Love and open relationships - Page 4

Honestly, whatever floats their boat and works for them. We forget these BW insiders have seen things up close that we normal people can’t fathom or even relate to.

And when you have a rich but philandering husband, it’s easy to say divorce him, but when you have vulnerable kids, it’s hard to say eff you and take a divorce. You gotta consider the kid too. I imagine most of these kids are kept unaware of the ongoings of affairs when they are young and it’s not like Ajay/Akki aren’t good parents (which isn’t interchangeable with being good husbands), which may cause the kids to resent the other parent . Also, as secondary as it sounds, you gotta consider the child’s inheritance as well. In India, money is pretty important to leading a good life.

With all this in mind, I think couples find a happy medium, and learn to coexist if they can. Or else, we have seen couples like Arbaaz malaika, Arjun Meher Also divorce.

Originally posted by: KhaanaBaDosh

I have another question, my parents have found this guy for marriage, who has a foreign citizenship. That's his usp. While I have recently graduated from some University in India and just got into a well paying job(6 figure/month after tax). I know I will live off comfortably.

My parents want me to marry and move to a developed country. While I don't really find the guy interesting and I want to concentrate on my career. I know if I move there, my future will definitely be good, but it won't be solely because of me. And then there would be added responsibility with marriage, is it worth it?

I have been in a similar situation like this too. If you don't feel good about this, then do go through with it. Do what YOU want first. If, for some reason you end up liking this guy, maybe give him and your family an ultimatum. Say that you want to work for a bit and save up some money, and then leave if it comes down to it. If you are not ready for marriage yet, and chose to work, do it! Its sad but some parents don't see things that way. At the end of the day YOU have to live for yourself and the decisions you make.

Back to topic: I think open relationships can work if both parties involved have their set rules and stick with it. I don't see how it could be tolerable when it's a one sided thing though. I get if you have kids, there is security and things like that too. It's a tricky thing.

Originally posted by: Charaiveti

some people also argue how Humans go against their evolutionary natural urge by being monogamous cz evolution wise sticking with one partner doesn't make sense,it causes less variation in the population also the potential of reproduction ability is not being utilised.that's kinda true but I feel human beings have much more of a developed brain to just go by basic primal urges.

Humans will evolve into who ever we decide to evolve into. It's not something out of control precisely because we have a much more developed brain as you said and that we will live our lives just by our basic primal urges. We have tremendous control over our mind and bodies and can do things at will if we practice. My view is that some people are meant to be monogamous and some are not. Our job is to figure out who we are, what we want, what will work for us practically etc and go from there. Whatever works for people. Everything is in our head anyways.

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Well, i can post a happy picture of srk and gauri and say that they are indeed happier these days.

Originally posted by: LifeOLicious

Humans will evolve into who ever we decide to evolve into. It's not something out of control precisely because we have a much more developed brain as you said and that we will live our lives just by our basic primal urges. We have tremendous control over our mind and bodies and can do things at will if we practice. My view is that some people are meant to be monogamous and some are not. Our job is to figure out who we are, what we want, what will work for us practically etc and go from there. Whatever works for people. Everything is in our head anyways.

I don’t believe there is love in an open relationship. Maybe more understanding but not love.

Originally posted by: KhaanaBaDosh

I have another question, my parents have found this guy for marriage, who has a foreign citizenship. That's his usp. While I have recently graduated from some University in India and just got into a well paying job(6 figure/month after tax). I know I will live off comfortably.

My parents want me to marry and move to a developed country. While I don't really find the guy interesting and I want to concentrate on my career. I know if I move there, my future will definitely be good, but it won't be solely because of me. And then there would be added responsibility with marriage, is it worth it?

I would advise you to meet up the guy and then decide , sometimes you think that it is not what you want but later on when you meet the guy you get on well and that changes your mind . If you feel totally against it then don't go for it . Marriage is something which should happen only when you are ready for it .

My advice might be considered old class but i consider the best scenario to be when parents like someone and then you also start liking/loving them. Parents do look for practical things which we , in our young age, think is our least priority and later in marriage that turns out to be one of the most important thing and we wish we had looked for that also in put life partner.

Yes

There is love in open realtionship.

Only people in open realtionship could answer this correctly instead of monogamy practicers.

Originally posted by: S_H_Y

Yes

There is love in open realtionship.

Only people in open realtionship could answer this correctly instead of monogamy practicers.

Are you in one ?

I have never been in an open relationship but I have friends who have tried it and not found it fulfilling. To point they had to go look for security somewhere else and it ended up going really badly. That was one party in the relationship. The others are still in open relationships and enjoy themselves. I talk to them and asked doesn’t it make you feel insecure? They told me there isn’t a couple out there who hasn’t looked at the menu for something else and been tempted to eat there. Insecurities can even arise from that. Why not just have your desires filled? I am not sure how true that is either but to each it’s own.