Nope...he is not selfish at all but now as per gangaa he is selfish cz this time she's in such situation that she couldn't think accurately..like..she is heartbroken now and that's just bcz of her best friend and the one she thought was her life but now as he is the reason for her pain so obviously she thinks of him not more then a selfish person I think
And now she is in so much pain and sagar as being her friend wants to see her happy and keep telling her to smile, to move on, to this and that etc etc but for gangaa he is her hubby and he rejcted her so she might be thinking that he just wants to control her life according to his own likes and dislikes..and yeah pre-leap..sagar used to decide what gangaa has to do... like...he wanted to play and if gangaa didn't but she had had to play forcefully otherwise she would be thrown out of the house...and sagar sometimes used to call her his friend and sometime maid..not directly but yeah indirectly...mean that he just tried to say this number of times but all of a sudden he stopped but yeah he used to care for her .