Ishwari Brand Hypocrisy!!! - Page 8

Originally posted by: varshu_018

thts her character but not informing sona about riya proposal and the coming guests was very bad

Originally posted by: fanktlk

Why do I agree with her? I would do the same. What do you want to achieve? To separate out of the relationship then fight back now would be the option. Given the Dev we have today. Because today Dev still wont listen to a word against his mom.

But if my husband was like Dev and i still love him and want to live with him, I would Test waters, test the depth and then take a firm stand openly and with my head held high.

What Sona needs is Dev's support. She is emotionally dependent on him. Remember the paratha feeding incident. It was hint enough. Dev only needs to acknowledge that Sona is treated as an outsider and Sona will give it back to everyone.

Even I noticed the minute Dev said I need to inform mom, Sona got out of the car and when after that Dev came back to her, she obliged and started talking. She didn't go into the depth as the root cause is Dev's mom... But he needs to see it himself for him to believe it.

Originally posted by: thedramaqueen

We need to remind ourselves of Dev's reaction on the phone before Ishwari took the sleeping pills.. Sona had said to him that baba felt that Ishwari wasn't ready for the alliance (yet?). Dev had blasted sona (for the first time he had actually spoken to her like that since their confession).

So, I totally get why Sona is careful(As much as we want to see Dev improve, this woman madly loves her husband) and I see no point actually in expecting your spouse to handle your relationships with your ILs. My personal experience is that when I dealt with my ILs myself and let my husband deal with his, my married life improved. We both have each other's support and that confidence is there but we don't defend each other with ILs.

So, yes, Dev wants to stay out of Sona's relationships is fine.

However, Dev still needs to be kind towards her outside the bedroom too. He may choose not to reply back to Neha or RR or Dadibua or anyone... (He did speak up at muh dikhai for some reason)... but he can still support Sona (a bit more?) and save her from the Ishwari wrath.. Why does Sona need to be there for Riya's event if Ishwari only and only cares for Dev? starry-eyed?

That, I am hoping, will happen now. Not the infinite loop of arguments and patch-ups

Originally posted by: tia.o

I have already wrote what I think Sona should do. But here's what I think Dev could do which won't require him to fight with every person all the time.

Everytime Sona is insulted or kept out of family discussion, Dev chould say, "Why are you insulting me?" or "So does it mean I am not allowed in the family discussion?"

If Radha or Ishwari asks what he is talking about, he can respond that, "Well, when you insult my wife or keep my wife separate from our family, you are insulting me and keeping me out as well. Husband and wife are not separate entity. They are one. So if my wife is not respected or welcome, I can't be respected or welcomed either."

I am betting you, if he had said that, NO ONE would ever insult Sona nor dare to treat her like an outsider in fear of insulting or losing Dev.

That's not a difficult declaration is it? Tying one's own respect and honour to their wife? Since women do it so effortlessly to their husband. They never even look back to people who insult their husband, even if it's their own family. Why is a man's loyalty to their spouse fall short of a woman's loyalty to their spouse?

Is it because women don't demand the same loyalty from their husband that they give or is it because men are brought up to believe that a wife's respect has no value?

Originally posted by: thedramaqueen

Yes he should do that... simply showing that he is hurt when Sona is insulted will be message enough . which is why i feel he doesnt need to speak out. simply showing he is hurt will be enough (and that needs to be outside the bedroom)

Just like he followed her to boses... That will send a strong message to Ishwari that next time she packs off Sonakshi, Dev is bound to follow (and on the same note. Sona should have accompanied Dev to the drive to drop Dadi bua and her bahu. Would have sent a loud and clear message to everyone that they are in this together)

just like his tighter hug on Sona sent a strong message to Neha that day in the courtyard.

Actions speak louder than words

Originally posted by: vandana1965

this ishwari is one scary lady