DIFFERNCE BETWEEN FEAR AND INSECURITY..

NOTE: THIS IS MY FIRST EVER POST IN THIS FORUM,SO KINDLY PARDON ME FOR MY MISTAKES.

FIRST OF ALL I DO VISIT OUR FORUM OFTEN BUT HAVEN'T MADE ANY POSTS. BUT STILL SOME TOPICS IN THE FORUM AFTER YESTERDAYS EPISODE PUSHED ME TO MAKE THIS POST.

I SAW MANY PEOPLE BASHING SONA HERE AND ALSO SOME TOLD THAT "I NO LONGER FEEL ANY SENTIMENTS FOR SONA, SONA IS ANOTHER ISHWARI ETC ETC..SO I WANTED TO EXPRESS MY VIEWS REGARDING THAT.

I AGREE SONA HAS HIDDEN SOHA FROM DEV AND DEV DOESN'T DESERVE THIS AT ALL. BUT THINK FROM SONA'S POV THAT WHAT MADE HER TO TAKE THIS STEP. REMEMBER DEV MOCKED HER AND RAISED QUESTION ABT HER MOTHERHOOD THAT NIGHT B4 LEAP. A WOMAN CAN BEAR ANY TYPE OF INSULT BUT CANT BEAR THE INSULT OF BEING HER MOTHERHOOD QUESTIONED AND THAT TOO FROM HER OWN HUSBAND WHOM HE LOVED A LOT. REMEMBER SHE WAS ALREADY DYING TO BE A MOTHER AND THAT WAS HER DREAM AS WELL.SO WHEN DEV RAISED QUETION ON HER MOTHERHOOD THAT "THANK GOD TUM KABHI MAA NAHI BAN SAKTHI.WARNA TUM KABHI EK ACHI MAA NAHI BAN PATHI" REMEMBER ONE TIME ISHWARI ALSO SAID TO SONA DURING AYAAN'S TRACK THAT "AINDHA SE EK MAA KI MAMTA PAR KABHI SHAK MAT KARNA SONAKSHI" EVEN THOUGH THAT WAS NOT SONA'S INTENTION AND ISHWARI SAID THOSE WORDS ONLY TO DISGRADE SONA INFRONT OF EVERYONE. DEV ALSO MOCKED HER BEING NUTRITIONIST, U DID DRAMA OF BEING A GOOD BAHU, U LOVED ME ONLY FOR ME.TILL NOW WE DONT KNOW WHETHER DEV SAID IT INTENTIONALLY OR UNINTENTINALLY. BUT TO SONA IT WAS VERY HURTFUL SPECIALLY AFTER SEEING THE PRENUP. THATS WHY SHE TOOK THIS STEP OF HIDING SOHA FROM DEV AND ALSO TO BECOME A GOOD MOTHER.JUST IMAGINE B4 6 YEARS IF SONA TOLD DEV THAT A DAUGHTER IS BORN TO U,THEN WHAT WOULD HAVE HAPPENED??? DEV COULD HAVE EASILY SNATCHED SOHA FROM HER BECAUSE DEFINITELY SHE WOULD HAVE NOT BEEN IN A MILLIONAIRE STATUS THEN. ONLY AFTER YEARS OF HARDWORK SHE EARNED THAT POSITION.

AND ALSO I SAW MANY PEOPLE BASHING AND COMPARING SONA TO ISWARI.. SERIOUSLY GUYS ARE U OUT OF OUR MIND??HW CUD U GUYS EVEN COMPARE SONA N ISHWARI.LET ME CLEAR U ONE THING.SONA JUST HAS THE FEAR OF LOSING SOHA TO DEV AND INSECURITY IS FAR DIFFERENT FROM THAT. FEAR IS A KIND OF CONCERN AND NORMALLY EVERY MOTHER IN THIS WORLD HAS FEAR ABT THEIR CHILD AND ITS HUMAN NATURE. BUT INSECURITY IS DIFFERNET. IF SONA WAS INSECURE THEN SHE WOULD HAVE NOT EVEN OPENED HER MOUTH ABT DEV TO SOHA AND SHE WOULD HAVE NEVER EVER BROUGHT HER TO DELHI.EVEN NOW IF SOHA SAYS THAT "I WANT TO MEET MY DAD", SHE WILL DEFINITELY BE THE FIRST PERSON TO TAKE HR TO DEV EVEN IF BIJOY RESISTS.

AND ALSO MANY PEOPLE ARE SAYING THAT SOHA SACRIFICED HER DESIRE TO MEET HER DAD JUST TO TAKE CARE OF SONAS FEELINGS. I DONT THINK A LITTLE 6 YEAR OLD GIRL CAN BE THIS MUCH MATURE THAT SHE SACRIFICED HER OWN FEELNGS. BUT YAEH SHE REALLY UNDERSTANDS THAT HOW MUCH HIS MOM AND BOSE FAMILY LOVES HER AND THATS WHY ON THAT DAY SHE SAID THAT " I DONT WANT TO MEET MY DAD".

THATS WHY IAM SAYING INSECURITY IS FAR DIFFERNET FROM FEAR. ISHWARI HAS INSECURITIES AND SHE NEVER WANTED TO SHARE DEV WITH ANYONE EVEN WITH HER OWN DAUGHTERS EVEN AFTER KNOWING THAT SONA IS HIS LIFE AND HIS HAPPINESS. BUT SONA WILL NEVER EVER DO THAT.EVEN TODAY IF SHE FINDS OT THAT SOHA MISSES DEV BADLY AND SOHA FINDS HAPPINESS IN HER FATHER SHE WILL EVENTUALLY SACRIFICE HER FEARS AND WILL DEFINITELY CHOSE SOHA'S HAPPINESS ONLY AND WILL GIVE HER CUSTODY TO DEV (BUT THOUGH SOHA WILL NOT FEEL LIKE THAT)

SO JUST DONT FORGET WHAT ENALL SONA DID. EVEN AFTER KNOWING ISHWARI'S INSECURITY ABT DEV SHE GENUINELY TRIED TO WIN HER HEART AND NEVER COMPLAINED ABT ISHWARI TO DEV. SHE RESPECTED HER AND TOOK ALL HER DRAMA AND ISNULTS AND TAUNTS. BUT AT THAT TIME ALSO EVERYONE BASHED SONA THAT "SHE HAD BECOME A DOORMAT AND DOESNT HAVE ANY SELF RESPECT ATALL"BUT EVENTUALLY WHEN SHE DECIDED TO SEPERATE FROM DEV FOR HER AND HER FAMILY'S SELF RESPECT THEN ALSO EVERYBODY IS BASHING HER

ISHWARI, MAMI AND DEV EVERYONE BASHED BOSES AND SONA FOR MARRYING DEV FOR MONEY AND THAT WAS THE ROOT CAUSE FOR THEIR SEPERATION. THINK WHAT WOULD HAVE HAPPENED IF SHE HAD INFORMED DIXITS IMMEDIATELY AFTER KNOWING THAT SHE IS PREGNANT. DEFINITELY AGIN MAMI AND ISH WOULD HAVE BASHED HER THAT "USING THE UNBORN CHILD AS VICTIM SHE IS AGAIN TRYING TO ENTER INTO DEV'S LIFE SO THAT SHE COULD ENJOY ALL THE MONEY AND LUXURIES THROUGH HER CHILD". IF SOMETHING LIKE THAT WOULD HAVE HAPPENED THEN SHE WOULD BE TEARED INTO PART AND WOULD HAVE DIED.

HOW STRONG SONA MAY BE,ONE CANNOT BEAR THE INSULT THAT "U CANNOT BECOME A GOOD MOTHER".ONLY THESE WORDS OF DEV HAS HURTED SONA SO MUCH THAT SHE TOOK THIS DECISION. SHE IS A PERSON "WITH A HEART OF GOLD".SO PLEASE DONT EVEN COMPARE SONA TO ISH LEVEL"

But there are some people over here who how much you say the truth and will make them understand even by taking 100 pages then also they will not understand

If you want to read sane discussion then please you can check the post of Tia

In that post everyone are sane discussion is also to the point

👏👏👏 Well said...n keep writing

http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=4802991&TPN=32

Heading -paralysed!!! EDITED

EVERYDAY FOR EVERY EPISODE SHE MAKE THE POST AND WE ARE HAVING VERY PEACEFUL DISCUSSION

I do sympathise with Dev to an extent but his words were enough for Sona to go...

Dev blames Sona for leaving him but he forgot that he himself said "Get out" and those harsh things before their seperation..Sona did not trusted him and left..

So the conditions were not in their favour...

Both went wrong...and gave powers to their families to interfere and decide their destiny...

Sona is not insecure...She knows Soha loves her and will never forget her even if Dev comes into picture, whereas, Ish never had that trust in Dev...

Give her sometime, the day she will come to knw that Soha is missing her father, she will fight the world to make this happen...

I want Devskshi to introspect their own actions...they will get all the answers..

Thanks for making this post...