When love degenerates DTN Pg 3

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Harki and Mangla.

Both showed same traits.

Harki also took care of her own daughter and she gave her special treatment whenever possible. When Kamli openly turned against Akheraj and Kundan, Harki started to torture her own daughter and schemed against her and Pushkar.

Mangala took care of Nimboli as long as Nimboli was loyal to her. Once Nimboli was exposed to anandi and Bh people, Mangla noticed that she will not be the sole person in Nimboli's life. And when Nimboli started longing for anandi and Jaitsar, she became impatient and her love for Nimboli vanished. Nows she can no more love Nimboli. She can only possess her and make her a slave.

How love can degenerate?

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Posted: 9 years ago
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Mangala is behaving like obsessed lover. Come on lady. Get over and get a life.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Whether she is faking or not she is one sick woman.It only proves that the child was not more than a toy to play with.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Mangala and harki's love for their children is incomparable.
Harki never loved kamli in the first place. It is just that Harki never hated kamli either and therefore had no reasons to ill-treat Kamli (like she ill-treated Nimboli).

Harki was tolerant of Kamli only because Kamli was her own daughter and was not a trouble child. But she never really loved her, for her love to degenerate.

She loved her Sa and their son any day more than she loved K. So when she tried to stand up for Kamli once (during marriage with Pushkar days), she immediately stepped back as soon as her Sa got angry with her.

Mothers stand up for their kids in many situations. Harki couldn't stand up even for once.

Both Harki and Anandi are mothers of convenience. Very laid back when it comes to standing up for their children. Although Harki would beat Anandi in her love for Kundan, against Anandi's love for either Shivam or Nandini or Amol.

Mangalas love hasn't degenerated, but it has changed forms.

I will compare Mangala to Waheeda Rehman of Khamoshi (as being discussed on another thread started by Leavesandwaves).

In Khamoshi, Nurse Radha (Waheeda Rehman) also falls in love with her mentally unwell patients (men) twice, which happens due to constant love, care and affection she showers on them. Even though she always knew that she is only their nurse and do not have any "rights" on her patients.

Love is a natural instinct and It doesn't happen keeping in mind the rights one has over another.

Mangala's case is very similar. She selflessly cared for this little innocent life that was brought into her world. Her love for Nimboli was a natural instinct, which got nurtured as 12 years passed by.

One fine day, this biological mother comes from nowhere and M is expected to give up her 12 years of emotions in a go? Yes, love is possessive and it also has expectations.

That is why mothers become possessive when bahus get married to their sons, or women become jealous of other women getting close to her man, or a child is too possessive to share it's mother with other children or even siblings (in some cases.)

Mangala's love for Nimboli was / is genuine and definitely not comparable to Harki's love for kamli
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Mangala never loved the child like she is her daughter.The child was only a companion in her misery.
The child was nothing but a piece of garbage for Akheraj and Harki.So there is no one to claim that child's love Mangala has become sole recipient of the child's affection she was greatly helped in this by Akheraj family.
As long as she is the only person who cared for the child and recipient of the child's love and gratitude she never perceived any threat so she never thought of leaving Akheraj house.
The moment she got to know that CC is the child's mother she perceived threat to her relationship so she ran away.
She knew that the child longed for her mother and family of her own.When she got to know about child's mother she ran away because she knew the child will get everything she wanted from her mother and she also knew that the child will chose her mother over her and that's why she tried to keep the child in dark about her mother and never let Anandi come near her daughter.

Bottom line is Mangala was after something that was never hers to begin with simply because the child herself never gave her that.The child always wanted her mother though she loved her Teesa.

Mangala ignored the child's wishes and that's why she is where she is now.

Anandi didn't claim her child but the child chose her over her Teesa.

Mangala is responsible for her current state in life.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Mangala ran away with the child because she knew very well thequipped child will choose her mother over her.
If she was sure that the child will chose her over Anandi she would have introduced the child to her mother when she finally expressed desire to meet her mother but no she brought in a fake mother to make the child believe that her mother never wanted her.

All these are actions of a person who is in denial and refusing to see the truth staring at her face.

What kind of a mother Anandi is can be made from Shivam's attachment to his mother and how supportive a mother she is can be made out how he would rather have the locket with his parents pictures in them as a source of moral support when his mother was bus with her SN work and couldn't accompany him.

Anandi is very posessive and clingy too when it came to Shivam but she knew well enough not to suffocate het child by acting too clingy.Soon after Nandini's kidnap she was not willing to let her son get out of her sight because she was terrified of losing him.

Anandi was insecure too and feared losing her daughter but she was willing to let her daughter go to Jhalra with Mangala if that's the only way she can be part of her daughter's life .If the child continued to hate her mother she would have been willing to settle for CC and do everything she can for the child.

For Mangala more than child's wishes and future her feelings are important.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Yes, Mangala's love for Nimboli resembles somewhat to Waheeda's unntil she started her manipulations.

The CVs could have made her into a noble soul without making her do all these things.

Harki's is mother's love restricted by traidition, fear and uneducatedness. Could she have defied Akheraj and still alive and remained his wife? I saw nothing but pure love for Kamli until Kamli openly defied Akheraj.

Anandi's love for her kids is like any normal parents' love. It combined with her nature of not being too possessive and not hindering her social work. She allowed Amol to reunite with his parents because she knew he will be taken care of well. She lost Nimboli because she could not balance her work as a social worker and her duty as a cautious mother. She slipped here and was punished. She sent Nimboli back to Jhalra because she thought Nimboli will be safe under Mangala. She would not have reclaimed Nimboli but all those truths about Mangala were dug out and she felt the need to confront Mangala.


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Posted: 9 years ago
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M wouldn't need manipulations had she been of equal status - socially and financially. M does love nimboli - more than even Anandi. Anandi thought about her own acceptance and his the truth. It was M who was worried for child during Ganga rescue. Even though the fake mother did exactly what she told, M had tears in her eyes, there were several occasions to prove that nimboli was like real child for M.
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Posted: 9 years ago
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Gauri had good status and even superior status but she went bonkers.

So was even Sanchi who had everything on a platter, yet she manipulated to the hilt.

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Posted: 9 years ago
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In real life, Gauri wouldn't behave like she did in serial, but a person like M could still behave like that. Sanchi was nowhere, a character so alien - she was there just to glorify the lead. I have not seen a villain like Sanchi.

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