Arranged Marriage Help!!!

Ok so my parents have been fighting over family stuff for like the past 7 years but they always end up compromising like nothing ever happened. my dad even tried to commit suicide this summer but he survived. And one of my moms cousins wants me to get married to an relative of hers (hes in the same grade as me and ive seen pics of him hes really cute!and he lives in india and i live in America ) and i said yes to my mom. they are planing for me to get married after im done with college (right now ima senior in HS) when my mom told my dad he was like he thinks its good and stuff and that we should wait till im done wit college. then the next day he comes home and says that the guys relative form somewhere is bad in some way ( i think he made it up) and my mom thinks my dads brother filled his ears cuz he has problems with my family being happy.
SO wht should i do...my says she will talk to my dad about it in about 3 years and shell try to convince him. im ok with this whole thing and i know my dads choices he'll get someone "he thinks is right" and i never agree with him.

What should i do?

First of all, never go against your parents....especially if u do not know the guy very well. Second of all, don't marry someone they like and you don't. You never wanna rush dis stuff. Third of all, get to know the guy as well as possible. Don't just marry him cus ur parents think he is good. If ur mom is ok wid it, tell her to convince ur daddy. But overall, just see what the problem ur dad is having wid the boy and try to clear stuff out. A discussion about it will resolve something. hope dis helped. I know, it is easy to say but hard to do....just try though. Oh...and please don't marry right after high school. You want to get a good education so u can be independent in life.... 😛

Ohhh... maybe ur dad really thinks the guys relatives or somone are bad.... maybe he doesnt wanna rush things right now.. mebbe u shud be patient.. after all parents do want the best for their child and before agreeing to giv duaghter in marriage it is important to look into every aspect of the guys family and everything right... 😊

well i can only suggest is respect ur parents decision.....they will never think wrong for u.........ask ur mom to ask ur dad from where he get the info that the boy's relative are bad and then come to a result that either ur father's brother say that stuff to ur father or really they inquired about the boy.......... u like the guy as he look cute but u didn't write either u ever talk to him to meet him personaly as never go behind a person just coz of his looks........looks is the last thing matter and priority goes with the nature and attitude of the guy

Try to get information then come to a decision

Don't marry a place where u don't want as then u can't adjust and the fact that u don't want this marriage will always influence ur life.....

be happy and keep happy to other

lolz
ana 😳

umm...Ya neva met the dude you wanna marry yet?!
Hmmmm...If I were you I wouldnt go against myyy parents

😳 I a new but i have big mouth , so here goes my little thought,first relax , life has way of working itself out , of course not if you don't do anything but be positive.Your mom will need your support i think ,talk with them figure it out you have till you finish your studies anyway but first do you like the guy,share your thoughts with your mom as an friend she is in a position to advise you better than anyone.
😊 Hope everything works for you.If you want to talk message me.

First very sorry but for some stupid reason i cant p,it says enable java but its enabled and i can post in the forum just not pm,doesn't make any sense to me.Anyways can u send e your ail id in pm, so i can respond,Sorry girl.Be happy and take care.

well my dad has been acting like shit for about 6 yrs now. he actually seems to care more about his brother that lives in india and the one here and doesnt give a shit bout my mom and me and my brother. thts the reason i wnna get married to someone of my moms choice and not my dads cuz if its my dads choice then itll be influenced my my uncles and i dont want that cuz they dont like me and my mom and bro. so thats my reason that i wnna get married to someone of my moms choice. and believe that my dad doesnt care bout us cuz last summer my mom said somthing about him caring too much for his brothers and my dad stabbed himself in the stomach. and that guy seems pretty nice by wht ive heard....

any more suggestions??

Originally posted by: indian_girl89

well my dad has been acting like shit for about 6 yrs now. he actually seems to care more about his brother that lives in india and the one here and doesnt give a shit bout my mom and me and my brother. thts the reason i wnna get married to someone of my moms choice and not my dads cuz if its my dads choice then itll be influenced my my uncles and i dont want that cuz they dont like me and my mom and bro. so thats my reason that i wnna get married to someone of my moms choice. and believe that my dad doesnt care bout us cuz last summer my mom said somthing about him caring too much for his brothers and my dad stabbed himself in the stomach. and that guy seems pretty nice by wht ive heard....

any more suggestions??

aww that sucks! my dad considers his mom more important than anyone...my mom gets really mad at this because she considers his family as her family, but my dad doesnt.! but i really dont like my grandma🤢...i remember when i was little and my brother was like an infant--she would get mad if i even touched my brothers toys...😡( i can barely even talk to her properly now-) Plus my dad barely spends money on us but sends like 1000 dollars to india everytime someone goes to india....but my uncles from my moms side are toooo sweet! once me and my dad got into a fight and my uncle would phone me everyday...he even told my mom that if they cant treat me properly then they should send me to him(he lives in canada)...as for your marriage problem---you shuld get in contact with the boy...find out what he likes or dislikes and what kind of personality he has. Since he's from india, most likely he's going to move here so try to get him to apply for a visa😆

Also you might want to talk to your dad about this--i know it is hard but it is important...or you should just wait 3 yrs and see what the matter is then.You never know if you might meet someone you love...enjoy the life you have now and dont worry about marriage! if your dad still doesnt agree then...welll this one is going to be tough! Hope you marry whoever you like!

luv,

jessie

thanks for advice....but i thinkmy dad would never approve of me getting a love marriage LOL