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I was absolutely blown away by yesterday's episode! Whatever qualms I had with the ME and the way they dealt with the wedding were completely put to rest yesterday, as Sona and Dev themselves voiced those concerns. This showed me that every disheartening glitch and obstacle in the wedding was very much a deliberate part of the CVs' vision: how love can lead you into situations you never saw yourself accepting!
The harsh reality that Sona faced as soon as she entered the Dixit household yesterday was testament to this. If anyone is worried that the show has lost its essence, just think back to Neha's first night in her sasural. Before she fell in love, she categorically insisted that she didn't want to be around a big, noisy family, where she would have to put her own happiness second to someone else's, but lo and behold, she spent her first night babysitting Ranveer's rambunctious niece and nephew, having volunteered to do so herself. This show has always been about questioning the power of love in the face of hard, cold reality, and yesterday's episode added one more dimension to this core theme.
Being her father's daughter, Sona never thought that she would allow herself to throw caution and pride to the wind, and put her trust entirely in another individual, but then came Dev. He makes very little sense on paper, but they have this deep and undeniable connection that, for the first time, Sona cannot control. Once her resistance to it broke at the (Ritwick) engagement, she never really recovered, and Asha leapt up to strike while the iron was hot. Honestly, I think she was wise to do so because Sona had the unrealistic expectation of every issue being resolved before she married Dev, which was never going to happen, and that all or nothing attitude would have only come back to haunt Sona with regret in the end, if she missed the chance to be with Dev entirely. So Asha took advantage, and pushed for the wedding to happen before the romantic bubble of the reconciliation popped and people's egos started to rear their heads again, because of her confidence that whatever happened after, these two were stronger together than apart.
Dev, for his part, was so grateful that she forgave and accepted him, that he went out of his way to try and give Sona and her family the fairytale wedding she always dreamt of. For once, he even had Ishwari's unconditional support in this because the scare of his behaviour upon losing Sona was still fresh in her mind. Unfortunately, Ishwari herself became conflicted with Dadi Bua's appearance on the scene, and was unable to be as discreet as she had probably planned with regards to her problems with the food and other arrangements. Dadi Bua came to give voice to Ishwari's thoughts, thereby cracking the facade that she had so carefully built up for Dev's wedding.
It's hard for me not to feel sorry for Dev here. He is merely doing what he has been taught to do, hide inconvenient truths in order to keep people happy. It's what he did for Sona with the wedding, and what he is doing still with her medical reports, but it conflicts directly with Sona's method of direct confrontation and open anger. These are issues that run deep -- whether confrontation is healthy, or to be avoided at all costs, whether things are hidden to spare feelings, or opened up as issues to be resolved -- and there are no black and white answers to any of them. It's for Dev and Sona to figure out what balance they wish to strike.
And finally, coming to Ishwari, I cannot praise the makers enough for the amazing conflict they have brought about within her! On the one hand, she loves Sona dearly as an individual, but on the other, she is the girl who has embodied the abstract concept that drives Ishwari to distraction with insecurity and anxiety: Dev's wife. On the one hand, she has so much respect for Sona, her profession, and her success, but on the other, sees her as nothing but a toy that she has acquired to fulfil her son's desire. Ishwari's journey from here on out, is about reconciling the threatening, abstract concept of "Dev's wife" with the corporeal and very much beloved Sona.
In turn, for Sona (especially with regards to the new promo) the journey will be to find out that she is better for this family, being herself, rather than trying to be their "ideal bahu." Much more than someone to take on domestic duties, which Ishwari already presides over, the Dixits are in need of someone who can facilitate communication, and bring reason to situations overridden by emotions. In short, they need a Bose, not just another Dixit. It is here that I think Sona's own identity will shine, and bring that new happiness to her new household!
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