interesting discussion with my son regarding PPK

Originally posted by: Doc.love

Awww... such a sweet boy he is mashaAllah.. 😃

Your post brought a smile on my face. I am soo glad that you are not a stereotypical mother like most desi moms are... Marrying their son off to a younger girl is a stigma of our Indo-Pak-Bangladesh desi society only.

Recently Prince Harry married Meghan Markle who is older than him too.. (Sorry.. Actually the British Royals fascinate me very much and i keep an eye on them...and abhi tou Prince Harry's wedding was all over the news...hence the fascination is doubled!😆😆)

Trust me, this age related thing is just a cultural stigma...or marrying off to a widow or a divorcee. Otherwise I dont think any religion has ever said anything against it too..

In Islam, our Prophet Muhammad's first wife Khadija was 45 and a widow when she herself sent her marriage proposal to Him...and He was 25 and bachelor at that time! He loved and respected her throughout His life...even after her death...and till His own last breath. He had children with her too.

He peace be upon Him later married a woman of 80 years old, Souda, just for the sake of protecting her. Prophet Muhammad 's other wives were either divorcees or widows or those who were in some trouble. Regardless of common belief that marriage is ONLY for physcial pleasure and to attain children, Prophet's marriages were to protect women and give them social security and respect in the Arab culture of those days. And He didnt have any children with any other of His wife also, by the will of God.. He always maitained equality amongst His wives..

So age related issues, marrying our sons to divorcee or widows is a social stigma...that has delved into our roots, having no particular significance in our religions or in our religious histories.

I am soo proud of you that your thoughts are soo refined and clear about age related stigma... 😊

May your kids become the light in your life and the coolness of your eyes...and may they keep making you happy and proud always. Ameen. ❤️🤗

Originally posted by: lisasandra

Thanks varuni to share nice story about your son. Give him my hug.

I do not want to give any reason but I'm happy that PPL closed for a good reason.

Originally posted by: VARUNI2014

even in hindu religion there is nothing related to age ..i.e woman should be younger to men ..no where in mariage vows its there

its just a bad tradition that got later in to the syatem.

draupadi has 5 husbands .and anotehr woman she married a maharshi and his ten brothers..

draupadi was elder than teh last twins in those 5 brothers.so even in ithihasasa mahabharatha there was never age related issue

Originally posted by: lisasandra

Lol, varuni bhena, you are so serious 😆 regarding PPK. I said that because I did not watch that serial. I do not know why actually that serial went off. I'm happy because I see rohit and tejaswi together in this serial otherwise we will not meet here😃

Even RLHN, I watched from desert scene. As I said, I watch few Hindi serials. So far I watched 5 unique Hindi serials in my life.

Originally posted by: VARUNI2014

closing PPK is not good at alla.i wont agree with that.whats wrong in ppk ..

peopel with regressive mindset did all those mess with ppk

clerly it was shown why diya got married to ratan in specal circumstances .e parents died nad elatives reday to murdre him for property

any thing u say to kids i a logical way tehy will agree.

see i told my son why diya marrie dto ratan and he is so convinvced

with out giving logic o u r children u yell on them and beat them and they develop hatred on u in heir mind nad they r more fixated on what they want ..

ppk should have been continued

Originally posted by: foresight

actually there were regressive things in PPK but different from what was highlighted (I mean everyone knows child marraige is not okay nor is it legal; we also know that it still happens and that is a societal issue with needs to be dealt with firmly via law and order)...but the regressiveness came from the torturing of the bahu. there were instances of burning her with hot key, humiliating her when she is coming into the house, humiliating her publicly, using the child to push about honeymoon, demeaning her father...this torture of the bahu is also regressive mentality.

most shows have negative and regressive elements. the job of the leads is to remove/fight those regressive elements.

in PPK it would have been to some extent difficult to do that when the lead is shown to have knowingly gotten into wrong relation...for the sake of good no doubt. i have no doubt that they would have shown a time when ratan returns from london in PPK or wherever and feels burdened by diya and the relationship he was pushed into when he didnt even understand what it was.

with RLHN ratan, even if he felt burdened initially, it was his decision. even if he did he to fulfil his father promise, he chose to do it. he could never completely wash his hands of the responsibility and that was the reason when he failed in being responsible he justly felt guilty.

that would have been not so easy for PPK ratan.