Originally posted by: libran13
Clicking on the LIKE button wouldn't be enough to describe your post. Because i LOVED it. This show has hit some places very close to my heart too. It is one show that actually reminded me of many instances that has happened during my wedding and post marriage too.
I am copying and pasting this post I made in another topic.
I feel bad for what Sona has to go through after marriage and her reality check on Ishwari's behaviour and her acceptance of this marriage purely being on Dev's insistence. Her situation reminded me a lot about what i faced in the first few months after my marriage. For Sona, from being the princess in her own house to being a NOTHING in her husband's house is the most disappointing situation for any girl. I remember I used to find it so difficult to adjust. And especially when there are many relatives lurking around to find fault in everything I used to do. Believe it or not there were relatives who used to call my in-laws first thing in the morning to find out about my habits. I was in for a shock being in that kind of an atmosphere.
I used to be a very independent girl. I used to work and study at the same time to support myself. And parents were supportive for the soul reason that i learn to live my life and be independent.
Being criticized for every minor thing, I began to question myself on everything i did. From being the girl who used to make decisions on her own, I had reached a stage where i couldn't decide on anything without asking. That unsure I had become of myself.
My husband like most of men worshiped his mother and wouldn't hear a word against her from anyone. And especially being an arranged marriage, the option of talking my heart out was not an option, because anything I say would fall on deaf ears.
I remember I had become so depressed with everything and was so lost in life. I would go through the daily routine just because i had to. But it wasn't the life I had pictured for myself. I had lost 10kgs within the first 3 months of my marriage. I couldn't eat properly nor sleep.
Then when my parents met me, they were shocked to see me so thin. They began questioning if everything was alright. And i used to lie to them that everything was fine because I didn't want to worry then and also I knew that even if i told them, they wouldn't be able to do much. Then every relative began to question me and some even began assuming that I was suffering from some illness.
I think that was a waking point for my husband and his family. Maybe it wasn't for me but the worry of what people are talking behind their backs. But slowly things started to ease out. But for me the damage was done. And then we relocated to another country when my husband got better job prospects and since then things have eased out a lot.
Now 5 years down the lane, with God's grace, things couldn't have been better. Every time i speak to my MIL or meet her, she has this genuine fondness for me and that means the world to me. Looking back, I think it was my silence and not creating scenes or arguments for every small thing that changed their attitude towards me. That doesn't I have never spoken. I have spoken back but only when very necessary and just to the point in a subtle manner without creating a scene. Now my husband respects me for the maturity I showed in handling every problem in our marriage. I may have had that patience to wait for years for everything to sort out but not everyone would.
Coming back to Sona's situation, she is going to face a lot of hurdles in her married life. But what i liked most about yesterday's episode was that she shared a level of intimacy with Dev where she could talk to Dev honestly and question him about her worries. And she was spot on with her questions.
I apologize for the long post, but when i began writing about my experience I didn't expect it all to pour out. I have never spoken about my struggles to anyone in my life. Not family nor friends. But i felt this was one place i could speak out.
Sorry again for boring you all 😊
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