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Ishita has nothing to lose. Because in her eyes, everything is already lost.
People forget how fiercely possessive about Raman Ishita is, because her innate jagatmaata-ness. It's this self sacrificing nature that makes her feel like she's worth something, after the world has told her she is of very little worth. So she goes out of her way to feel needed. Like people, especially Raman and her in laws, can't just dispose of her the way subbu did.
This sometimes overshadows this powerful jealousy she has about Shagun. It's very human, and we have seen her slightly retaliate when she's threatened. When Raman opts for surrogacy, and there is this glass wall between them, at Ruhi's school function she openly claims him. And then, when nidhi is all over him, we see this come to the fore.
But especially when it comes to Shagun. Shagun makes her question whether Raman even finds her attractive, and it's this that eventually leads her to act very unlike her and try to, for all intents and purposes, seduce Raman.
So Ishita is possessive. She loves Raman. But this possessiveness stems from the strength she has, well at the moment, had, as his wife.
But Raman, in her and the world eyes has given this position to another. It's been taken away and given to Shagun. Ishita fought for her right as his wife; and she still thinks of him as her husband. This is made very clear when mani questions her about her comfort level with Raman. This is important. She thinks of him as her husband. However,She thinks he doesn't think of her as his wife.
So these two idiots yet again have this wall between them. He thinks she left him, and moved on. She thinks he doesn't think of her as his wife.
Normal people would air these issues out. Couples shout, scream, make up. But Raman and Ishita don't. And I think it's because they are terrified of the answers they might get.
So this wall will remain.
And because this wall will stay erect, Shagun will do what she is best at. Exploiting other people's weaknesses. Mainly Ishita. Ishita, as Shagun herself was the one to recognise, is too good for her own good. So she'll play the very cards that will pierce Ishita's own heart. This whole very weak parallel of Shagun-pihu to the far superior ishita- Ruhi, is meant to play on that.
So As Ishita tries to get through to Ruhi, she will battle her feelings for Ramsn, the urge to mother pihu as well as Ruhi, and Shagun.
And if most people were in Ishita's situation, they would think, why the hell am I here? Yes, Ruhi is the most important. Of course. But I've seen many comments about Ishita and her self respect, at the idea of forgiving Ramsn, or moving in. But here is my point. Ishita has always had her self respect compromised. Even before we saw the story unfold. She has been made to feel worthless over her barrenness her whole adult life. And she doesn't really retaliate. It's always been Ruhi or Raman that question it. And now they aren't even by her side. Ishita has lost everything she drew strength from.
That is not to say women, just because they feel unworthy, should take this kind of disrespect. What I am saying is that whilst people find outrage in this, I think Ishita has become so used to it now, it's a norm.
And the sad truth of the matter is, that yes, whilst she's a modern day, working woman, she's also an Asian woman. And we are built with a sort of upbringing that conditions us to compromise at every turn. I have recognised that in my very own upbringing. It's a shared quandary between my Pakistani friends here in the UK. There is this pull to strive towards freedom of speech and free will, but then we are taught, even here in the UK within our family homes still, to hold our tongues, even when we should question things.
Ishita Bhalla lost everything the day she lost Ruhi. Raman told her to leave. And upon her return she sees the love of her life propose to the very woman that has always made Ishita feel inferior. And Raman and Ishita are so clouded by misunderstandings and insecurity, and pain they don't even recognise each other any more. But Shagun does. She recognises Ishita is the one wanted by everybody, but that Ishita has always felt insecure and down trodden she can't recognise this herself. So Shagun arora, master manipulator will take advantage of the fact that Ishita has nothing. Not even her own blood knows that her 'haar wali aunty' is her mother.
These misunderstandings are going to be exploited by her. But what strikes me is this. As my post's title says, Ishita has nothing, nothing in her eyes. Yet Shagun's the one filled with insecurity right now.
And here is the difference between the two. Well there are many, but the one I'm drawing on. Shagun took everything she once had for granted, and is now striving to get it back. Ishita however, never truly believed her own luck when she finally got a small slice of happiness. It's like she had to constantly pinch herself to make sure she wasn't dreaming. And it's these innate feelings that are making Ishita just accept things, whilst shagun's increasing insecurity is seeing her slowly return to her old ways.
Ishita, she has nothing to lose now. But she still can't believe she ever had in the first place.
Anupamaa
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