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Shraman are childhood friends. Possibly each others first love. Such love runs really deep. They have loved each other on the back burner for a LONG time.
Why then is their relationship failing so badly? Ten years of space also did not mend it. Is it because the CVs messed up royally? Is it Ramnaath? Or something else altogether.
My analysis is that it is not because of the working thing or self respect thing or ego thing. It is definitely not a man-woman thing.
It is only because of the difference in their personality type. So Ramnath is right on some level. (However Ramnath's marital problems seemed to be due to his suspicious sensitive nature. Nirmala appears like a normal person to me. She left her son but may be she had very little choice in the matter. Things like this happen all the time. I know of bad divorced fathers who do the unthinkable things to their own children including separating them from mothers. Ramnath-Nirmala did not seem to share a deep friendship earlier like Shraman.)
Shravan is basically introvert. He has very few friends and is extremely loyal to them. It is a great effort for him to make new ones and trust them. He would mostly feel exhausted after interacting with people for some time. I know several people like this(including myself!). Since he is extremely loyal he would be sensitive to his peoples needs(including his fathers).
Suman is an extrovert. She loves to surround herself with people. People she may not even be close to. She goes out of her way to meet new people and doesn't think too much about them. It is good for business. Probably in life too it is good because she would be energetic and friendly. She would be feeling invigorated by being part of a gang. She would have no choice but to fit in. It is her personality and she can do nothing to change it.
Alas! Extrovert people would feel stifled when they stay with introverts. They would struggle to 'break free'. She handled this problem in high school by hiding him away. Cooking up stories about image and what not. She did care about popularity and image. But not in the way I was earlier thinking. Popularity + great image = lots of people to hang out with. The reality is she needed a lot of people and Shravan would never let that happen if she always hung out with him. In a way he holds her back from her oxygen, people. Same problem exists today as it did ten years ago.
Introverts are also affected by extroverts. They would feel left out and abandoned. They would feel that their partner is walking out on them everyday(Which he perceives his mother actually did). Even if the partner is being herself and not trying to cause harm. Coldness does not affect introverts much. Shravan wouldn't be as disturbed by Suman's coldness. But he would be agitated by her new choice of 'friend', Aditya. I am guessing Shravan is now suffering from depression. Depression makes introverts more 'introvert'ish. I don't think he can come out of his shell ever now.
I think this is the basic problem between Shraman. If they have to resolve it they need to get past this introvert vs extrovert thing. Shravan needs to accept that sometimes Suman might spend time with other people(even if he isn't fond of the aforementioned people). Suman needs to accept that Shravan needs plenty of exclusive together time. Hope both of them have enough maturity to get past it. Bigger hope is that they can actually be happy. Isn't that the most important thing? Together or apart, they need to be happy first.
Of course with the show being all over the place now, for them to even be in the same frame seems difficult! I don't see how the CVs can manage to do the above when both of them are so unwilling to compromise on anything. It sounds impossible.
The hole the CVs have created may be too deep to get out of. Suicide attempts, public humiliation and accidents cannot fix personality differences! But I do appreciate them for giving us such a nice conundrum. Hope this serial doesn't get shelved due to bad TRPs or something. It actually makes you think and is down to earth. Except a few outlandish portions which can be written off as creative license.
Let me know your thoughts please...
Shiv Shakti
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