What is wrong in getting married to your best friend!

"tumne apne best friend se Shaadi ki,kabhi pati bane hi Nahi " this is one line in Sakshi's debatable harangue that I failed to understand! What on earth does it mean? What's wrong in getting married to a best friend? And what exactly does it mean to become a husband? Is he the means to provide his wife with financial security ,emotional support and physical pleasure? Is that it? If yes then Aditya has done all of the above for Pooja (I am not sure about physical pleasure).He blindly gave her a check of 5 crore. he treated her mom like his own, I mean who allows their mother in law to stay in their own house and love her more than his own mother ? If that is not giving emotional support to one's spouse then what is it? It is giving his wife assurance that I am here for you and your family! And seriously what responsibility did both have with a huge house and truckload of servants ? For me every relation starts with friendship .my husband became my best friend after marriage and it has been like that ever since ! If I go wrong ,or behave immaturely he sits me down and tells me the truth, tells me to act responsibly! I am still clueless what did Pooja want from Aditya? Once she mentioned to Yash she wanted romance, Sakshi mentioned he didn't behave like a husband and didn't take responsibility? Writers can you care to explain? ?

I would say that all 3 of them, Sakshi, Aditya and Pooja made mistakes in the marriage.

Originally posted by: -Tulips-

I would say that all 3 of them, Sakshi, Aditya and Pooja made mistakes in the marriage.

Sakshi- She knows about Adi's problems with his parents. At the age of 16, his father broke his marriage and went to another woman. 16 is a very tender age to understand relationships. They are neither childish nor fully matured. Adi doesnt know the duties of a husband because his father failed as a husband. So it was Sakshi's duty to make Adi realize his responsibilities as a husband. Reminding him of his wife's birthday or anniversary is not the only duty. She had to make Adi realize that he needs to think and take care of Pooja emotionally and not materialistically or physically and that's where she failed. Whatever she said yesterday was not wrong but it was too late.

Aditya- He is an intelligent man with sharp mind. He loved Pooja but never tried to understand her. He said she hated kuch kuch hota hai but never tried to understand why she hated her childhood favorite movie. That's because the movie has kinda given a wrong message that Friendship is enough to lead a happy married life if best friends love each other. That's what Adi learnt from the movie and he thought he will use that funda in real life too.

Pooja- I feel bad for her as well as angry with her. Adi never tortured or harmed her but he never gave her that love that she wanted from him. Their friendship was the biggest hurdle in their marriage. He fulfilled her physical and material needs but failed to fulfill her emotional needs. She needed him to understand her feelings and emotions but when he failed to do so, she gave up so soon and so easily. Giving up part was her major fault. If Adi didn't understand her, she should have talked to him, made him understand her problems. She wanted a baby, he didn't want. When she got pregnant, she should have simply said, "I want to keep the baby". Adi would have never refused, instead he would have taken time but would have accepted the baby and the baby would have made their marriage actually work and would have changed both of them. But Abortion was the most cruel decision she ever took. By doing this, she proved herself to be worst than Adi.

Originally posted by: -Tulips-

I would say that all 3 of them, Sakshi, Aditya and Pooja made mistakes in the marriage.

Sakshi- She knows about Adi's problems with his parents. At the age of 16, his father broke his marriage and went to another woman. 16 is a very tender age to understand relationships. They are neither childish nor fully matured. Adi doesnt know the duties of a husband because his father failed as a husband. So it was Sakshi's duty to make Adi realize his responsibilities as a husband. Reminding him of his wife's birthday or anniversary is not the only duty. She had to make Adi realize that he needs to think and take care of Pooja emotionally and not materialistically or physically and that's where she failed. Whatever she said yesterday was not wrong but it was too late.

Aditya- He is an intelligent man with sharp mind. He loved Pooja but never tried to understand her. He said she hated kuch kuch hota hai but never tried to understand why she hated her childhood favorite movie. That's because the movie has kinda given a wrong message that Friendship is enough to lead a happy married life if best friends love each other. That's what Adi learnt from the movie and he thought he will use that funda in real life too.

Pooja- I feel bad for her as well as angry with her. Adi never tortured or harmed her but he never gave her that love that she wanted from him. Their friendship was the biggest hurdle in their marriage. He fulfilled her physical and material needs but failed to fulfill her emotional needs. She needed him to understand her feelings and emotions but when he failed to do so, she gave up so soon and so easily. Giving up part was her major fault. If Adi didn't understand her, she should have talked to him, made him understand her problems. She wanted a baby, he didn't want. When she got pregnant, she should have simply said, "I want to keep the baby". Adi would have never refused, instead he would have taken time but would have accepted the baby and the baby would have made their marriage actually work and would have changed both of them. But Abortion was the most cruel decision she ever took. By doing this, she proved herself to be worst than Adi.

Any relationship is based on give n take. From yesterdays epi wat i understud is that pooja was the only giver in that relationship. She always kept giving since childhood. Like gave him her tiffin, did his homework, let him cheat in exams, chose to go to the same college as of adis. In short by doing all this, caring n babying n pampering him she spoiled him herself. N she felt maybe gr8 n happy to always keep giving happiness to adi. I think she never expected anything in return n never voiced it out loud that he should also give her the same love n attention that she keeps giving him. She married him again to give him happiness. Thats where she went wrong. Wen u always keep giving n dont get the same thing back in return, u feel tired. Adi took her for granted becos she made him like that by always giving n never asking to return back the love n care. N adi himself didnt understnd it becos he didnt have any perfect example of family in front of him. He was kind of broken to understnd the value n importance n responsibility of marriage. If he gave her material things n love that doesnt equals emotional attachment which pooja needed frm him. He never sat with her n had a matured communication ever it seems cos he ws childish. N like u said ur husband sits with u n make u understnd the prblms, i dont think adi was that matured to do that cos he relied on pooja n expected her to handle him n not vice versa. N hence their frndly marriage failed. Thats my pov.

I feel spouses sometimes look for a friend in their marriage and crave of one if they dont have as with your friends u can talk completely freely ..