Tia's Thread - Ties that Bind!!! - Page 18

Originally posted by: Tia.0

Thank you, PP. The reason I wrote that blurb is because this different expectation even families seem to have from their son and daughter. If you are educating both genders on par, if you are giving the same opportunities to both genders, if you are letting them decide their future equally, then why won't you expect the same from both genders?

Dixits are regressive lot. They didn't give the same education, opportunities or options of choice to both genders. We all know that and agree.

But Boses have been portrayed as the progressive lot. They gave the same education, same opportunities and same options of choices to each of their children. Sonakshi being the smarter of the two outperformed Saurabh in every sense.

However, the way Asha treats Bijoy and he takes it sportingly without taking it on his male ego or pride, had Bijoy treated Asha like that, we'd have called him a jerk.

Had Bijoy tried to shut up Asha if Ronita had slapped her, if he constantly criticised her, if he laughed when Ronita throws her taunts, if he dragged her away every time she tried to say something, we'd call him regressive.

Then when Asha does the same, why do we call her progressive? Why do we say that she is the most sensitive of the lot?

Is it because she supports the son-in-law and not the daughter-in-law?

Is it because she mollycoddles Dev Dixit while lectures her daughter and her husband?

I find Asha regressive as much as I find Neha. They are not regressive when it comes to their right, their comfort, their dignity. They are regressive when it comes to lecturing others on what they should do.

The most progressive person in the show is Bijoy. He let his daughter take her decisions - twice even against his better judgement. When both time she came back heart broken, he put the foot down. He doesn't trust his daughter's judgement anymore, hence he is not supporting her decision as simple as that.

But his expectations from both his son and daughter are same. He expects same family loyalty from both. And no matter how much he cribs, the moment anyone points finger at his children, no matter who they are, he defends them like Mama bear.

Unfortunately, Asha could not be the protective Mama bear for her own children because she takes her family for granted.

Originally posted by: Tia.0

Oh I totally agree. We are not just blaming Dev. When two people are involved, it's never just one person's fault. But Sonakshi was in a bad situation.

1. Suhana - She is looking forward to dancing with her dad and spending time with him without knowing what kind of ass he is to her mother. Unlike Dev, who thinks if Suhana doesn't have him, she should not have her mother around either; Sonakshi always puts Suhana's needs over her.

2. Saurabh - We have seen that Ronita's mother is conservative and she tried to create problem in the wedding. Sonakshi also knows that Saurabh and Ronita love each other. If Dev indeed pay her back by creating a scene which makes her family embarrassed in front of everyone, Suhana won't understand it being a child, but Bose family will get hurt. And most importantly her brother will get hurt who was always there for her.

3. Dev doesn't give a damn about her family. She has to understand that. So for him to create a drama is not difficult at all. After all, even when he loved her, he had no problem creating a scene in her engagement with Ritwik. So he is not at all trustworthy.

However, she has to stop mooning over Dev and behave cool and polite just like she used to when she first came to Delhi.

If Suhana asks, she can just say that Dev is her dad, but he is no one to her anymore. So she doesn't have to be friends with him. She is just staying with him because she wanted it.

Eventually Suhana will realise that this is going nowhere and change her mind. Right now, the way she is behaving, it's re-enforcing in Suhana's mind that her manipulation was actually needed when as a parent, she should show the negative consequence of manipulation. Not positive consequence by being fake feelings.

But that is from the assumption is that Sona really wants what she is saying. And if she is lying, then she has to stop lying to her family. Because otherwise, she is no better than Dev who kept on lying until he got caught.

Originally posted by: Tia.0

No one is interested as long as you keep filling up screen space with Dev babu forcing romance on Sonakshi didi. CVs don't want to talk to us modern audience. They prefer TRP more than logic.