Love and open relationships - Page 5

Originally posted by: kankabhor

Open marriages are not for everyone but if it works for anyone then it is perfectly fine. I do not agree that it always end up in break up. It works for people, it just it doesn’t come out in open.

I am surprised how people are so narrow minded that they are not even entertaining the possibility that it might work for some even if they won’t go for it. Open marriages does not mean no commitment. This is such a wrong assumption. Open marriage has its own rule for example, how long can you sleep with other partners, how much time you spend with them, how much financially and emotionally you will engage etc. these rules are decided by couple and not society. If one of these rules are broken then it’s like breaking commitment. If someone says twinkle is not sleeping around but akshay is so it’s not right, but I disagree. We do not know if she is sleeping around or not maybe she is just good in hiding it.

Unless you know someone closely who is in open relation, you can’t pass judgment on their love. Love means different to different people and you can’t force your definition on others. And no only monogamy doesn’t mean Love.

We say Relationships are not just about sex but at the end of day five so much importance to sexual monogamy? Contradiction?? Relationships are so much more, how much you connect with your partner, how comfortable are you with them, trust with all your secrets, open your dark side to them etc. If someone is such a partner but sexually active with other ppl and partner is fine, why can’t it be love??

I certainly don’t judge people in open relationships if it works for them. But specifically with the Twinkle Akshay marriage, he was so regressive he didn’t want his wife working in movies after marriage. He put the same condition on Raveena and Twinkle. I don’t he would be open minded enough to say if I can sleep around so can they.

How can anyone ever find peace of mind in open relationship is beyond me. But when it comes to Bollywood, may be yes. Everything about them is about public image and perception building.

Originally posted by: KhaanaBaDosh

I have another question, my parents have found this guy for marriage, who has a foreign citizenship. That's his usp. While I have recently graduated from some University in India and just got into a well paying job(6 figure/month after tax). I know I will live off comfortably.

My parents want me to marry and move to a developed country. While I don't really find the guy interesting and I want to concentrate on my career. I know if I move there, my future will definitely be good, but it won't be solely because of me. And then there would be added responsibility with marriage, is it worth it?

If someone is born and brought up in a different environment/culture (you say he is a citizen. I am presuming, he is not naturalised citizen), make sure your temperaments match.

It is not necessary that, people born abroad are more modern/open minded. Many times, families in abroad raise their children in the same way they were brought up. But in India, situations have changed. So the next generation is more modern.

I feel, boys who are raised in abroad are bit more conservative than Indian boys. You need to know him more to figure out, how you guys match.

Originally posted by: angrybread

Are you in one ?

Are u asking me I am single ?

OR only works where both guy and girl are at equal footing in getting a partner.

Which doesn't work for most couples as ,most girls even if she is a 4 can get any guy to get laid ,whereas gut has to have game and had to try lot ,their is imbalance thus insecurity, whereas in bollywood or media or young rich couples ,its very easy for guy to get it ,so there is a chance of working out.

Originally posted by: Phenomenal_One

Apny ko to bus pani nikalna ha😆

Same here 🤣😆

Ganga Jamuna sab ek karna hai 😉🤣

Well most of the times the partners decide to stick to the marriage for the sake of kids. Well this is the age of internet and kids are gonna learn about your affairs once they grow up. I am not sure if they'd feel better to know that their family is a pretentious one and that they are the reasons for their parents not moving on in life with different partners if they wanted so.

I appreciate HR-Suzanne's co-parenting so much. They are setting an example 😎.

Yes, it depends on the couple.

Two people in open relationship can definitely be in love and life long partners. If they don't love each other enough, they would have or will part eventually. Infact, some couples survive and have deeper bonds only when they keep their relationship open. The reasons why they come to such an agreement can be countless from anywhere between - boredom; their definition of experimentation, thrill, spice in private life; mismatched libidos; idea about what entails loyalty or possessiveness (not just non-possessiveness, some people are like "I want your soul, you're mine even if you wander" type); helplessness and eventual acceptance by the 'loyal' spouse of a 'wandering' person, etc etc.

We know of one such couple who have been married since 1995, you would be shocked when you know they were in an open relationship because they have a great chemistry and their friendship is beautiful - you would think they love each other very dearly, and no, it's not a social mask. It's really a huge world out there with so many anomalies, yet working like miracle - as if it was the only thing normal for them or maybe something more.. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I don’t think I could ever be really happy in an open relationship because I have too much of my ego tied up in my monogamous marriage and that is my ideal. I do totally believe it’s possible. There have been whole societies who live that way and it’s just normal. Same way some societies think multiple wives is normal and some think one wife one marriage for life, and some think serial marriages, etc. “Normal” is only normal to the people who believe in it.