she could see had she not broken off the engagement, Kunal would have been married to Mishti not her.

thodi bahut to thankfulness hoti hai. Mishti is not obligated to Kuhu. Obligated to Bade Papa, BAdi Maa but not her.

This I would like to answer why kuhu feels righteous, if I may. According to kuhu, kunal is the catch of your lifetime. Mishti losing him for trivial reasons like job, which kuhu never was serious about; rejecting laser surgery which could have made mishti more beautiful (kuhu gives importance to looks); and lastly kunal accepting mishti in spite of her background is mishti’s loss. Also the that the rishta first came for her makes her feel entitled. Do you really think she would be thankful to mishti after all this.

My problem is how come this big family never realised this lost love between the girls..

I guess the girls put on an awardworthy performances all their life. Jokes apart, this is actually glaring because varsha and jasmeet seem to have an idea of how kuhu feels and yet they never addressed it.

I do believe absence makes heart grow fonder very much. So time with RV will help her realize her naivety. Mishti will also realize that she is not right all the time. Despite having good intentions, things can muck up and she cant be responsible for anybody else's life.

Inki story kuch kuch PATAKHA film jaisi hai ...lololol

At the end with the way things - they are standing alone for themselves. Had they been together, Meenu wouldn't have been able to manipulate things. they work better as team whether it was to bring Ketki back, to save her from Ved.

Originally posted by: Sanleema

I am with you on this. If anything she has always been direct towards what she feels for mishti, so why not just be honest on this too.

This I would like to answer why kuhu feels righteous, if I may. According to kuhu, kunal is the catch of your lifetime. Mishti losing him for trivial reasons like job, which kuhu never was serious about; rejecting laser surgery which could have made mishti more beautiful (kuhu gives importance to looks); and lastly kunal accepting mishti in spite of her background is mishti’s loss. Also the that the rishta first came for her makes her feel entitled. Do you really think she would be thankful to mishti after all this.

My problem is how come this big family never realised this lost love between the girls..

I guess the girls put on an awardworthy performances all their life. Jokes apart, this is actually glaring because varsha and jasmeet seem to have an idea of how kuhu feels and yet they never addressed it.

what a catch he is... couldn't say a thing when rishta was swapped. didn't say when Abir was proclaiming his love for Kuhu for him to Mahs.

For a moment i can get his protectiveness over his brother but what he's doing with Kuhu is a BIG NO for me. That is the reason I've never been in favor of confessing your feelings unless one is absolutely sure. People are there to use your feelings against you

I dont believe it for one second.. I've been upfront that my sister gets to be free to make her decisions whether it was career, love or moving away and why dont I get the same chance? ---things didn't happen overnight....but i got some space..afterwards..

Thank you Nitu for this much needed post. Don’t know about others but I needed this the most. Every word I agree. I respect Kuhu for the way she handled her heart break and I am very much annoyed by Mishti’s accusation that Kuhu came in between her and Kunal. That was the limit..felt bad ..thanks again for the post.

Lakshmi

Hi loved ur post.. i will not say i completely agree with u but these points also came to my mind abt kuhu nd mishti.. keep writing ur analysis..👍🏼

Originally posted by: ltelidevara

Thank you Nitu for this much needed post. Don’t know about others but I needed this the most. Every word I agree. I respect Kuhu for the way she handled her heart break and I am very much annoyed by Mishti’s accusation that Kuhu came in between her and Kunal. That was the limit..felt bad ..thanks again for the post.

Lakshmi

kuhu knows very well that all the drama happened was staged by kunal.. so y all this u should not have come n all.. kuhu was the one who made sure that mishti was accompanying her..one side kuhu is selfishly gng against mishti and on top of that she says all those crap to mishti..i cant sympathize with kuhu.. may be because in real life i hate ppl who use hurtful languages..

and talking about mishtis accusation.. is it not true that kuhu accepted bracelet from kunal while mishti was doing courship with him? mishti was just replying to kuhus accusations..so i dnt find it wrong..mishti may not be perfect.. but kuhu should know that others also have feelings while using hurtful words

Originally posted by: --Devakshi--

kuhu knows very well that all the drama happened was staged by kunal.. so y all this u should not have come n all.. kuhu was the one who made sure that mishti was accompanying her..one side kuhu is selfishly gng against mishti and on top of that she says all those crap to mishti..i cant sympathize with kuhu.. may be because in real life i hate ppl who use hurtful languages..

and talking about mishtis accusation.. is it not true that kuhu accepted bracelet from kunal while mishti was doing courship with him? mishti was just replying to kuhus accusations..so i dnt find it wrong..mishti may not be perfect.. but kuhu should know that others also have feelings while using hurtful words