As Real as possible

I had an arranged marriage but we had a long courtship period during which we got to know one another well and fell in love wth each other and we were desperately waiting for our d day..we belong to the same state, same religion, but different cities...and inspite of that , the cultural differences betn the cities created issues at my wedding...just to state one small eg, in my place , wen the bride enters the mandap, the brides brother or anyone in that postion, goes down, holds the grooms hands and invites him to the mandap..however i guess, at my husbands place, the whole family needs to be invited to the mandap esp the elderly..so this act raised many eyebrows from their side..my father in law was furious coz he felt embarrassed in front of the elders in his family..so this being such a minor issue, was big enough to have a few angry faces among the guests and families throughout the wedding...and me , like sona, was in my lala land and was ignorant of all the happenings...

Luckily our first night went normaly😆 but the second day, we have the brides family coming to the grooms house...with shagun and stuff...again few cultural clashes , the brunt of which i had to face all the day in the form of jokes n taunts...and the most surprising part was the man, who promised to be by my side, being a silent spectator to all this. Being newly married and being respectful, i laughed it off, each time a joke was cracked on my parents and their customs...but my husband had to bear it for many nights 😆...Sona's argument wth Dev reminded me so much of myself, from the second night of marriage...i took out all the frustration , anger on him and he, like Dev , tried to explain and calm me down and be close and i cldnt allow him to even touch me for not being a man and taking a stand for his wife...Hence we had some lonely nights for another few days ...😉

Other shows might show the female being taunted and insulted and her accepting it all silently and at night being the perfect wife and giving the viewers some romantic moments they look forward to but that hardly happens in real life ..wen u are not even sure of ur position in the family and in ur husbands life, u cannot just act as if nothing happened...

Well, this was 9 yrs ago, and today i feel proud to see my husband standing up for me whenever needed...proud to see my inlaws and parents in a more cordial and understandin relation...

So basically, individuals need time to make any relation wrk..no husband n wife hve a perfect argument free life from the very first day of marriage...no family accepts the girl wholeheartedly right from day one..it tkes time .As difficult it is for the girl to adjust to the new family , it is the same for the boy...he has a thousand eyes watching over him, to catch even the slightest change in his behavior, to make assumptions abt him not givin equal imp to family post marriage.. to call him a joru ka ghulam or attack the girl from tkin away the son from his family...he has to make sure none of this happens..he has to learn to balance the two...and for that he needs time too..human beings are insecure deep down...everyone wants to be the priority in one anthers life...and its only true understanding at deeper levels that make relations wrks..

Devakshi are so new to it...they need time...plz let them learn from experiences..leT them argue it out ...let them fight and let them grow...:)

Devakshi hav just entered...thy hav long way to go...let them take their own sweet time...

thanks dear...yes , if everything goes smootly(which never happens in real life) then we wld have to wind up the show in a week 😆

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Have recently joined and pretty much agree... The first night is a bit of a haze. Most couples have had a bit of hanky panky/kissing/fondling by the time they have the suhagrat

I just hope they now show #sona not competing with husband's mom. She needs to be his wife not his mom

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hi..welcome to the forum dear...and yes you are right..she shld concentrate on being a gud wife rather than arguing abt who wld make tea for him😆..anyways the promos are always exaggerated..lets c wats in store for the viewers..

My worst fear is Shaheer and Erica's dates are an issue and they are having to use fillers like dadi bua.. that woman needs an exit. Its spoiling the whole decorum and mood of the soap for me. We done need such loud people in this serial.

yes yes..i really look forward to some romance...cv;s shld balance it out too..but its just the first night post marriage..i have hopes from the c'vs..am sure they cannot escape showin it now...😆