why does Maya always bang her head? - Page 3

Originally posted by: xsumi

Hello guys,

so ever since beyhadh has started i have noticed when maya gets scared or when something happens that makes maya vulnerable, she starts to bang her head, it has happened numerous times for example ...

-in todays episode when she was banging her head against the seat

- the lift scene when she got trapped, she was banging her head against the elevator

- haldi episode when ashwin tried to put haldi, she ran to her room & was banging her head

- the first time jhanvi was in hospital for high sugar level, maya was banging her head on the door

- second time jhanvi was in hospital after trying to commit suicide, she was banging her head

- when arjun called maya in the basement about sach, she was scared & banging her head

there has been rare occasions when we saw jhanvi banging her head against the wall.

i seriously think this act has something to do with maya and her mental problem. does anyone have a suggestion as to why maya always bangs her head ??

Sumi

xxx

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

I felt she does it when someone close to her have problem and she feels her actions are responsible for it. I feel it is guilt conscious.

Because when Jhanvi was in hospital she was telling Ganesha what all bad things she has done it, spare her mother

yesterday also Saanjh accused Arjun of slapping her and many other uncomfortable questions to him

Coming to Ashwin and trapping in lift is connected with past memory. Does she feels guilty of stabbing Ashwin or some other things she has done on him.

Why I am telling is because under the facade of a tough lady Maya is a emotionally vulnerable girl who needs love, forced by certain circumstances to deviate from the right path. She had to do certain things which she had not liked doing, but situations demanded it for her survival. She was not taught the right way. But as a person she realizes it is not the right way, but the way she has seen that succeeds and give power. She needed power to combat her father, the hostile society. It is a very deep psychological problem which needs treatment. Basically she needs to come out of guilt.

Why I am telling this is because the corporate professional environment at times have forced me to take certain actions to defend myself. I dont like that. But certain people dont give you any other option. And I cannot sustain in such an environment also. I cry so much in private after such action and pray day in day out to get me out of the situation. Show me some way. And the way happens.

That's the only difference between me and Maya. I ask for way, she takes decision and keeps on taking decisions asking God to protect her. She has to learn to ask way to get out of the mess. But only if someone could teach her that. That's where a loving relation is helpful.

Originally posted by: agastya_muni

It is a sign of Mental development Disorder. Sudden self-injurious behaviour can get a very quick response from other people, and many such behaviours occur in people who have no other functional way of communicating their needs, wants and feelings. Head slapping, or banging the head on a hard surface, may be a way of communicating frustration, getting a preferred object of activity, or reducing demands.Hand biting may help someone cope with anxiety or excitement.

The person may learn that self-injurious behaviour can be a very powerful way of controlling the environment. A behaviour which was initially a response to physical pain or discomfort could eventually become a way of avoiding or ending an undesired situation

Originally posted by: _Darling_

I think she does it when she loses control of the situation be it person or event. It's her stress and extreme anxiety reaction. For example, she did when she saw her mom in the hospital both times, when Ashwin tried to stop her marriage, and now today.

Btw, I found this when I searched "banging head mental illness." Somehow, it fits so much with what Maya does: http://www.webmd.com/bipolar-disorder/guide/bipolar-disorder-self-injury

Originally posted by: Fernandes43

At least one such hard thud of her head may bring her into some good sense, perhaps, just a hope!
Seriously, her mental illness needs some professional treatment!
Self-medication or amateurish shock treatment can only agitate further her troubled mind!

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

I felt she does it when someone close to her have problem and she feels her actions are responsible for it. I feel it is guilt conscious.

Because when Jhanvi was in hospital she was telling Ganesha what all bad things she has done it, spare her mother

yesterday also Saanjh accused Arjun of slapping her and many other uncomfortable questions to him

Coming to Ashwin and trapping in lift is connected with past memory. Does she feels guilty of stabbing Ashwin or some other things she has done on him.

Why I am telling is because under the facade of a tough lady Maya is a emotionally vulnerable girl who needs love, forced by certain circumstances to deviate from the right path. She had to do certain things which she had not liked doing, but situations demanded it for her survival. She was not taught the right way. But as a person she realizes it is not the right way, but the way she has seen that succeeds and give power. She needed power to combat her father, the hostile society. It is a very deep psychological problem which needs treatment. Basically she needs to come out of guilt.

Why I am telling this is because the corporate professional environment at times have forced me to take certain actions to defend myself. I dont like that. But certain people dont give you any other option. And I cannot sustain in such an environment also. I cry so much in private after such action and pray day in day out to get me out of the situation. Show me some way. And the way happens.

That's the only difference between me and Maya. I ask for way, she takes decision and keeps on taking decisions asking God to protect her. She has to learn to ask way to get out of the mess. But only if someone could teach her that. That's where a loving relation is helpful.