Well I know my nature well, and what exactly makes me feel comfortable and doesn't, and I avoid situations that make me uncomfortable. Nandini isn't anything like me, so I can only look at myself and say what I would do. My mother and my siblings tell me I'm too much like my father, who we have strongly suspected is autistic for years, in that I prioritise privacy, personal space, and spending my time doing things I enjoy alone just like my father, over being around friends and family. I'm much more happier when I don't have someone around me, and this is especially when I'm upset/ depressed. I don't like to confide in others, and I find crying in front of others really hard, unless I'm alone. I deal with depression and trauma different from others, just like my father.
For that reason, I know that if I had gone through the things nandini had, and had been in her shoes, I would have preferred to have dealt with recovering from that kind of trauma and abuse through isolation, and investing all my time into the things that interest me to keep my mind off other things I don't want to think about. I would have preferred to have dealt with it all by myself and wouldn't have wanted or sought comfort and support to get over it from my friends. That's why unlike nandini, I wouldn't have become dependent and constantly around mauli. I deal with my emotions by myself as I find it difficult to express in words what I feel, so I never see the point in talking about my problems with others. Everybody has different ways to deal with emotions and depressive moments.
I'm not saying this is what nandini should have done, by dealing with it by herself, but because you have raised the question for us to all tell what we would have done, this is just my personal answer, taking my own nature in to account, that's all. That's why, I would never have dealt with it the way nandini did, because I would have never gone to a friend for emotional support, and would just deal with it alone like I usually do, hence I would have never become dependent on my friend and would never be around my friend's husband.
Edited by sammy17 - 5 years ago
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