Shobhaa De's column on BW sleazefest

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Time To Call Out The Desi Weinsteins


Bollywood is always in search of a great big Diwali dhamaka. I am hoping this year will provide a big bang!

Come on, all you Bollywood babes - you know who you are - speak up! Nail those vile men who have done a Harvey Weinstein on you. You can do it. No shame. The timing is perfect. All it needs is one top female star to open her gab - just one. If that happens, the dam will burst! And all those slimy Sugar Daddies of showbiz will have no place to hide. That is, if they have any sharam in the first place.

I have monitored the shenanigans in Bollywood for over 40 years. During my decade-long association with a popular movie magazine, the stories would arrive taaza taaza, straight from the horse's - or mare's - mouth. I have sat grim-faced and open-mouthed as a blousy star mother tried hard to peddle her nubile, underage daughter's very risqu, half-naked pictures to our team. Before asking her to leave, I did question her need to pimp a young, possibly innocent, girl in this lurid way. The mother was brazen about her motives. Said she stonily, "My daughter is sexy. Nothing wrong in sharing..." That same young girl today is a much-admired, matronly mother to a highly-successful star son.


There are several stories from way back then of self-styled showmen and their upfront propositions to starlets looking for breaks. "Meet me in the make-up room..." came later after the girl had a make-up room to call her own. She knew in order to get that status, she would first have to "please" the showman. There were hundreds like her waiting for "script sessions" in dingy hotel suites. Or even in the powerful producer's plush office. I recall a young scion of a very influential movie moghul (in the mould of a Weinstein), telling me with a wicked smile, "My father has a couch in his office. He is an old man, and needs his post-lunch siesta. But the minute an actress walks in and spots it, her body language automatically changes. Some start undressing even before they've been asked to take a seat!"

If heroes in the bad old days, had their sidekicks to handpick back-up dancers for a quickie after pack-up - that goes on even today. If you notice, every top male star carefully chooses his 'boys' for secondary roles. These other fellows play villains or comedians - but that's for the books. Their real job is to scout for 'meat' every day of the shoot - particularly at outdoor locations. Away from snooping, insecure wives and girl friends, the heroes have an elaborate arrangement with the entire unit. Things only get out of hand if the wife/girl-friend lands on the set for a sneak attack and catches the rake red-handed, as it were. These clinical strikes are generally orchestrated with military precision by a rival camp.

It is widely accepted and tacitly understood that randomly sleeping around for roles is what happens if you venture into Bollywood. It used to affect ambitious young women the most, but these days the ratio of men and women is pretty equal. Male models are beginning to crib, since they have to perform what they call 'double duty' - jump into bed with a host of other men and sexually service a few women as well - if not the heroine herself, then others in her entourage. The strain, they say, is killing them. They have no energy left to work!

As in Hollywood, so in Bollywood: the male predators call the shots. Sex for roles and awards is the way it goes. Are women playing the victim card now that the whistle has been blown on the bad boys? Yes and no. A woman always has the option to walk away from a proposition. Always. And if she is physically overpowered, she also has the choice to go to the police. If a woman chooses to keep mum, I would say, there is some complicity involved. Bollywood girls today are smart, tough, aggressive and pretty much on top of their lives and careers. They are known to play men. Some of our top female stars are often the initiators and aggressors. In which case, they have no business to mew and crib later. Yes, Bollywood is patriarchal, misogynistic, exploitative, materialistic, amoral and more. But it is also creative, innovative, exciting, dynamic and turbo-charged. This is the deal. Screw or get screwed. Or, that's what those waiting hungrily on the outside think. For every 'untouched virgin' who makes it big, there are hundreds of women who have been groped, pummelled, raped, sodomised, beaten, passed on to a buddy, forced to go through abortions and worse. Some take their own lives, unable to deal with the brutality. Others 'adjust'. Or take to drugs, alcohol even prostitution. It is not a pretty world.

I remember a so-called posh hero walking up to a starry-eyed, good-looking female fan at a party and asking cockily, "I think I recognise you... did you sleep with me recently?" She didn't kick him where it hurts the most. She simpered.

It's time to stop simpering, ladies. And start kicking. Call out the creeps.

Do it, someone.

(Shobhaa De is an established writer, columnist, opinion shaper and social commentator, who is considered an authority on popular culture.)
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Neetu Kapoor.
I have sat grim-faced and open-mouthed as a blousy star mother tried hard to peddle her nubile, underage daughter's very risqu, half-naked pictures to our team. Before asking her to leave, I did question her need to pimp a young, possibly innocent, girl in this lurid way. The mother was brazen about her motives. Said she stonily, "My daughter is sexy. Nothing wrong in sharing..." That same young girl today is a much-admired, matronly mother to a highly-successful star son.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Why doesn't she herself start naming names instead of giving out blinds like this? It's not even like she has a career to lose.
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NAme these men its about high time
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Since she knows so much, how about instead of uselessly hinting at these weinsteins, name them..

. You are asking actresses's to name them, why don't you publish their names since you know some if not most of them
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She is rich, powerful and connected . Also friends with Mallya , would she name-shame antics of all these BW lords and businessmen. Why put pressure on women , who are victims even if they agree to participate. Has she learnt nothing from Weinstein ordeal , how even the most powerful and protected women had to face heat. The legal hassle of reporting to the police. Not just police, Court but even this forum would ask for proof if a woman complaints- so and so , tried to touch me. How the heck would one collect evidences if someone passes a comment on you. Sometimes it's not easy to quit a workplace. Has she shamed Pritish Nandy who tried justifying certain male behaviour in offices under the garb of "compliments".
Even if a woman had to do such services for their careers, lives or whatever, she still can be a victim of the system. Rather than point fingers at them, the cleaning job must start with calling out these BW male brigade. Many startlets have tried but some had to leave the country, others just faded away.
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Originally posted by: Mimi_

Why doesn't she herself start naming names instead of giving out blinds like this? It's not even like she has a career to lose.


Because speaking up is the victims prerogative.

That being said she can easily name names without violating a victim's privacy.
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Isn't it a little presumptuous of us to ask her to name names? I don't know how libel law works in India but if anything has been learned from the Weinstein story, it's the fact that they're well prepared. They have a protection racket & a loyal entourage of well-wishers who would always have their backs. Weinstein's scandals took decades to come out in the public & a number of investigative stories had been squashed before they could appear on the front page. If not for an insider's endeavour combined with a news org as tenacious as NYT, it would have been still been under the rugs. It's only laughable to think the poor victims are financially capable & mentally strong & willing to forego any hope of a career to take on the mighty creeps.
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Originally posted by: hantel

Neetu Kapoor.

I have sat grim-faced and open-mouthed as a blousy star mother tried hard to peddle her nubile, underage daughter's very risqu, half-naked pictures to our team. Before asking her to leave, I did question her need to pimp a young, possibly innocent, girl in this lurid way. The mother was brazen about her motives. Said she stonily, "My daughter is sexy. Nothing wrong in sharing..." That same young girl today is a much-admired, matronly mother to a highly-successful star son.


that same young girl today is a much-admired, matronly mother to a highly-successful star son.

how is this neetu kapoor?

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Isn't it a little presumptuous of us to ask her to name names? I don't know how libel law works in India but if anything has been learned from the Weinstein story, it's the fact that they're well prepared. They have a protection racket & a loyal entourage of well-wishers who would always have their backs. Weinstein's scandals took decades to come out in the public & a number of investigative stories had been squashed before they could appear on the front page. If not for an insider's endeavour combined with a news org as tenacious as NYT, it would have been still been under the rugs. It's only laughable to think the poor victims are financially capable & mentally strong & willing to forego any hope of a career to take on the mighty creeps.



Agree which is why her asking BW startlets who are part of the system is equally wrong. She is privileged, rich and was at the helm of a magazine for more than a decade.So it is presumptuous for her to think it can be easier to out such stories and names, since she was an editor of a filmy magazine which dealt with defamation cases as well. The reason I called her out to name names was to draw out the tough challenges ahead in such cases. Even to present blind gossip in this article she chose a has-been woman and her mom , prominently rather than take shots at male superstars.
Even after decades it took online newspapers to after this Harvey and even after all this that man still think he can get away and people eventually will again bow down to him. Thats how this system works for men.

I wonder though if the "bling gossip" culture help in these cases. Like most of the recent expose has been because of constant repeated gossips printed by online media.

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