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Posted: 6 years ago
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Kunal wasn't wrong when he suggested co-parenting as that's very common in today's world. Why should two people forcefully stay in a marriage that has no happiness and clearly the silence and differences will have a bad effect on the child. He just meant some days when the baby will come to him he will be with the baby and Nandini can raise the child too. Now I know all are objecting why he said Nandini will give more love he clearly didn't mean to ridicule Maulis love for the baby all he meant was Nandini wouldn't be like those typical fathers wife who hate on the baby not hers. At least that's what I understood, also Kunal clearly didn't walk away from his responsibility he said he will make sure to take care and be the best dad but for that being in a unhappy marriage isn't the solution. Compromises do happen but not in such cases, not in cases where there is no hopes left! Kunal is surely wrong in his other actions but his statement made a lot more sense than Malhotra family wanting him back for the baby sake. Nandini has the fear of being hated but won't the child hate her more knowing that his/her parents arent happy together and just going on for the sake of it? Many may disagree but that's my opinion.

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Posted: 6 years ago
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This is called living life at your convenience...

Kunal wants the child, wants Nandini..and in that process created a convenient environment.
Many do it today..you can see this amongst the rich class...

But i do not agree with this...its nothing but setting an easy example to your child, while trying to get away with guilt, one takes up the responsibility but to me its nothing but a white wash/hypocrisy shown to your own child - siting an example...child its normal...tomorrow you too can ditch your life partner or others who are emotionally attached by creating such convenient environment...but live your life...

I would prefer Mouli step ahead ...she is capable of...go move one...and raise your child with the right morals...see how strong your child will be...a good citizen, a good human...instead of living with this confused convenient life that the father gives
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Posted: 6 years ago
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yea I actually thought his points were not off. there are divorced parents who successfully co-parent without killing each other and the new stepmom/stepdad aren't bad people.

had a colleague who was raised by her father and his second wife. she saw the mom (who lived in another city) during holidays etc. she never talked like she came from an unhappy family situation. it was just normal, regular quirks and family issues.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: mango_pudding1

yea I actually thought his points were not off. there are divorced parents who successfully co-parent without killing each other and the new stepmom/stepdad aren't bad people.

had a colleague who was raised by her father and his second wife. she saw the mom (who lived in another city) during holidays etc. she never talked like she came from an unhappy family situation. it was just normal, regular quirks and family issues.




would you still agree with the background of betrayal done by this lady called nandini...will the child as he/she grows will ever like it?? is that a right exposure for a good upbringing?
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Was kunal happy with the idea of becoming father? No. He just wanted to marry Nandini. And now with upcoming kid he wanted both. Kid b a jae mere pas and Nandini b mil jae. Has he even thought ki Mauli ko ye acha lgega ki nahi? Has he even showed a single ounce of happiness when he came to know about mauli's pregnancy? No. But he wants only Nandini. He's scared of losing Nandini and nothing else. We don't want Kunal with Mauli but kid going to Kunal and Nandini is a complete no no.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: Aasha1




would you still agree with the background of betrayal done by this lady called nandini...will the child as he/she grows will ever like it?? is that a right exposure for a good upbringing?



I grew up with few kids who came from complicated backgrounds and what I learned is that our reaction may not be the same as others. I knew two girls in my school who were cousins which was technically right but they were actually half-sisters. their mothers were sisters married to the same dad. now I have no idea how this happened or what their story was but these two girls got along well. there was no unpleasantness or even rivalry. how is that possible? I don't know. it is too personal to ask such Qs.

there was also this talk show where the topic of conversation was about parents getting re-married. this girl tearfully shared that she wished her parents had divorced and moved on with others instead of staying together for the sake of the kids. the host himself was stunned and he was like "what??" but she said they had a miserable childhood and would have been far happier if the parents were divorced. surprisingly, there was a few others who thought the same. .

so I would say that it really depends. if parents can successfully co-parent and keep the issues to themselves, then the kids might still be happy to have both parents in their life. both mothers and fathers bring very different dynamics to a child's life and they do need it. sometimes, due to circumstances, children don't get it but that doesn't mean one should be denied of it...
Edited by mango_pudding1 - 6 years ago
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Posted: 6 years ago
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kunal wasnt wrong when he said he doesnt need to with mauli for the child's sake but he was definitely wrong when he said nandini will love him even more... that was a crap!!
i agree with the one who said he is just making easy choices in life.. he is behaving like a kid who just cries when he doesnt get what he wants..
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Irrespective of what they do, Nandini should stay miles away from the baby! Mauli shouldn't ever let her kid interact with Nandini
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Kid anywhere near Nandini is big no!
I m pretty sure she will indirectly create distance between child n mom. Nandini being housewife can give more time, cook kheer n pasta n whatever.
Mauli will hv responsibilities so no chance of sitting at home n cook or give undivided attention.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: Ruhi122

Kid anywhere near Nandini is big no!
I m pretty sure she will indirectly create distance between child n mom. Nandini being housewife can give more time, cook kheer n pasta n whatever.
Mauli will hv responsibilities so no chance of sitting at home n cook or give undivided attention.


Seriously itne bade kunal ko behla fusla ke kheer khila kar sex kar ke puri tarah se manipulate kar k apne pyar me pagal bana sakti hai to chota sa baccha kya cheez hai?!

Bacche ek age par ane ke baad maa baap ki struggle ko samajte hai. Atleast 6 saal tak wo pati patni or wo ka drama samajne ke kabil nai hote hai . Baccha apni maa ki struggle ko everyday mehsoos karega par pyar aisi cheez hai jo andha bhi bana sakta hai... Kunal andha bann sakta hai kheerwala pyar milne par to chota sa baccha kyun nai?! bache to waise bhi pyar ke bhukhe hote hai...Undivided attention milega to chata sa baccha ye sochne ke kabil nai hoga ki mummy bichari kitna struggle karti hai...baccha yahi sochega ki kheerwali aunty kitni acchi hai. aunty ko mummy nai bolega par aunty ke liye uski bhi tadap chalu ho jayegi.

I hope mauli never ever let go her child.

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