Sona Neha. Who is wrong?

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ltelidevara

@ltelidevara

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Posted: 9 years ago

Neha faced so much in her childhood. She was denied her basic right to education She had a brief span of relief when Dev got them the status,riches everything that help them lead a relaxed and contented life. Neha went ahead and married because she loved Ranveer .I feel she must have thought that with her brother's help she can make Ranveer well settled . But reality is something else. Ranveer is committed to his family. They are always his first preference. Also he can not be a parasite and depend on Dev for every thing. Some other person would have enjoyed being the brother in law of Dev Dikshit,who can bring the moon down to make his sister happy.

But not Ranveer. His self respect won't let him compromise for Neha.

Back home Neha felt miserable. All her dreams of a good secured life gone for a toss. She has to face the bitter reality.

Before her eyes Her Bhabhi is getting everything that she (Neha) desired to have.

Neha never liked nor disliked Sona. She always maintained a safe distance from her.

Neha is not jealous. She is frustrated.she is bitter at what life had thrown at her.She is confused. She doesn't know what to do with her life. She is not educated. She is not wrong to feel cheated not by people. But by her fate.

Sonakshi Bose the ideal daughter sister got married to her dream prince after much struggle. For a brief while she has to face the ire of the Elders in the house. She managed well,sometimes moving along sometimes making her point . Till now she withstood the negativity that spread around her.

Slowly she is coming into her own ascertaining self,The way she planned her SR and the sequences shown later proved eventually she will emerge winner in dealing with resistance and bitterness.

I don't have any complaints because she willingly opted to forego her identity and self respect to make her married life successful.

But I certainly have a problem with her negligence towards her family affairs post marriage.

Every middle class family will lose the financial balance when they get their girl married. The expenditure always crosses the budget. Sometimes the bread earners have to sacrifice so much to get back financial stability. A good daughter should not leave the matter there She should go and find out if any obligations were still left to be fulfilled I mean the payments that still are to be made. If there are any the daughter should lend her supporting hand and assure her people nothing changed after marriage.But Sonakshi hardly remembers she is a working woman.Ridiculous.

Saurav Dada is in crisis. He was doing well at the time of Sona's marriage but right now he became bankrupt.Sona's marriage also may be one of the reasons.Saurav needs help. But Sonakshi at the moment is too busy with herself. If she had gone for HM and something happened to Saurav? I shudder to imagine. I adore Saurav Dada. I feel Sona is less committed to him and the family.

This behaviour of Sona I did not like About HM I feel for some people it may be the most important and cherished moment. But for some like me it is not. If two people love each other they any way live their moments. HM or no HM.

Edited by ltelidevara - 9 years ago

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Mahi

@Mannmohanaa

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Posted: 9 years ago

Good post!

I've always felt that Neha was misunderstood at all times. No one, not even DEV bothered to actually get into her shoes and understand her. Let alone Ishwari.

When she married Ranveer, I thought she got someone who will understand her. But no. He himself is in a mess and I'm sure he wouldn't understand her, nor she, him. Its a confusion becoming stressful. Neha isn't wrong but immature, uneducated and misunderstood. Having a lack of vision. Its not her fault though, but Ishwari's and her biased upbringing.

And about Sona : I had certain expectations for her with regards to Neha but she's busy in her own dreamland. Never expected that she'll turn oblivious and selfish, in a particular way (No bashing intended). Didn't like her post marriage attitude

Specially towards her Dada and family. I'm sorry to say but she's being thankless.

If I compare both at this stage, Neha is much more better than her coz she's blind. But Sona is turning oblivious.

#SadReality

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Shaun

@Jade0001

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Posted: 9 years ago

It is true Neha had a horrible childhood circumstances at that time did not allow her to school as her mother worked while Dev got the education and she had to be mother to her younger sisters yes thats a huge responsibility when Dev finally became a businessman the Dixit family also came out of their struggles , Neha chose to throw tantrams instead of letting her brother know she wants to educate herself in which field she desired but she on her own fell in love knew Ranveer is no businessman also had visited his home she at that time was in dilema but chose love over money now that was all her doings she also wanted Dev to get Ranveer financially settled but Ranveer refused he accepted the lectures post only Neha knew all this yet she still went forward in marrying Ranveer .

Now she gets no luxury so walks away from her marriage

Sona fell in love with Dev not because he is rich but because his good qualities had attracted her its not her fault she married a rich guy . her marriage is still very young she needs to concentrate on her married life first yes its also important to take care of parents but now Saurav he has to be the breadwinner in the family if he needs help yes he should speak to either Sona or Dev but Sona cannot be blamed entirely for the financial position her family is going through they would have faced the same if she got married to Ritwick they are the ones that wanted her to marry Ritwick so they as parents should have had a plan for financials

Im not saying that Sona's parents were wrong no but now its time that Saurav also makes a stand in the family yes Sona can help financially but the truth is when one marries they first concentrate on their marriage and with Sona she has many difficulties with the Dixit family but if she knows her family is going through tough times she will indeed get Dev to help

Neha been sad or frustrated why she is the only one that chose that life why blame Sona because she has luxuries thats simply wrong

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cscs

@cscs

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Posted: 9 years ago

Neha choose this life for herself. She loved Ranveer, decided to marry him. Dev warned her about the consequences, but both Ishwari and Neha explained him that how happy she was with her love and will manage. She wanted Ranveer to get a good job, Dev got hm that and even sacrificed for his love and accepted the job offer. Neha was aware of Ranveer's house condition before hand. So basically her all the checklist was ticked when she decided to marry ranveer. No one become rich in one day. She needed patience with her love. Agreed she tried her level best to adjust with the family, but failed. But didn't ranveer's family also tried their level best with Neha. Did they taunted her for anything? They even convinced ranveer to get a new flat for himself. But circumstances changed and his mother needed money for operation. Ranveer did what a sensible guy would have done. Dev would have done the same. Ranveer's situation is very normal middle class family situation, which was Neha was aware of. She herself didn't have patience to support her love. What if Sona tells Dev to live separately from his family? Wouldn't she be blamed and bashed? But in case of Neha its different. No one from the family is trying to make her understand. Leave alone they didn't even tried talking to Ranveer and his family.

Neha's condition was far better than Sonakshi. She wasn't taunted at her in laws. In her one bedroom she was tried to be given more privacy than Sona gets in "big" dixit mansion. Leave alone their own bedroom, which is treated as some company garden by Dixit clan. Whatever scenes they showed of Neha, both she and her in laws tried to adjust.

Neha has always been shown as some sufferer. Yes she suffered but her whole family did during crisis. If she was left out then Dev was given opportunity on the cost of responsibility. Every child get opportunities to grow and live his/her own life, but Dev was given opportunity to fulfill his family dreams.

Coming to Sona, i never felt she lost her self respect or identity. A woman on leave post marriage doesn't loose her self respect or identity. She knows how and when to answer GKB and will deal with ishwari in her own style. She is no "doormat" as stated by many here. She is a strong girl and will remain so. And i beg to differ but Dixit's luxurious life is not peaceful for her either. She would have been happy to get some sensible and non taunting in laws.

Before her marriage, Saurav dada's business was doing well. He was even contributing in family's income, so sona's burden was less. His partner ditched him and this is the reason why he is bankrupted right now and not because of Sona's marriage. It was unexpected and Sona is not aware of it. I am sure when she will come to know she will help her family. And i seriously don't want her to take help from Dev, but herself manage the situation.

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Jyoti Thakur

@JyotiBThakur

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Posted: 9 years ago

Sorry to say but blaming Sona for everything is lame.

Frankly speaking when Sona was getting married and even way before that during the time Ritwick's entry was shown Saurabh Dada was doing really well in his business. Everything was perfect at the Bose house. Yes everything was. In Sona's wedding too Saurabh Dada took care of a lot of expenses. How will she even think that there must be some financial crisis in the Dixit family.

And you are talking about Sona's commitment towards her family so let me tell you one thing dear. She's new to the Dixit family and facing a lot of problems since day one. Any normal girl will be occupied with the thought to do things correctly and not to upset her in laws. She was not even getting time to spend with her husband, it was not that she was busy with enjoying her life with Dev and forgot about her family.

Yes she planned for the HM. What was the harm in it. They went to the Bose house for dinner and everything looked fine there. She even asked about Dada to Elena yesterday, but Elena didn't say anything. Don't talk about she should understand and all. Nobody understands all this when you don't talk about it. Think to be a bit realistic here.

And if you are following the show you must be aware Sona already talked about joining the work back to her MIL if the rituals are done and then the HM plan was made. She can join it after coming back too. After Saurabh dada's business was working really good he was also giving his share for the house expenses too.

And for Neha, her brother was correct. He already told her that she will not be able to adjust. Actually he said the same to his mother and Sona too. But nobody was listening at that time. Dev didn't know much about Ranveer, but Neha knew that Ranveer will never agree to take any financial help from Dev. What was there in asking Dev to make Ranveer rich? She claimed to know Ranveer well at that time and when Dev tried to help Ranveer and Ranveer refused, she was fine with it.

If at all she knew Ranveer she should have been aware that Ranveer will never take anything from Dev and will try to give her everything on his own. But it takes time. She was very well aware of Ranveer's financial status and knew she'll not get the life her brother gave her at her inlaws. Yes i feel bad for Neha. She is suffering. She had a troubled childhood too. But no one could be blamed for this. She need to give her married life some time. Because its not that Ranveer is not trying.

There's no way one can compare Neha and Sona. They are total different in any which way.

This is all what i feel. Solely my POV.

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varsha

@varshu_018

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Posted: 9 years ago

Neha choosed to marry on her own. She returned from there herself. Now when she has returned she has dev's financial support she may do whatever she wants some small business, shopping, travelling etc. But she wants only to cry and spoil others mood. Sona too is newly married and wants to enjoy life.

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thedramaqueen

@thedramaqueen

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Posted: 9 years ago

Neha was not jealous in the episode on Monday?

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ltelidevara

@ltelidevara

Sparkler

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: Artist_Forever
Good post!
I've always felt that Neha was misunderstood at all times. No one, not even DEV bothered to actually get into her shoes and understand her. Let alone Ishwari.
When she married Ranveer, I thought she got someone who will understand her. But no. He himself is in a mess and I'm sure he wouldn't understand her, nor she, him. Its a confusion becoming stressful. Neha isn't wrong but immature, uneducated and misunderstood. Having a lack of vision. Its not her fault though, but Ishwari's and her biased upbringing.

And about Sona : I had certain expectations for her with regards to Neha but she's busy in her own dreamland. Never expected that she'll turn oblivious and selfish, in a particular way (No bashing intended). Didn't like her post marriage attitude
Specially towards her Dada and family. I'm sorry to say but she's being thankless.

If I compare both at this stage, Neha is much more better than her coz she's blind. But Sona is turning oblivious.

#SadReality

Mahishee Is it you? I think I know you through Ramya. How is she? Busy with studies?

Thank you dear for feeling the same way. I am your Ramya's Lakshmi Di.

Yes I feel for Neha.She like we both think is confused. Her lack of Education became a hindrance in her all round development. I hope she will find a way to get an identity for herself. Ranveer is a good person who loves Neha. I hope they sort out their differences.

Coming to Sona I can never connect with her attitude,selfishness and disconnect with what is happening in her family. You are right. She is thankless.I wish Dada will come out of the mess with Dev's help.

By the way what happened to your story that you Srutha and Ramya are writing together? I read the first part.Did you continue that? I am curious to know about Arjun's rebirth. You revealed it? Please Inform if you posted the next part. Nice to see you here.

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Jyoti Thakur

@JyotiBThakur

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: Artist_Forever
Good post!
I've always felt that Neha was misunderstood at all times. No one, not even DEV bothered to actually get into her shoes and understand her. Let alone Ishwari.
When she married Ranveer, I thought she got someone who will understand her. But no. He himself is in a mess and I'm sure he wouldn't understand her, nor she, him. Its a confusion becoming stressful. Neha isn't wrong but immature, uneducated and misunderstood. Having a lack of vision. Its not her fault though, but Ishwari's and her biased upbringing.

And about Sona : I had certain expectations for her with regards to Neha but she's busy in her own dreamland. Never expected that she'll turn oblivious and selfish, in a particular way (No bashing intended). Didn't like her post marriage attitude
Specially towards her Dada and family. I'm sorry to say but she's being thankless.

If I compare both at this stage, Neha is much more better than her coz she's blind. But Sona is turning oblivious.

#SadReality

And here you made Neha the scapegoat. Which she is not my dear. Neha was the one who wanted to marry Ranveer knowing everything. Wasn't she aware of Ranveer's financial condition? Wasn't she aware that Ranveer's self respect is everything to him? Wasn't she aware he'll never take money or gifts from Dev? She was.

Because she claimed to know Ranveer really well. Dev tried to stop her from getting married to Ranveer knowing she just cannot adjust at Ranveer's place. Because he was the only one who understands how Neha is. But nobody paid heed to it. Yes Ishwari was and is a biased mother. Neha suffered a lot in her childhood. She deserves all the happiness. But Ranveer is trying his level best. His mother had to undergo an operation and it was more important than buying a separate flat for them. And when her husband is trying she just don't want to be patient for sometime and calling her correct without knowing Ranveer's side of story is wrong. Nobody is aware what actually had happen. But according to what was shown to us Ranveer was trying to give Neha all the happiness, but it will definitely not happen in a day or a month. It'll require time.

And talking about Sona, i think you have missed some episodes recently where Sona tried to talk to Neha and asked her to pick Ranveer's call and sort out things. But again, this is Dixit house and GKB interrupted. Didn't let her talk to Neha. And Neha's attitude is such that she don't even talk propery to her Bhabhi. The very next day she came back to the Dixit house in the morning the way she behaved with Sona was totally uncalled for and you want Neha to regularly insult Sona the similar way and Sona should only try again and again to talk to her inturn to get insulted. Talking about Sona's Job and her commitment towards her family. I have mentioned all in my previous reply.

And Sona is busy in her dreamland, like seriously. My dear, the girl was busy in pleasing her in laws for a long time after the wedding and she had a lot many arguments and fights with her husband due to that. If you call it the dreamland, then i don't ever want to be in this kind of dreamland ever. And for god sake if she planned for a date for her husband that doesn't make her blind. They are newly married and for over 2 weeks they didn't even get to spend some time together. This is not the only and last problem in the Dixit household, so you want DevAkshi to stop living their life and stop spending time together, first solve all the problems till the times other problems pop up and then solve the new problems and get old.

Dev will definitely solve his sister's problems. But that doesn't mean he should not take care of his wife. She too is his responsibility now. Neha definitely has some dreams but so do Sona.

Sorry but in every household there are problems but nobody stop living their life. This is reality check.

Completely my POV. You may disagree.

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Sajini Cherian

@sajinifaby

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Is it always necessary to compare and if you really do.. why not compare 2 individuals of the same kind..

Sona n Neha chose their destiny.. that is the only similarity between the two of them..

In this matter.. I gues majority didn't want any to happen.. Ranveer Neha or Dev Sonakshi

But that is nothing but the reality... opposites attract n that is quite strong...

Now the whole relation is a magnetic field .. if it is strong u remain together if not separated ...

Neha - was warned by Dev time n again.. that Ranveer cannot give you happy life you desire .. if not for Dev no one has understood Neha so well.. he took her sarcasm.. taunts all coz of one guilt he is not responsible of... the opportunity he got..
Ishwari on the contrary gave great lectures to Dev n Neha on what real love is and self respect is all etc .. and blamed Dev when he tried to offer Neha a life she wants..
I don't understand Ishwari.. what I see is she just manipulates and bargains her desires through others feelings... a true dealer.. she cares nothing for Neha...today she all of a
Sudden becomes a pillar of support or compassionate for Neha.. sighhh!

Now Sona - is warned by her dad several times. That Dev is no good for her n his family too.. but for her Dev is all n all/ her love that no mater what she can't let go.. now that she thinks she got her love story.. she is in her fantasy world.. when we all are in that one.. it's obvious you do not see anything but just you.. and it's not being selfish or self centersd n thankless.. it's momentary and needs time to settle...
Dada was always underestimated by Baba.. but Sona trust people when they say all is well. When for Ritwick her folks spent quite a lot - her dad reassured her they have all money.. so beyond that point u do not need to crosscheck it.. you need to give time to Sona to settle down in her marriage life which is so full of drama.. she will call dada when she feels fishy.. at the moment am sure all feel she is not wrong in anticipating something is wrong n go out n help.. their family is honest n never hid anything so she is used to it..
HM is necessary or not is personal.. but I feel it's good when you are away from family n other responsibilities. It helps build intimacy for the couple. In this case.. for Sona who has not travelled anywhere.. it has been her dream.. long before their love relation itsel it is Dev who asked her why she has marked places in the globe- to which she said - she wanna travel the world - so Dev wanna fulfil it... which he then promised... emotionally he breaks off the HM not going decision isn't a good thing before discussing esp after you give full on hopes to ur wife..am sure Sona understands but she is shocked to c how each time Dev falls for such emotional blackmail which is unhealthy for their relationship and married life..
Ranveer Neha life - Neha wants attention n luxury.. coz she was devoid of both since childhood .. but any day she chooses luxury over love.. that's how it has been.. which is wrong when it comes to real life..

When Dev calls her - she responds badly .. she watches the couple love from far n eyes on them .. wishing she had all this.. it's bad to compare ..coz one can never be content living this way

My only word of wisdom is either u compromise n be content
Or walk away n chose what u want

If u truly want others happiness ensure ur life doesn't create imbalance in othersa

Neha when given attention shows a lot of tantrums..
Headache.. n saying am content n all- for what? Be honest n upfront..

Brewing negativity will always spread negativity..
That does the same with those who always think even in our forum..

Kabhi toh acha socho?

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