Why does Anandi always has to be Mahaan ?

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Thewanderer

@Thewanderer

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Posted: 9 years ago

Anandi had a chance of finding love again but no, she had to complete Anant's family and make them happy. She always does this, keeping her own interests in the end. Her samaaj seva has made her suffer so much.

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aparnauma

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Posted: 9 years ago

Anandi wasn't doing any sacrifice when she rejected the idea of remarriage. She can't see herself giving away Shiv's place to anyone.

She never saw Anant as a prospective husband.So why should she force herself?So where is the question of sacrificing?

On the other hand for once she put her interests above every one's wishes.

Bringing in Pushpa and uniting Anant family is her way of saying no to Anant.

Nidhi thinks Anandi will be very happy to be her mom.But is Anandi interested in becoming Nidhi's mom?

Anandi got her daughter back after twelve years and she wants nothing more than live a happy life with her kids so why should she force herself to get into a relationship which she is not keen on?

Edited by aparnauma - 9 years ago

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jayshree1942

@jayshree1942

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Posted: 9 years ago

this is not samjseva, she was not having any feeling for anant and when she realised people around her cooking something and she doesnt want to make things completed , she found wise way to solve problem.

For me this is smart way of solving problem without much arguments

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libsrocks

@libsrocks

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Posted: 9 years ago

Like others said, Anandi wasn't being mahaan!

Had Anandi said yes to the proposal, we could have termed her actions as mahaan because she would have done so only for her daughter's demand for a father, happiness of BH family members, Nidhi's desire and Anant's feelings! Nowhere would have this proposal been accepted for her own happiness!

@TM: You might think Anandi's refusal for this proposal looks mahaan becaude she chose to stay single and live in memories of her late husband rather than re-marry happily to a living being and have a complete family. While Anandi's choice might look difficult to everyone, its something she finds much easier to do than adjusting herself in a new relationship.

I'm just glad no one forced her for remarriage now! What happened with Anandi (when she was divorcee), Jagya and Gehna was highly insensitive in my opinion! Just because they got good spouses doesn't make the action of forcing your choices on someone right!

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CoffeeCake

@CoffeeCake

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Posted: 9 years ago

All TV bahus are Mahaan, and Anandi is not different from them. Sometimes over mahaanta becomes a headache.

But, Rejecting Anant was a right decision. She has never been lucky with marriage/remarriage. Her first marriage ended with cheating, second marriage didnt last for long, probably end of Anandi is near, even third marriage wouldn't have worked for her. What kind of message does it give? Balika Vadhus are unlucky for marriage.

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Missesha

@Missesha

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Posted: 9 years ago

Anandi wasn't being mahaan this time. She was not emotionally invested into Anant or wasn't looking for a new relationship. So standing up for what she believed, and not agreeing for this marriage, was right on her part.

However, the episode was not convincing, from the stand point that "why did Anandi have to bring Pushpa?"

She could have said a firm No and told Anant, how much she loves her deceased husband, to give his place to anyone. And that should have been enough. Why force Anant to re-unite with his past?

Moreover, if Anandi really wanted to do something for Nidhi and her mother, then why not earlier or later. Why on this occasion, when she thought she might get entangled in a third marriage situation?

Anant, too was quite funny. All along he was day dreaming of Anandi and now suddenly he was happy to reunite with Pushpa. Didn't he require time to reconcile his thoughts, emotions and feelings between two women?

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Finally, one thing is clear; Anandi does what she pleases. So if she is staying in BH sharing the same roof as her ex, it is because she wants it, and not because anyone has forced her.

Funny enough, she doesn't want to give her husband's place to anyone(which is absolutely fair), but doesn't care enough to live in their "own" house where her husband's memories are present. She rather prefers to live with her husband's memories in her ex-husband's house, with him and his family. Then why talk of love and respect for her deceased husband?

On one end, these leads pretend to be pati-vrata, but on other hand they show no respect / dignity for their own relationship

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aparnauma

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Posted: 9 years ago

Anandi loves Dsa.So she is putting Dsa's wishes over her wishes to shift out.

She is not aspiring to take Ganga's place and more importantly she has her own place in Dsa's life.

If she is in love with her husband and content with the memories of that love why should it matter to anyone where she lives?

My question is if this kind of arrangement happens in real life where ex husband and wife end up living under the same roof will people go upto them and tell them what they think of the arrangement?

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aparnauma

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Posted: 9 years ago

I think Anandi playing a role in uniting the couple was on cards but I guess they dragged it for too long and they are in a hurry to wind up the track.

That's why it looks abrupt.

Even from before Anandi had a soft corner for Pushpa. She empathised with the mother in Pushpa more than she empathised with Anant though she was grateful for all the things he did for her.

I think the Voice over in the previous episode said something about wanting to do something for a friend

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Missesha

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Posted: 9 years ago

Originally posted by: aparnauma
Anandi loves Dsa.So she is putting Dsa's wishes over her wishes to shift out.
She is not aspiring to take Ganga's place and more importantly she has her own place in Dsa's life.

If she is in love with her husband and content with the memories of that love why should it matter to anyone where she lives?

My question is if this kind of arrangement happens in real life where ex husband and wife end up living under the same roof will people go upto them and tell them what they think of the arrangement?

Seriously? Do you really think, in real life we will ever encounter such a situation?

Would any woman in Ganga's position, accept to live with her husband's Ex for a life time? Helping someone in an hour of need, and allowing them to haunt your privacy forever are two different things.

Even men in Jagya's spot will not want his ex and current spouse to live together. Everyone likes their space and privacy; but most importantly they don't want their past to surface on their present and future, especially if this past is meant to be forgotten.

Finally, and more importantly, any woman with dignity (who also claims to be madly in love with her spouse), will never go back to her Ex and live with him. There is a reason why she would have chose to end relations with her ex, and then moved on in life with someone else. Why would she want to go back to live with him?

There are times, when a couple may be separated or divorced, but may not have moved on emotionally. In such situations, many times, the couple chooses to date each other once again, and give their relationship one more chance. That's completely acceptable.

But what is it that connects jagya and Anandi , that they are endlessly living together? Do they wish to come back, or do they have common biological children because of whose welfare they have to stay connected? Or is it just the lame excuse of Dsa's request? Because, Anandi could have easily overridden Dsa's demand, just the way she overruled Anant's proposal.

The facts is - It is just Anandi's choice to live there, because she is shameless.

And my question to you Aparna, since you always justify that Anandi is right in living in BH: Would you ever endorse such an arrangement in your own life or in the life of a loved one?

p/s. I don't need you to answer my question in bold. As it is a rhetoric question, paused at womanhood, and not to get into your personal life / zone.

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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Is Anandi living there because of Jagya or is it because if Dsa?

Another question.if Jagya had been living somewhere else and Dsa in Jaitser where would she have shifted to ? Would she have shifted to Jaitser to live with Dsa or where J is living?

Just because J lives there why should Anandi deprive herself of Dsa's support and company?She loves her grandmother just as much J loves his grandmother. Why shouldn't she live with her grandmother

If the involved parties don't think they are doing anything wrong if their hearts are clean they are not answerable to society.

I still don't understand why Anandi should let a marriage which happened way back when she was a child dictate her relationship with a family which loved her very much and cared for her like she is their own daughter and in turn she loves them like they are her own family.

Why should Jagya's presence in taht house be a dictating factor in Anandi's life?.If Anandi wants to shift because she wants more space for her kids or more independence then it is valid reason.

Why should she let Jagya factor dictate her life and the decisions she makes?

Why no one questioned Singhs when they did Kanyadan of Anandi? Why did no one question when they did her bidai after her marriage with Shiv? When Singhs consider her as their daughter and she considers them as her parents why should she not live there?

What is that connects Jagya with Anandi - isn't the answer obvious ? It is Dadisa.

For Anandi Dsa and her feelings matter much more. For Jagya Dsa's feelings are important than what society thinks.

What I do with my loved ones depends on the circumstances and things which are at stake and definitely will not depend on what society thinks about the issue.Nobody is answerable to anybody unless what they are doing is against the law of the land.

I am sick and fed up of this issue.

Tomorrow after Anandi is gone from the show also people will come back to talk about this🤢🥱

**DT NOTE: Comment has been edited because it involves targeting/attacking other members which is against forum rules**

Edited by Yuvika_15 - 9 years ago