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Watching Ishwari is like watching master class in manipulation. She uses every single weapon in her arsenal to make sure her pawns move the way she wants them to move.
She has a very innocent, won't-harm-a-fly face that is as cunning as Shakuni from Mahabharat and arsenal of tears which she yields like weapons to cut through all protests.
But she is not completely to be blamed.
Human beings are not naturally selfless. Social structure, upbringing etc. makes people control their selfish nature but it's never completely gone. Everyone thinks of themselves first.
So if you let someone take an inch and they take a mile and you let them, then as much they are at fault for taking advantage of you, you are equally to be blamed for letting them.
There is a saying in English. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
In this instance, the shame belongs to Dev and Sonakshi.
Here's the thing. If Dev truly has understood that Sona is out of reach for him and hence decided to move on, then he should tell his mother than Sona has made her decision. He respects that. It's better for him to move on so not to interfere anymore.
And if he is still hoping Sona to change her mind, then also he should tell his mother not to interfere. He will get her back and he will win her family over.
Either way, he should strongly tell his mother that whatever needs to be done about Sona, that's his responsibility, not hers.
But what he is doing? He is again giving his mother vague messages like as if only her insult is the reason, he wants her not to go to Bose family again. No. The only reason she should not go there is that its his job, not hers. He never tells the actual reason for anything ever. Instead he is ignoring his mother's crazy stalking and pretending as if he doesn't know what she is doing. But all the while hoping she convinces Bose family while he gets the prize.
I truly shouldn't expect him to grow a spine so soon but at least I expected him to learn from his previous mistakes to not let his mother come between him and Sona. But may be I placed too much faith in his intelligence.
Sona also learned absolutely nothing from the past ordeal. She is letting the mother come between her and Dev by slowly falling for her blackmail. If Dev can't even make the effort to convince your dad and she does even this little task on his behalf, she should be prepared to be treated like second class citizen for the rest of her life. You make your bed, girl, you gotta lie in it.
I mean why would Dev have any respect for her family? He doesn't have to ever face his mistakes. Did he apologise for causing them pain and insult? Sona apologised for her mistake but never him. And this guy is concerned for his mother's respect who doesn't bother giving Sona's family the same courtesy.
But is he completely at fault? No.
If a son or daughter in law doesn't respect their in laws, it's the son/daughter's fault.
Respect doesn't come free. If you don't demand respect for your own parents, why should the in laws show them any respect?
Same with wives. If the son doesn't demand his mother shows proper respect to his wife, why should she show her any respect?
If Sona gives in without Dev lifting any finger or making any effort for her family, I'd lose all respect for her, just like I have with Dev.
You can help people come out of a tangle they got caught unaware, but people who enter the trap willingly, they have to struggle there on their own.
I must say, for once Radha was right. It was indeed the feast before going for the kill.
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