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I am quite a happy viewer today. Because first thing Kaikeyi's problem was her broken expectation nothing hidden about it. When she hears Sita is orphan instead of listening to Manthara she pushes Manthara out and tells such a girl cannot be bride for her Ram. She wants Bharat to be at par with Ram, but as far as marriage goes she doesnt want anything less for Ram.
And Ram when he told that line he knew Mata Kaikeyi will be upset and only if she sees Mithila through his eyes she can be convinced. Saying that he will write a letter to her and asks Lakshman to ensure it reaches her fast.
Ram didnt come for swayamvar, but swayamvar has been done and today Ram displayed not only the qualities of a dutiful son, but also a dutiful husband. Because through his action of convincing his mother, he is ensuring respect for his would be bride too in the family. Dont you want your family to accept your husband or wife.
What does it hold for today's generation. All those people who wants love marriage, mark that sentence. Parents have expectations on their child's marriage. Understand this basic truth. Not only parents, your sister, brother everyone has some dreams for your would be life partner. Maybe your siblings when they see the person whom you love or interact with the person you love they might jell fast. Just like Lakshman jo tarif pe tarif kartha jaata tha apni bhabi ka. Someone will be like Bharath who think you cannot go wrong. If you have choosen you have choosen with level head. Actually even having one person like Bharath who talks so sweetly for your sake is your biggest asset. Never break the trust of such an individual.
But then one parent may agree, other may not. Because some accept the reality for some it is little bit hard to deal with broken expectation.
If you as a son or daughter understand this broken expectation , be emphathic towards it and maybe through a letter or through a heartfelt talk can tell your parent why you have choosen the boy or girl asking them to meet the girl or boy, interact with the family they will budge. After all you are their child. They want your happiness. And yes even during first meeting they will have some crib here and there. If your partner understand that crib and together if you both work in convincing the parent with your loving actions and respect you can easily make a love marriage arranged marriage.
Your mother will be the one boasting around about her new DIL or your father will boast about his new SIL.
So it is for you to decide do you want to rebel. Shout jeena marna saath saath, run away and do a marriage. Or bend a little, put in some effort together so that you have a marriage blessed by elders and instead of dying you can live together.
Anupamaa
Cricket
