Why grey-negative female leads are hard to accept without question?

Why only grey-negative female leads are hard to accept without question where there is no problem in accepting even a black male lead? Not just in this show but many others. Why a female lead should have a strong reason to be bitchy? Why a female lead even with having a strong reason should be nice instead of hurting anyone as a revenge? Why it's hard to see a heroine controlling a hero having upper hand on him when it's considered okay and interesting if it's other way round? Is it all patriarchal thinking or being attracted by hot looks of the hero that everything is excused for him? There are hardly any GEC shows where the heroine is selfish and don't mind hurting others for her own happiness. We have a heroine on the same channel who even after forced marriage to a stranger to save her lover loves only the man who was her lover. But she is called many disgusting names by the fans of the actor playing her husband including being called as the most disgusting and worst female ever. By the way, she xant be called even grey as she never harmed anyone or plotted against anyone. Why are women biased and judgemental to their own gender it's hard to understand.

like grey shaded female leads..

Originally posted by: Shivaay_ShivIka

like grey shaded female leads..

i like them more than gopi bahu type FLs..

i liked gunjan in Veera..

sharon in d3..

Liked sharon of d3(snehas version)...

Originally posted by: mittykutty

Liked sharon of d3(snehas version)...

I like grey shaded charecters but TRP aunties doesn't like it!
That's why directors think 100 times before introducing such characters.
Kyu ki bhai, baap bada na bhaiya sabse bada TRP!🤣

Originally posted by: angel_juhi04

Even Kiya of TBP or Nandini of Chandra Nandini and some more.

Why not...i love to watch grey shaded ones rather than Mahaan aatmas...if backed up by a perfect xecution nd powerful performance it would be a treat!!!I love Maya of Beyhadh, Durga of Ek Hasina Hi nd Seher if Qubool Hai!!!

Yes definitely appreciate grey FLs and MLs with a purpose but not illogical and unnecessary grey FLs and MLs like IPkKND, QH.

Till two decades back (or even one and a half decade back) even a grey male lead was not acceptable, the male lead should have been someone like Ramji and if he wasn't he was called names, slowly the trend started changing and a few grey male leads did make their appearance and people began to accept them but for them huge redemption track was needed, slowly the amount of redemption decreased and "bad became the new good" now no longer did one need to repent his actions, just be nice afterwards, but this was only for the males the females couldn't be anything less than Savitri, I think I had read somewhere that in the first largest running Ekta show, the heroine of the second generation was married to the villain who mentally tortured her daily, still there were people wanting him to change and become the lead, it was fortunately that hero for the current generation was her real life husband with whom her pair was considered to be the biggest hit (probably the first TV favorite Jodi for long time)and so they could show that they divorced and the hero heroine did marry

Anyhow now the trend is further changing and we have heroines like Maya, Durga, Nandani (who no longer is) who are selfish and can go to any level to reach their desire, then we have girls like Anokhi, Lakshmi (main Lakshmi tere aangan ki), who love money and want to marry for money for which they can do anything, even break the alliance of their rich target (not including Roshni of Panch- although I think in this case people loved Gauri the antagonist more than Roshni, anyhow, or Kiya of TBP as discussion is on GEC)

The point I want to make is that slowly people are accepting the grey characters, while earlier the hero/heroine needed to be the purest soul possible on the earth, now people are accepting grey leads, people who are humans like us, yes I agree that the acceptance for grey males happened sooner than that for the females, probably that had to do with out cultural mindset of "Poot kapoot sune hain par na maata suni kumaata" but even that has started now, and yes I agree that it is slow process but soon the grey FLs would become as acceptable as the grey MLs