Love in friendship and friendship in love

Well I too belong to the kuch kuch era which proposed this idea of pyaar dosti hai, dosti hi pyaar hai. But it is very childish to think that. The need in friendship and need in love are different. What u want from ur spouse is not what you expect from your bestie. It might feel u can't be separated from ur bestie. But if ur in a happy marriage u will learn to live and still have ur friendship too. Husband wife relation demands intimacy at emotional and physical level. Love making is not just an act but an emotional connect too. If Pooja was not getting it from adhi, yash was not the solution. It was heart to heart talk with adhi.it was fine she shouted at him than smile and keep him in illusion. He had faults but he was not bad. Having same interest doesn't make good couple. It is understanding and accepting differences. So Cvs are going the way of extra marital justifying adhi breaking zoya illusion and show her the real yash. Pooja writing she feeling guilty doesn't justify the wrong she did to her husband a man who she married knowing his likes and dislikes. Yash had organized a party for pooja and she didn't introduced event organizers to her husband though she gave more clients to him.That's how yash and adhi were in one picture.Today episode was a note of caution to all those who think marrying ur bestie will be match made in heaven. Sometimes friend is friend and spouse is spouse.a spouse can become a friend with time but reverse may not be possible.

Hai Shruthiji...As u said, cheating is cheating being it connecting to a third person at emotional level, or getting physical...The thing everyone in this world justifies their acts in someway or the other...But that doesn't mean they should get a freebie even if the reason is siginificant and worth consideration... Especially extra marital affairs where most of the cheating partner say that the other partner doesn't cater to the needs of the partner or doesn't understand him/her...So then is cheating the solution??No definitely not..if u r not satisfied with your partner, communicate and Find a way out...Or better part ways, if even after trying nothing seems to work out!!But the infedile partner will keep the things under wrap and will do the mask of a perfect partner..They don't know the effect it will have on the other person, when they know that they are being cheated!!It's an endless pain and will have serious recupressions mentally..Having seen some women being cheated around me, I can feel the pain of Adi/Zoya(once she knows that Yash was actually cheating on her)!!It sometimes also makes it difficult for the person to move on!!!So far the CVs are moving in a way to justify Yash nd Pooja affair...I hope it's not the case becoz Adi nd Zo aren't horrendous people for that matter...Let's see how it shapes out!!

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

Today episode was a note of caution to all those who think marrying ur bestie will be match made in heaven. Sometimes friend is friend and spouse is spouse.a spouse can become a friend with time but reverse may not be possible.

@ajay they are not justifying it but showing why an extra marital happened. Path chosen by pooja and yash was wrong but adhi and zoya could have come out of the bubble and try to understand their partners. Marriage is a commitment on which both partners have to work life long to sustain it as many distractions and disappointed comes. Adhi and zoya can take lessons and then build a better life together.

truee i agree... good thoughts

They would definitely take lesson , ultimately forget poosh coz there is no point 2 hold any grudges not coz they deserve their forgiveness.

But sometimes inspite of communicating, there may be no change. The spouse may make false promises n go on living d same way.

@anjani pooja knew adhi nature. It was not arranged marriage neither was it a spur of moment love marriage. She married a man whose flaws she knew from childhood. Taking for granted would have been in him from early days.it wouldn't have come up in one day. Also adhi reactions shows he is totally taken aback by pooja infidelity. If dischord was discussed it wouldn't have been that shocking. Maybe pooja mother would have guessed the dissatisfaction in her daughter but she choose to stay mum and seeing the mess of adhi she feels she should have spoken.

I agree with all but the last line.

@piyu I have friends who have become couples and are leading a good life, I also have friends who married their besties and the marriage didnt work out,seperated and find love again in second marriage, then there are friends who married their besties, had very bad experience and are single as they are afraid of committment. I myself have found a friend in my spouse and know many others like me who had arranged marriages. In nutshell I didnt mean besties dont make good couples, I only meant besties cannot always be the best couple.