I have to clear my debts as a daughter and sister

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Posted: 9 years ago
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It was the most powerful dialogue of today and something every girl, every woman has to understand. When we talk for gender equality how many of us are willing to fulfill our duties as daughter, sister post marriage. I have seen women cribbing my husband doesn't like, his family doesn't like, so you just accept what they say. You just accept the fact that even when you are in a position to help your birth family you will not do it, because your sasural doesn't want you to.
If we women has to get rid of beti paraya dan concept this is something we have to learn to do. By helping your birth family you are not being a bad wife or a bad bahu. And with your actions you have to prove to your sasural this. It will be difficult in the beginning, but if you keep trying sincerely things will happen.
Look at Swa. By deciding to stand for the right is she not doing any duty of bahu or wife. She is. But no one wants to accepts her bahu or wife because she has taken a stand as a daughter for her family.
It's very tough for a girl to stand like that especially when even her husband is not supporting. That's why financial independence becomes utmost important. Respect has to be their in a relation and a woman has to do everything in her power to keep the relation stable, but without respect, trust of another's POV a relation cannot survive. It is better to break it off. I am sure it will happen. She will have to go from Sinha house. And it is better she goes and stay with that farmer where she had kept subaida.
That place she will atleast get some emotional support, care and genuine love from those poor people and at present Swa needs that. She needs some positivity than accusations all along to drive the case.
Let Adarsh Sinha live in his fools paradise till day 10 of the battle. And when on 11th day he comes she can tell get lost, she will win on her own. But let him go, go any extend for her because she needs Adarsh Sinha when most probably Suhasini Sinha will enter the battle field on 11th day when she aims at Manohar.
Understand 11 once again. If you look MB, Pandavas were the happiest on 11th day. Because they had brought down Bhishma on day 10 and they have all the positivity. Only Krishna knows the real battle is from then on. Yes the person guarding the system has fallen, but his power has not. On 11 th day Karna enters the field with the weapon Shakthi or power against which there is no defense in direct combat. Power of Karna has to be taken, which is only possible through Krishna and his illusion. Hardest part, suffering part, painful part is taking the power.
I will equate Suhasini to Karna. The most talented, eloquent warrior unfortunately on wrong side. But without Adarsh Sinha taking power from Suhasini Sinha is impossible for Swa.
Once again 11 bullets, Abhay holding Adarsh and Jai. Yes they are needed if justice has to be delivered not only for Asad, but also for him.
Note it was only Adarsh and Jai who saw Abhay alive. Not Manohar. Manohar saw only the dead body of his son. Abhay passed the baton of battle to his brothers. To complete what he left incomplete.

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Hi Shruti ❤️
How true!! Swa is doing all duties but getting no support.. All thanks to a certain army personnel who didnt do his duty well...
I liked how the villagers took in Zubaida. I thought maybe they may not accept her calling her a terrorists mother too..

According to precap they are outside court already. Does this mean the battle in courts will start so soon?


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Posted: 9 years ago
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Yes Ria tomorrow is day 1 in court. The police told they will close case on day 1. But Swa will get extension. Waiting to see how she does that
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: shruthiravi

Yes Ria tomorrow is day 1 in court. The police told they will close case on day 1. But Swa will get extension. Waiting to see how she does that


This time like last time against Ahuja she has no real evidence but just intuition
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Posted: 9 years ago
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the rejection was expected but it still hurt, my heart went out to swadheenta. I understand the sinha's anger but seriously? at least show a little humanity towards the girl. unlike others, I still believe adarsh loves her but it has taken a backseat to the devastated and bloodthirsty brother. He is living in a fools paradise and also has a misplaced sense of justice and equality.
what did you think of jaya today? poor woman is a robot with only adarsh bahu and wife feature.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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@pom Jaya is that woman who does not have an identity of her own. She accepts what her hus tells, MIL tells without question. She was like that before. She is like that. Too submissive. Simi if you had seen on the other hand is extreme. She was always supporting her dad till she knew the truth of her heart condition.
Swa is in between. She tolerates, but exerts her identity too. Jaya is completely on one side of threshold, Simi on other side. Swa is on the threshold and being in threshold is the hardest thing. I could actually relate to her. Relate to her very much.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@pom Jaya is that woman who does not have an identity of her own. She accepts what her hus tells, MIL tells without question. She was like that before. She is like that. Too submissive. Simi if you had seen on the other hand is extreme. She was always supporting her dad till she knew the truth of her heart condition.

Swa is in between. She tolerates, but exerts her identity too. Jaya is completely on one side of threshold, Simi on other side. Swa is on the threshold and being in threshold is the hardest thing. I could actually relate to her. Relate to her very much.


Will Jaya never have an identity of her own? and sorry to ask but y do u relate to Swa? Its not common to have such situations na where the responsibilities clash?
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Shruti yet again bang on analysis always waiting for ur post as gives new angle to watch the serial each day.
As prakash and ratna helped i think banwarilal (krishna)may also help giving swadhu some info regarding yash i just hav a intution as he was an army personnel.

Its s very difficult for a daughter r even that matter for a son to repay for what their parents have done for them but in relation to dehleez what could b greater gift than giving back her parents their identity . Infact in this process she s restoring her own identity as she believes that mamu n mami r the ones who hav had a stronger impact on her in the growing age as she seems to b poorly connected with her biological parents .Hats off to the cvs for such a brilliant script.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Originally posted by: shruthiravi

@pom Jaya is that woman who does not have an identity of her own. She accepts what her hus tells, MIL tells without question. She was like that before. She is like that. Too submissive. Simi if you had seen on the other hand is extreme. She was always supporting her dad till she knew the truth of her heart condition.

Swa is in between. She tolerates, but exerts her identity too. Jaya is completely on one side of threshold, Simi on other side. Swa is on the threshold and being in threshold is the hardest thing. I could actually relate to her. Relate to her very much.


Jaya's behaviour frustrated me more than adarsh's. then she told swadheenta that it is her responsibility to keep sinha family's honour(or something like that). I understand that all of them think she is wrong but jaya is like a broken record and don't get me started with that vanshika comment🤢

i hope she understands that there is more to a woman than being an ideal bahu
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Firstly, as we go along in life, we make new relations. But to think that we do this at the cost of leaving behind our old one's is silly and stupid. It doesn't happen that way.

My first identity will always be that of a daughter, then of a sister. Subsequently comes all other relations. If we did not believe this to be true, why is everything that we do (good or bad) compared to our upbringing. Even after 10 years of marriage, if I cannot make a proper daal, my mother will get blamed for it. After 10 years, shouldn't it be my MIL? It doesn't happen. Because you are always a daughter first and then a daughter-in-law. You are always a mother first, and then a wife. It is just the simple reality of us as humans.

As powerful as the dialogue was, and it is understandable why it was used, the use of words like "debt / karz" can be misconstrued and misinterpreted. The mention of this debt wasn't in a general sense. This word was used in a specific context. No one is indebted in any relation. Any relationship between 2 people is only fruitful if both people concerned are vested in it in equal measures. If there is debt, then the relationship has already failed. From that perspective, I am a little conflicted about accepting that dialogue without establishing its true worth. According to me, Adarsh's supposition of all of them having to be indebted to Abhay's life is because it has been established that Abhay laid down his life to safe that of others. Swadheenta's mention of repaying her debt to her maamu and brother is because she knows they did their bit towards saving many lives too, and that they also deserve mention and recognition.

Lastly, great analysis as always Shruthi. Your prediction of the 12 = ending and 13 = new beginning was bang on. New things are going to happen starting today. 👏

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