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Putting Myra/Kabir & their ego battles oozing with loads of sexual chemistry aside❤️
Maybe this post is coming too soon given that we're only 3 episodes in & that there'll be more to the Kohlis' but this is just my observation.
The show has some really interesting family dynamics which I personally relate to on many levels & that I don't see being explored on ITV much. Usually parents are easily typecasted into 2 kinds on ITV - ones that are control freaks & the other that completely spoil their children by pampering them with everything they want, (the 2 extremes) completing ignoring the other categories of parents who are very much there, but don't actively take part in their children's lives. On the outset, the Kohlis' look like a normal happy family (as per their introduction with the dance routine) but as we dig deeper, they seem like a distant family. They live together & are always there but yet never quite there. Or at least the mother of the house is definitely not around to guide her children & neither are the children able to openly address their issues (apart from Myra).
From Abha's perspective, her mother doesn't seem to care even when she expressed concern over Rhea's behaviour with Nikhil while her mother's perspective is that she has done enough by selecting the groom for her daughter. Abha has clearly failed to see her mother as an individual herself first with her on own coping mechanism of escaping & choosing to ignore the chaos by watching the television or getting a foot massage done etc
Mummy Kohli on the other hand, doesn't seem to understand parenting. Partly because she too is coping with the loss of her husband & the man of the house as she declared to Nikhil that a man is needed. Another reason has a lot to do with the generation gap. Parents don't often understand the complex issues kids face because everything appears normal to them if they have done enough to support the family financially & are around physically. And neither do kids sometimes understand what is going on with their parents' unless explained. What Mummy Kohli sees as Rhea's childishness appears to Abha & me as a serious issue. Rhea doesn't understand the value of what she has & simply wants to enjoy life, not realising that this zest & enjoyment can't go on forever. One needs to also settle & calm down in life at times which Mummy Kohli has not taught Rhea or that Rhea has learnt from watching her mother who appears to be doing what she likes most of the time. She too is escaping from real committment & running from any problem that may need serious decision making.
The point of my post is that families don't have to be scattered or have a lot of drama for people to be complex, or have issues. (as always shown on ITV) Often, little incidents that may appear irrelevant, or the lack of proper parenting can cause one to deviate & distance themselves like Rhea, Abha & Mummy Kohli have done over the years in what may appear as a normal, happy family. And I love this show for putting that point across so subtly.
Cheers,
Samridhi
CID
Anupamaa
