Sara is set to make a debut. How does that make you feel?
A little nervous. Fear is the most driving factor in the industry. Why would she want that for herself? Look at where she studied. After having done that, why wouldn't she want to live and work in New York, rather than do this? I am not looking down on acting, it's just it is not the most stable profession. And everyone lives in constant fear. And there is no guarantee that despite doing your best, you will succeed. This is not the life, any parent would want for their children.
She has grown up around you, her mom Amrita, your mom Sharmila, aunt Soha and Kareena. How can she not want to be an actor?
True. I remember years ago we'd gone for a stage show abroad and while I was on the stage with Salman and other actors, Sara was standing behind the stage curtain and looking at us. I knew then that she wanted this for herself. Being on stage and people shouting her name.
So many actors in the family, who is Sara most likely to talk to you, about things related to films?
I think she would come to me.
Not Kareena? Given she is an actress?
No. She'd look upto her for different reasons. The other day she and some of her friends had come over and they were looking at Kareena and I am certain they all want to emulate her and be a diva.
Were you involved in the decision of selecting her first film or was it just Amrita?
No, I wasn't involved in it. Look, I am there if she needs to ask or talk to me about anything. I know what she is doing and we talk about films just like we do about everything else. You know, in our house on the dinner table, the conversations are not usually about films. And the other day Sara and Ibrahim had come over and she was asking me about films and I thought oh we are that family now. Are we really doing this? Ibrahim was feeling left out and after a while he said, I have been offered an ad and I might just do it.' I looked at him and said, Wait a minute, I don't know anything about this. I need details.' And he said, It's an ad for suiting.'
He is 16. Has he ever even worn a suit?
Yes, once I think. But yes, he is over 6 ft tall, and he looks good in one. But I told him we would discuss if he could do that.
Do you think one day he will come and tell you he wants to act?
It's a possibility. But he has to work on his diction. It's a long time away.
Maybe a couple of years. You began acting early too. Even though your were not surrounded by film people.
Yes I did my first film at 19. But for me, it was an escape from Delhi. Also, although I went to Oxford I was a dud academically and there were not many options in front of me about what I would do. When I was offered a film, I was like, let me go to Bombay. This will be fun.
A father to a 16-year-old boy and a six-month old boy. Are you more involved this time?
It is fashionable to say I am changing diapers, etc. Everyone does it. It's no big deal. The real thing is being with the baby all day and taking care of him 24/7. Luckily we have a family set-up and everyone pitches in, and we also have help here to do all that for us and that's a big blessing. I have seen friends in London and they do everything themselves. And it's a lot of work. No wonder some of them kill their babies. Yes, it happens. I know it is a politically incorrect thing to do. Anyway, I think a father's role is for other bigger things. When Taimur grows up, and we can talk is when the real father-son equation comes into play. All this is frivolous. I have been leaving my house early and I have started waking him up at around 7. He finishes his feed he has just started on solid foods and we spend about 20 minutes together. I read to him or put on some music, or nursery rhymes. Taimur, incidentally begins his day by listening to aarti.
Too cute. Who's idea was that?
(Smiles) His nanny. And if I return by 8 pm and he is awake, we spend another 20 minutes together. He begins his day with bhajans and ends his day by listening to Chopin and Tchaikovsky. Other than that he just, burps and farts all day, just like me. (laughs)
Kareena said it was your idea to not hide Taimur's face from the public glare...
For me, it was not about superstition, it was about safety. The paparazzi culture is getting really bad. They are always outside our home. But it isn't as bad as it is abroad. It will only get there for sure. They will get the picture anyway sooner or later. The more you hide, the more aggressive they will get. I wanted to avoid that push and shove. It's better to give them that pic. I told Bebo to hold his hand and make him wave to the photographers. Also, I feel, why should Taimur be treated any different from other children out there. People put up their baby pictures.
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