Originally posted by: desigirl987
Sorry for the late reply !!! Yes you make sense.But I agree and disagree . I completely agree to the part that , she goes to defensive mood only with the abstract idea of DEV'S WIFE . We could clearly see it in yesterdays episode where she was her usual self when she was doing the muhdikhayi , but if you watch closely there was a moment of discomfort shown in the flick of a second while Dev was proudly raining praises at his wife in front of her guests !!! I also agree to the part that she would be feeling the same with any woman in his life .
But I disagree that its best case scenario that Sona happens to be that woman !!! In my opinion that's the worst case at least for now . The situation leading upto the revelation of Dev-Sona relationship to Ishwari had the worst impact on her . No wonder she saw her as threat to her , as for the first time she was witnessing someone else other than her convincing Dev , let alone changing his 18 year old beliefs . As a person who is not very lenient to accommodate new changes , she was seeing how much Sona's presence in his life was changing his choices . Of course it was foolish to think his new choice of colors or bed sheets gives any indication to his changed priority in terms of relations . As per my understanding of the character her worst fear is losing her place in her son's life and she was feeling like he was slipping away ... But when the relationship broke , she was relieved that all these qualms were only in her head , convinced herself it was indeed a weak relation which was meant to be broken , until she saw a never seen before avatar of Dev - drunken , broken , pleading in front of his love ... She could not even meet his eyes when he was questioning her in that pathetic state ... As much as she wanted him to be happy again , and didnt want to be held responsible for being the reason for their break-up , she is very much aware of the depth of his love now . I dont know how its gonna favor Sona , IMO it would only add fuel to the fire and make her insecurities resurface faster ... The makers might have added infertility track for this purpose , we all know Dev would be giving his unwavering support to Sona in this matter ...
But the fact that she likes and respect Sona as an individual may help in the long run , which would contribute to a beautiful MIL-DIL bonding . But we may have to wait longer for that till Ishwari overcomes her insecurities !!!
PS: Have you watched Fawad Khan's Humsafar ? Some times Ishwari shows the shades of Fareeda , Ashar's mom which scares me and I really really hope CVs wont go in that route !!!
That's what I meant, though (@bold), that in the long run, Ishwari's genuine fondness for Sona will help her overcome the insecurities over "Dev's wife," because though she may have to "share" her son, she also gets a daughter whom she loves in exchange, as their relationship grows. Imagine if Dev had married someone with whom it was impossible for Ishwari to have a genuine bond... that insecurity would have haunted her and only grown her whole life.
Honestly, the first time Dev revealed his relationship to Ishwari, everyone was operating under some dangerous assumptions which caused them to trample all over each other's feelings. It wasn't that Ishwari didm't like Sona, but she wasn't given any time to get used to the idea and prepare herself mentally before talks of marriage and lifelong commitment started. The shopping trip that she was using for affirmation that Dev would always be her son ended up working in the other direction when he insisted that Sona come along. On the other hand, Sona did a bad job communicating to her parents what the situation was, and that led them to come to the Dixits' house so they could find out for themselves, in turn, leading to more pressure on an already delicate situation.
I strongly believe that had Dev and Sona tread more carefully, revealed their relationship to Ishwari and then backed off for some time, she would come to terms with it in her own way as we see her doing now. But they were also naive and caught up in their honeymoon phase at that time, with Dev having no idea of his mother's complex inner conflict.
As for the infertility issue, just imagine if this had taken place with someone that Ishwari genuinely did not connect with. Now she will be torn between sympathy for Sona and her interpretation of this as a failure for Dev... but at least she will be torn, and that is thanks to her love for Sona as an individual. That's what I meant when I said it was good that Sona had occupied this place, rather than someone else.
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