what will vividha do if ravish wants to con this marriage? - Page 3

Maybe you should just have this journey with Vividha and let her deal with worries of future when it actually worries her. For now her present is complicated enough for her to deal with.

Originally posted by: -JC-

Maybe you should just have this journey with Vividha and let her deal with worries of future when it actually worries her. For now her present is complicated enough for her to deal with.

hahahah...what other complications...as per my POV, this is the major and immediate complication.

Its a very rational thing to think about.

When a woman gets married, she does know that sometime in future a intimate relation ship will be expected. So Vividha not giving it a second thought is highly irrational.

As for having this journey with her and then letting her deal with it on her on. That doesnt happen, and you very well know that. Unless you are new to IF.

People here will discuss, will lay open their views what they think should happen and what they think shouldnt happen. If we were to just watch and forget, then we wouldnt be here. We would be doing our own work.

So its not polite of you to be here, and then advise us to not bother about it. If that is the case then why are you bothering about defending her. Why dont you, ignore our rant and let us deal with what they show.

Also do you have the same advise to people who are happy that she is keeping the fast for Atharva and applauding her for that. If not, then sorry to say this, but your advise is highly biased and misplaced.

This scenario will potentially only occur if Vividha continues hiding the truth from Ravish? But if he finds out sooner that she loves Atharv then this will never be an issue.

So yeh, Vividha will need to speak up soon. Then this entire discussion will be negated na?

Originally posted by: anjs

Totally agree...but i feel people who might never be ready should stay away from marriages, cause ofcourse their partners needs are also important, and if one is never gonna be ready, then why waste someone's life, right ? absolutely right, but I think this is a conversation that should be had before marriage because asexual people too have the right to marriage , but we all know vv and ravish had no chance of discussing this through

Also agree about the communication part, where one should not think that just cause they have married someone, they own that persons body, absolutely right. But also like to add, that it will go both ways, just like one partner doesnt own the other body, same way the other cannot hold their partners desires. Both need to talk and find a middle ground...One says i will never have sex with my spouse, will be unfair towards their spouse, who might want a consensual intimacy with their spouse.
again , its the other partners choice to now decide do I want to stay or go , what is more important to me. They should sit and talk , without guilt tripping or black mailing,a nd come to a decision that will make all happy if not now but for the future. My main line is free will [/COLOR ]
Oh, now I get it, maybe this is why Ramakant consummated his marriage with Suman, that since now that i was forced to marry her, let me keep her happy in all ways. Thats why he didnt come to meet Sujata till now. He was loyal to Suman in a husbandly way.

Vividha has entered this relationship with only one thought. To keep Atharva safe. And she really didnt care what happens to others cause of her this decision. And that is pretty selfish i would say. Kinda like KK, who didnt care what would happen to Vividha and Atharva if he separates them, he did so for his selfish reasons. Same way Vividha didnt care what will happen in future. Suman might get hurt, Ravish will feel betrayed. The family might have to go through so much if she decides to divorce RAvish. But she didnt even had a clue about it.

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